The KonMarie method

MMF007

Well done 'resisters' doing pre-emptive kondo-ing!

I was considered getting a BM a few years ago but was also put off by the space needed and I make reasonably good bread without one (don't make it as often as I would like). Defo not tempted now that MK is working the magic!

Kondo'd the first 200+ miles of the journey home. Weather OK. As GQ pointed out there is so much beautiful colour at this time of year, we have had a lovely scenic trip so far. Britain is gorgeous! :T

have a joyful evening.

M

mavvymoo

Well done for selling the triplet of mine and Mrs Mp's MIL shirehorse :rotfl:£3.50 and with the cart I think someone had more money than sense

Yes iTwin I still have it here

The chat on clothes has got me thinking.I know now why I have too many clothes even if loads have gone.

When I was about 16 years old I started a job in a very posh jewellers. I had no money and lived in a grotty flat.

I had one Purple dress that I wore everyday as I had nothing else smart enough.The manager pulled me in the office one day and said could I please wear something else. I told him I didnt have anything and he said I had to buy something
I remember going bright red and wanting the ground to swallow me up.
I brought a cheap skirt and top and then lived on one Tin of Marrow fat peas a day for a week As I really did not have a penny to my name and would have been far to proud to ask anyone for help.

They never offered to help me in the shop and he knew I was struggling. But he kept me on as I was their best salesperson even though I was dressed very poorly I still sold more than anyone else.

But for me they were really dark days as it was really living from hand to mouth and MK has brought it all back again as your head is clear enough to find your way back to the route of the problem:o

So I suppose its the same as our older parents that lived through the rationing and major hardtimes of the war.

Now I am a good postion with money now I can buy whatever I like and never be in that one dress situation again.Even if I could now manage with just that one dress as I very rarely wear them anyway. But I have a choice JIC

I need to have a think about this and remember I am not that 16 year old girl who had to live on Peas and doesnt need a choice of dresses but its going to take me a while to get my head around it

Mav x

GreyQueen

mavvymoo wrote: »

I need to have a think about this and remember I am not that 16 year old girl who had to live on Peas and doesnt need a choice of dresses but its going to take me a while to get my head around it

Mav x

(((((((mavvy)))))))) you've really drilled down deep to get to the root of the problem. Bless you.

My mother hoards yarn and she knows why. When she was seven she spent nearly a year in a children's home, between being taken from a gawdawful family situation and sent into permanant fosterage out in the countryside. This was London in the poverty-striken years just after WW2. For 'looked-after' children, there was beggar-all. Clothes weren't even your clothes, they were just things of your size that you had until they went through the laundry and then some other little girl would be wearing them and you'd be wearing something else.

She had a self-made toy which was a ball made of wool fragments, knotted together to form a length, to which she'd attach a stick and let it float in a stream, then pull the stick back. And then she was taken into hospital and some adult threw the ball of wool away because, in the eyes of any adult, it was trash. She was devastated by its loss when she came back from having her tonsils out.

It made her determined never to throw away any of our childhood treasures in case the trashy little things were important to us. I had a lot of experience of having my waste-basket frisked as a child and stuff being brought out and hearing you can't throw that away and are you sure you want to get rid of this? Which we reprised last Monday when it turned out that my portable typewriter which I'd decluttered long ago was still on the premises!

Oh what tangled webs.............. no wonder some of us have isshews, to put it mildly.

Rowan9

Really touching stories - thanks for sharing them. It does make you stop to think doesn't it?
Big hugs all
W

wort

Well loft cleared:T now only has 3 bags with 1 Xmas item in each,
1- long legged snowman
2 - wicker reindeer
3- large wooden church with twinkly lights on
Plus an old style wooden wall clock (needs winding) similar style to grandfather clock. This will be kondoed but too heavy for me to get out!

Also cleared 4 boxes from top of wardrobes mostly cards and momentos from kids when little, managed to reduce these to 2 boxes, with 1 containing my wedding dress!
Got rid of 2 sky boxes out of top of wardrobe :eek:
I have now put my Xmas cards and crackers on this shelf, much easier to get at than the loft.
Followed up by cleaning up in readiness for tonight, and a red hot bath, had tea now will wait for guests to arrive, and have a well earned drink or two!:beer:

wort

Just read Mavvy and grey Queens stories, they are very moving and shows how our upbringing and past has such an effect on our present.
Glad we all are moving on and clearing these ghosts out.
Sending hugs :grouphug:

GreyQueen

Yeah, just remembering something else Mum told me about the childrens home; you never had your own toys.

If you were given something, whether is was a comic, or a doll, it had to be put into the shared cupboard and soon got trashed. She had nothing of her own, apart from the ball of wool, which is why it assumed such momumental importance, and why its loss was so terrible.

Gawd, if you wanted to raise a hoarder, you could hardly find a better template, could you? Makes me cry just thinking about it, and wishing my maternal grandmother rot in hell for all eternity for what she did to her three children.

When I tidied Mum's loft a few days ago, a very small amount of yarn came out, some for the knitting project, and some mohair which she couldn't see herself ever using, and which has been donated. I was careful to reassure her that she still has a lot of lovely yarn up there, just waiting for her.

jinny

Very moving stories ladies
You can understand a lot of how a persons character can be formed
Through the treatment of someone so young.

My own mother was left an orphan in 1930. Lots of families lost parents due to the hard lives they lived.
She and her older sister stood helpless while relatives stripped the house of things on the day of thier mothers funeral.
My mother and siblings escaped being placed in a home. Her sister was only 15 but managed to keep the family together with the help of a lovely neighbour

So you can see how our lovely mothers had a fear of having nothing.
It makes me very feel very humble

greent

My food hoarding steams from my childhood - we lived from week to week for my mum's pay day on a Friday - so shopping was on a Saturday. If we ran out of anything (eg: teabags) you just had to wait until Saturday as there was no money to get things in between times (nor was my mum home early enough from work to go shopping even if there had have been any money) Also, there was nothing spare, so no choice of food or any snacks if you were hungry. As a result, I ended up with majorly excess food stocks for a while - I guess I was determined that my children would always have choice/ snacks would be available/ we wouldn't run out (40kg of basmati rice, along with 20kg of pasta and 54 tins of tomatoes & 18 tubes of tomato puree were all in my garage at one point...) I have pretty much got this under control now - I have well stocked cupboards, sure - but no overstocks (well, am still working my way through the rice - about 8kg left!!) x

greenbee

GQ might want to visit this thread to provide enlightment...

My mother has a LOT of clothes. And buys lots of clothes. And buys me clothes. All to do with her mother dying when she was small and not having enough clothes or the 'right' ones as a teenager. Lots of other problems stemming from her father and stepmother disposing of her possessions (in particular things linked to her mother and her grandparents). She's in her 70s now and it's still an issue.