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Westywoodpecker

brodev wrote: »

How does a bunny say it´s happy?:j :j :j :j :j :j :j :j
1, Getting my house and 2, My AA birthday. 43 tomorrow. quote]

Congratulations brodev on all three !!

annapantscats

Congratulations Brodev........ Wow, 43 years is AMAZING!!

Wishing you masses of good luck in your new home....it sounds blissfull! :T

How is everybody today??? I am still full of a yukky cold, but hunky dory otherwise

feelinggood_2

I'm around. Feeling very up and down at the moment. Suppose I should be grateful that I'm having ups, but its just a bit weird and I'm not used to it. Makes the downs feel worse too.

I'm coming up to 100 days without binge eating, which feels good. 10 months sober now.

Still looking for a sponsor, haven't found anyone suitable yet. I shall keep looking, perhaps I'll find someone eventually.

I chose the readings from 'As Bill Sees It' last night. I'm getting a bit more active, but I've yet to share. I try, but can't seem to talk. I'll hide in the corner for a bit longer.

annapantscats

Feelinggood......

There is no hurry for you to share until you are ready hun. We have 2 ears and one mouth for a reason...... sometimes its better to listen Are you 'sharing' with anyone outside the meetings or online? If you are feeling down it can really help just to let it all out, even if you are not looking for answers or direction. (you cant beat a darn good rant!!).

Dont be down on yourself...... You are doing so well with your sobriety, going to meetings and with not binging. Its okay to have low days, just try to keep telling yourself that they WILL pass if you keep on doing the right things.

Hang in there sweetheart....... trust me, its worth it :kisses3:

feelinggood_2

annapantscats wrote: »

Feelinggood......

There is no hurry for you to share until you are ready hun. We have 2 ears and one mouth for a reason...... sometimes its better to listen Are you 'sharing' with anyone outside the meetings or online? If you are feeling down it can really help just to let it all out, even if you are not looking for answers or direction. (you cant beat a darn good rant!!).

Dont be down on yourself...... You are doing so well with your sobriety, going to meetings and with not binging. Its okay to have low days, just try to keep telling yourself that they WILL pass if you keep on doing the right things.

Hang in there sweetheart....... trust me, its worth it :kisses3:

I talk to people before and after the meetings if they ask me a direct question, but I've not really said much about how I'm feeling and when I'm struggling.

I talk to a few people online, but not really in much detail. I think the problem is that I don't really know why I'm feeling down at the moment, and I'm feeling a lot of feelings all at the same time.

I suppose when I really need to talk, I'll talk. I could probably do with talking, but its not urgent, so I'm not really able to force myself. If that makes sense.

annapantscats

feelinggood wrote: »

I talk to people before and after the meetings if they ask me a direct question, but I've not really said much about how I'm feeling and when I'm struggling.

I talk to a few people online, but not really in much detail. I think the problem is that I don't really know why I'm feeling down at the moment, and I'm feeling a lot of feelings all at the same time.

I suppose when I really need to talk, I'll talk. I could probably do with talking, but its not urgent, so I'm not really able to force myself. If that makes sense.

Yes, it does make sense....but I will say that holding your feelings inside until its 'urgent' isnt usually a good idea for us alkie types . I know what you mean about not even being sure what you are feeling or why you are low, and it can seem easier to just say nothing rather than have to try and explain something that you dont understand yourself (I often have no idea whatsoever what is making me feel c**p....I just know I feel c**p!, and it is seriously frustrating when someone asks 'Whats wrong?' and I cant give them an answer. It can also be quite upsetting and overwhelming.....if you know what the problem is you can go about finding a way to deal with it, but if your DONT know whats wrong it can seem as if the feeling will never go away because you cant sit down and deal with the 'problem'.)

Have you tried writing things down? Or letting emotions out through drawing/painting or story writing? It might sound a bit lame and silly, but anything that gets feelings out of your head can be a huge help.

Anyway....... enough of my mutterings. Today the sun is shining, and this weekend I am working at a Tattoo convention, so that should keep me busy and entertained . Hope everyone is well and trudging that road to happy destiny (whatever the hell that is!!!!!)

ktflosspot

Can anyone join in ?
Sorry to have butted into your thread but it has made me feel so much better typing what I am feeling.Hope its ok X

feelinggood_2

Hi KTflosspot, I'm very glad you've joined the thread, and thank you for posting!

You are more than welcome. Sometimes writing things out does really help doesn't it? I must remember to do it more often.

I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. I can't imagine what you've been through and how hard it must be.

Its good that you've recognised that you aren't really happy with your drinking, that means you can do something about it. Have you talked about it with your husband?

And remember, this is your thread as well Nice to meet you.

ktflosspot

Hope everyone is well
KT x

feelinggood_2

When I first thought I had a problem, people did brush it off a bit. Everyone said that I was young and should be having fun. People only say this because they don't understand what it is like to feel like its a problem. It doesn't matter how much or how little you drink - if you aren't happy with it then it is a problem.

I've found that since I've stopped drinking, people have seen that I am happier and more stable. They understand now that that was the right thing for me to do.

It is frustrating when people don't seem to acknowledge that you are having a hard time, but hopefully in time they will understand and give you full support.

Glad you feel a little better

Not sure if it would be any use to you, but there is a charity called
Drinkline: 0800 917 8282 - they provide advice and information for people with alcohol problems or anyone concerned about alcohol misuse. They can give advice on sensible drinking and information on services to help people cut down on their drinking.

I've no experience of them, but they were recommended to me by my Mum. If you are looking to cut down drinking, they may be able to help.