New Alcohol self help

feelinggood_2

I've not had that converstation, because I've not got kids. If I do, I think I'll do what my Mum did, and not hide the fact that I'm an alcoholic, or that I go to AA. I got myself sorted pretty young, because I was aware of alcoholism and what it meant. I do think its an important thing for families with this disease to talk about.

brodev

AFAIK the jury is still out as to whether or not alcoholism is hereditary, although most authorities seem to accept that it is familial. I have not had "the conversation" with any of my children although they were all aware that I was in AA. As I had my children in sobriety they never saw me drinking. I have always been very involved with AA and many of my children's "aunts and uncles" were AA members which meant they were and are very aware of the illness. Most AAs I know have children who drink socially. I know AAs who have children who have drink problems. Some have also joined AA and say that knowledge of their parent helped in decision making but I also know others who are still drinking and in lots of trouble.

Bogof_Babe

Hi all, I'm still on board and taking an interest in all your posts. It's probably good that things are quiet as it means no-one is fighting with their demons too hard, i.e. everything is under control!

I am 32 days away from my first "birthday" and everything is still rosy in the garden, except for having a cold, but the only hot toddy I will be partaking in is Lemsip :A.

I've noticed in recent posts on this thread a few references to life being great without the booze, and people really enjoying the feeling of sobriety and being in control. It would be good to cut and paste those comments into one sheet so that we could print it off and carry it around, in case of needing encouragement at any point.

Life IS good, and I wish every one of us the continued confidence to kick that demon into touch and keep him there.

Bogof_Babe

Does anyone else think those M&S "Night In for £10" ads are irresponsible, as the deal includes a bottle of wine?

I wish they did a "Night In for £5" without the wine, but it's probably the plonk that they make their money on :rolleyes:.

Still I suppose on that basis all alcohol advertising is irresponsible, but the M&S ones grab your attention more because of the gorgeous food they show first.

brodev

Bogof_Babe wrote: »

I am 32 days away from my first "birthday"

October is a good month to get sober in. you and me both:T:T:T

Taffyscot

Bogof has it really been a year since I started reading these posts and reading of your recovery day by day, trying to get through the minutes, the hours, the days? Well done you. 31 days now and counting. When is the actual day? My son was counting 320 days and all of a sudden he stopped counting and all hell broke loose. Then again his counting could have just been more of his lies who knows. Hang in there everyone. Taffy

Bogof_Babe

Hiya Taffy and thanks for the kind thoughts. I had my last drink on 29th October 2007 - the day our last cat was put to sleep . I had a can too many as I was so upset, and had a headache the next morning, which prompted me to tell my husband I was going to have a day or two off the booze. But that day or two turned into nearly a year as for some reason I never felt the time was right to start again.

Funnily enough for the first time in ages tonight I fancied a sherry when I got in from shopping, probably due to the change in the weather and battling against the winds on the way home. I haven't any in though, and wouldn't really have drunk it if we did. There's been a can of hubby's cider in the fridge for a month (I'm in the flat and he isn't here at the moment as he's at home working) but I would never dream of drinking that.

Must go and get a glass of squash and put my tea on - comfort food tonight in view of the autumnal turn. Actually I eat comfort food every night lol . The calories saved on not drinking allows me a pastry fix every day!

Keep smiling everyone, one day at a time is do-able whatever the weather :T.

brodev

I met Taffyscot today at a F2F meeting. It is nice to put a face to someone that I have met on line. In fact I feel like a little boy again as this is a first for me
Here is the link that we were talking about Taffy http://www.stepchat.com/

loopy_lass

after living with my alcoholic partner for a year, i decided to go to al anon, i got stronger and finally told him last week its me or the booze, upto him.... and i ment it!!

well hes only been to one aa meeting thro his own choice, and hasnt had a drink for 12 days now. the home is calmer, the days and evenings a pleasant, how long it will last i dont know.... one day at a time, but Alanon and AA does work!

loops

Bogof_Babe

That's good news Loops, early days but at least he is making the effort. I hope his determination is strong enough to resist the inevitable temptations, and it is encouraging that he has gone to an AA meeting off his own bat.

Do let us know how things go on.