New Alcohol self help

lewt

gentlepurr wrote: »

for a start off lewt, supporting people is about being able to be here and offer CONSTRUCTIVE support, so dont get knocking me for not doing something. if i dont think i can do it right, i prefer not to interfere at all. unlike some, i dont think i am perfect all the while

HOw do you know what others think ? dangous ground there. or if you really can see others thoughts you could earn a fortune.

i suggest to people what worked for me. i cant see a problem with that. someone posts i make a suggeston or interfere as you call it and its their choice weather to take it.

The poeple that are calling me for it have not asked for support or help.....

It comes back to if your all right what need do you have to make me wrong. ? we have different opions thats fine with me.

Its personal choce of what suggestions people take on board. just because you think something is wrong does it actually make it wrong for that person? this is a public forum and there will be differences of opion i just suggest that we except that and learn to live with it.

I'm glad your back posting on here as you do have a different experience to me and you can help or support people who dont want to go AA or al anon, it wont stop me suggesting it. however that leaves it to the person posting to make the dession and say "thats not for me"

I'm also glad to see the others that have posted last night:hello: all. hi to the newcomers nice to see you why not post a little about your self so we can get to know you

gentlepurr

lewt wrote: »

HOw do you know what others think ? dangous ground there. or if you really can see others thoughts you could earn a fortune.

i suggest to people what worked for me. i cant see a problem with that. someone posts i make a suggeston or interfere as you call it and its their choice weather to take it.

The poeple that are calling me for it have not asked for support or help.....

It comes back to if your all right what need do you have to make me wrong. ? we have different opions thats fine with me.

Its personal choce of what suggestions people take on board. just because you think something is wrong does it actually make it wrong for that person? this is a public forum and there will be differences of opion i just suggest that we except that and learn to live with it.

I'm glad your back posting on here as you do have a different experience to me and you can help or support people who dont want to go AA or al anon, it wont stop me suggesting it. however that leaves it to the person posting to make the dession and say "thats not for me"

I'm also glad to see the others that have posted last night:hello: all. hi to the newcomers nice to see you why not post a little about your self so we can get to know you

I will not be goaded into an arguement lewt. I have said what i wanted to say and i am not willing to protract the issue any further

annapantscats

Good morning gentlepurr......hows your world this morning? :wave:

Edinburghlass_2

Can I just say that this is MSE, not AA or Al Anon and I'm sure they have their own online forums.

Last night's postings was exactly what the thread originally started for on MSE, somewhere where people could post without fear of being judged and hopefully take something away from people's posts that may help them.

No-one need feel they need to ask to join the thread or feel they have to follow anyone's specific path be it AA or eating a bar of chocolate

Please don't turn this into an AA meeting by asking people to tell others about themselves, people can just join the thread and post rubbish especially if it helps if that is what they want to do. Heck we might even have a bit of hymn singing again this Sunday.

annapantscats

Hi Edingburghlass....meant to say Hi to you last night but I was seriously in need of sleep.
Great post....thank you xx

feelinggood_2

lewt wrote: »

Thanks for posting how it went mate, im really pleased for you. you have shown courage in doing what you did last night by going to the meeting.

Do you have a big book now ? did you ever get the audio one that was sending back in jan or whenever it was?

I wish you well in the meetings coming up this week maybe they'll be a slighty different forat but they all boil down to the same thing a bit or a read and a shar then everyoone can have the oppurtunity to talk. dont feel forced to share in the meeting though. it can be good to listen. im sure you had a lot of people speak to you afterwards. so one to one chatting is just as good. nice one feelie.

I've got a copy of the Big Book, going to sit down to do some reading later on, once I've cleaned the house ready for the inspection!

Last nights meeting was a really informal one. We had a chat about the different sorts of meetings, I'm interested to see the other types. This one is very personal - most people don't have sponsors, they just all support each other. They didn't half swear a lot though! They said they felt this was the best meeting for the them to express themselves. I learnt a lot from listening. There was also a guy there I really related too - he got sober at around 20, and has 4 and a half years now. He had a parent in AA too, so when he spoke it really sounded like what I was thinking. I never realised that so many people felt on the outside looking in.

I got the audio book, but I didn't listen to it. Hopefully now I've got someone quiet and peaceful to sit, I'll read the book. I've been avoiding reading for a while, as I always used to smoke while reading. 9 and a half months without smoking either.

Now I just got to find some clean clothes for tonight. Fingers crossed it'll go well too.

annapantscats

Morning feelinggood :wave:

Obviously I dont know you hun, but from what I have read it sounds like you are making some amazing changes in your life!!
Given up smoking, 11 weeks without binging, going to your first meeting when only last week you felt unable to leave the house :shocked:

My hat goes off to you sweetheart..... :T

feelinggood_2

annapantscats wrote: »

Morning feelinggood :wave:

Obviously I dont know you hun, but from what I have read it sounds like you are making some amazing changes in your life!!
Given up smoking, 11 weeks without binging, going to your first meeting when only last week you felt unable to leave the house :shocked:

My hat goes off to you sweetheart..... :T

Thanks Anna

I suppose it just reached the point where I couldn't really go on. I've had several rock bottoms, just wish I could have done everything off the first one, but I've had to have a few more lol. Don't know when I'll feel comfortable being outside, but I suppose I've got to keep trying. Those people at the meeting had something in thier eyes, serenity. I want that

I wish now I'd have taken my Mum's offer up to go to a meeting with her when I was 13. That would have saved a lot of messing!

annapantscats

We all have to do things in our own time hun. Like you I have had many rock-bottoms, and was a serious candidate for AA at the grand old age of 15 (which was when my alcoholic drinking began). But it took me until I was 29 to seriously reach out for help, and I had just turned 30 when I had my last drink. In many ways I wish I had sought help alot sooner (having done alot of damage to alot of people in those 15 years of drinking) but I also have to realise that those 15 years made me who I am today. And I also believe that I had to have every single one of the drinks that I drank, and suffer the consequences, before I was completely ready to try and change my life....or as you put it, reached a point where I couldnt go on.
I still have days when I feel uncomfortable going outside, mixing with people etc. But thats okay. I am not aiming for perfection (because I would never get there) I am just doing my best on a day to day basis. Which, I believe, is all that anyone can do.
Dont ever beat yourself up for what you cant do..... but always give yourself a pat on the back for what you can

feelinggood_2

Progress, not perfection.

Thats what I've got to remember. I remember talking to my mum about something similar a while ago. She has learnt now not to be so black and white. I've got to learn that just because I'm not perfect doesn't mean I'm a failure. Well, I've got a lot of people to learn from now!

Didn't realise how comforting it is to find people who feel the same, I don't feel so alone now.

I think I'm going to ask my Doctor wether I need any tests done, part of me is worried that I may have done a lot of damage, and I think its best I find out so I can deal with it and move on.

Just need to vacuum and then I can sit down and read.

Its been really great talking with you, I think this is what the thread is about