New Alcohol self help

feelinggood_2

I'm good thanks Lewt, hows you? No Christmas parties for me this year, realised that most people are very boring when I'm sober. I'll stick with spending time with family instead!

lewt

why not......

i used to say i don't mind where i go as long as theres a drink, im now more interested in having good friends there.....

nickiboop

:j Hi all...

hope all your christmas parties are OK, jsut dropped into say I went to my first ever sober christmas party last night (well since the age of about 16, erm 15 years ago)

And .......

It was really good fun, the food was OK, the company was funny (they were drinking!) and I still danced like an idiot and really enjoyed myself, so today I woke up a bit tired due to the late late night BUT Dont' have a hangover and can actually have a nice day!:j

brodev

One of the nice things about Xmas parties for me is the on going enjoyment that I get from them. I used to forget totally what had happened at them and then was terrified that I had blotted my copybook. I usually had. Eventually I was not invited.
Now I know what is going on and I do nothing to embarrass me or anyone else. I remember exactly what happened and sometimes I have the good grace not to say. I am very popular at these parties as I am always available to drive. My OH (getting in the swing) loves going out and partying and I enjoy keeping her happy.
From a purely personal point of view I still regard them as "amateur's night out"
I am still amazed when I watch other people drink. I identify with those who get drunk. I can understand those who get tipsy, but the ones who always puzzle me are the ones who have one drink and play with it all night. Sometimes they really get on my nerves. It just shows me that I have still progress to make.

Bogof_Babe

Hi friends . I went to a party last night too, at my mum's care home, and it was brilliant! The drinks choices were beer, coke, lemonade or soda water (well they have to be careful with the oldies I suppose) and I had one of everything except the beer :A . I wasn't even tempted. The food was excellent, the keyboard player fantastic - everyone sung along and there was a terrific party atmosphere. All the residents had family there as guests, so it didn't feel like a old folks home. Mum had a lovely time, and it was a smashing evening.

I probably wouldn't have enjoyed myself so much if I'd been drinking - and I honestly believe that.

Keep up the good work everyone, this thread is so supportive and it's great to have somewhere to share our successes. :T

shazrobo

have been through a bad time recently with splitting up from bf, he kept giving me the " i love you and i will change, really made my head so confused as sometimes he was so loving and other times so nasty, anyway had couple cans last night told him it over for good. still hurting but determined to get on with my life, and today is day 1 again of being alcohol free, i will get there eventually
thanks again for all the support from everyone on here
shaz x

brodev

shazrobo wrote: »

today is day 1 again of being alcohol free
shaz x

You and I have something in common there Shaz. I am staying sober today as well. I find that it is not just the easiest way of doing it, but for me I think it is the only way. In the beginning I found that 24 hours was a long time and I did not know if I would survive till the next day. It was suggested to me that all I had to do was stay sober 1 hour at a time, or even less, I thought that they were playing with words, but the funny thing was that, when I tried it, it did help. The truth is that every one of us only has this day to stay sober in. Today be successful.

[Deleted User]

Christmas work do yesterday. In all my previous drinking days, I just refused to go (they interfered with my drinking time that was always behind closed doors at home).

However, this is my first Christmas works do that I've had an invite to whilst sober. So, I decided to accept. I've had a couple of family events that have gone well without alcohol, so I was hoping this would be good too.

Unfortunately, I sat next to a woman who seemed to enjoy putting me down (and thought I was too stupid to notice). It wasn't so much that she thinks I'm a boring old fart for not drinking (that I couldn't care less about), but it was her comments that I've OCD tendancies, have limited/no social skills and that basically she was really unfortunate to be left sitting next to the most boring person in the room/world!

I've no idea where all this came from - she's someone I've liked and trusted for a couple of years. I"m so offended and upset as I don't trust easily. She's hit every raw nerve I've got about my lack of emotional skills and my lack of social skills. She's done absolutely nothing to help me by dissing me about them - what in heaven's name was she thinking?

After 2 hours I walked away from it all. Thank God I managed to get to an AA meeting this afternoon after a 7 mile walk this morning to try and keep it all in balance. I've had a good sob, but I'm utterly out of sync now.

Sorry for the huge post.
Hiphouse

shazrobo

bighugs to you, hiphouse, i dont know why this person decided to put you down, its not fair, at least you made it through and managed to get to an AA meeting. keep thinking bout looking for one in my area, i keep slipping, had couple drinks yeasterday after my exbf put me down again, dont understand why people do it. feeling low again today, as i have had to see him again to ask for my key back.
just dont wanna feel like this no more.
sorry i know i haven't helped, just to let you know that your not alone
shaz x

bookemdano

Deleted_User wrote: »

Christmas work do yesterday. In all my previous drinking days, I just refused to go (they interfered with my drinking time that was always behind closed doors at home).

However, this is my first Christmas works do that I've had an invite to whilst sober. So, I decided to accept. I've had a couple of family events that have gone well without alcohol, so I was hoping this would be good too.

Unfortunately, I sat next to a woman who seemed to enjoy putting me down (and thought I was too stupid to notice). It wasn't so much that she thinks I'm a boring old fart for not drinking (that I couldn't care less about), but it was her comments that I've OCD tendancies, have limited/no social skills and that basically she was really unfortunate to be left sitting next to the most boring person in the room/world!

I've no idea where all this came from - she's someone I've liked and trusted for a couple of years. I"m so offended and upset as I don't trust easily. She's hit every raw nerve I've got about my lack of emotional skills and my lack of social skills. She's done absolutely nothing to help me by dissing me about them - what in heaven's name was she thinking?

After 2 hours I walked away from it all. Thank God I managed to get to an AA meeting this afternoon after a 7 mile walk this morning to try and keep it all in balance. I've had a good sob, but I'm utterly out of sync now.

Sorry for the huge post.
Hiphouse

Keep your chin up This woman obviously has her own insecurities and obviously puts others down to make herself feel better.

This is my philosophy
Work like you don’t need the money, love like you’ve never been hurt, and dance like no one is watching.”

Have a good Christmas. Dan :rudolf: