how do you know when the time is right to ask the question?

System

.... When your desperate to be his wife/her husband. You can visualize the wedding in your head....Cant wait for the ring on your finger. The thrill of calling her/him your wife/husband.:)

dirty_magic

fizz wrote: »

You are really posting this question on a public forum? Why don't you set up a vote!
If you were ready, you wouldn't be asking and if I were her and read your post....you would be gone!

fizz.x

Give the guy a break, it's a big decision to propose and he's right about the horror stories you hear about bad divorces.

Rebel_Cause

mustang121 wrote: »

Most important of all, the bedroom flame is still a roaring inferno.

Ironically, this may stop when you hear the pitter-patter of tiny feet! :rotfl:

Puttytat

Northern78 wrote: »

You're ready not when you can't imagine your life without her but when you can imagine life without her and your heart sinks.

This!

I met my husband in December, we got engaged in February and married in October so less than 11 months. My realisation was exactly as described above between meeting and getting engaged - my blood ran cold when I thought about life without him in it. We have been extraordinarily happily married for 5 years and look forward to the rest of our lives together. It may have helped that we are older, meeting in our late 30's and so we have lost the impetuousness of youth?
If you feel it's right for you both, stop prevaricating and ask her!

Attain_by_suprise

Dont do it cause you feel the time is right due to the length you've been together. Do it because you love her and see her as the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. And make it romantic

bossymoo

Aww. Sounds like as good a time as any, to me!

So, are you gonna?

Scrapaholic

We met and were married all within 15 months . We were 23 and 24 then and this year is our 39th anniversary . As someone else said , you could be together for many years and it still might not be right . However , by what you say , it looks to be right for you both . You have a ring so you must be quite confident she'll say yes . Let us know what happens , exciting !

mustang121

Thanks for all the replies. I am going to do it soon.


Ideally I'd love to do it in Edinburgh or Cornwall our two favourite places.

Skintski

My husband and I have been together four years and married just over a year.

themull1

My first 'The One' met and married within 7 months

My second 'The Definate One' lived together 12 years, got married, lasted 18 months.

My third 'The Definate Definate one' lived together two years, got married a year ago.

Doesn't matter when you marry, it will either work or won't work, sometimes it will be your fault and sometimes it will be your partners fault if things go wrong. Sometimes you will meet someone else, or your partner will, or you will fall out of love, or you will be happy for the rest of your lives, but you can never really predict it.

If it feels right, go for it!!