The KonMarie method

iQueen

mrs-moneypenny wrote: »

IQueen, I'm pleased for your friend and hope the trauma can be addressed and kondoed from her life.

Dh asked me last night if I'd finished the kondo malarkey because the house is looking better now. HAHA, I haven't even scrapped the surface. There's the spare rooms, and the attic under the drive the shed and his garage, and I'm sure the areas I've done will all need revisiting.

She's been addressing all sorts of issues connected with the trauma, via her counsellor (and our looooong conversations over the past 8 years! ). BUT, she has now decided to take action, to hopefully find some resolution! Whatever the outcome, I believe she will find some closure. A bit like the piece of the Malaysian plane - not the answer hoped for, but it allows the issues to be laid to rest.

Ha ha, your poor DH! 'Better' isn't good enough, is it? Don't forget to tell him how joyful he is to you! (Just to allay any insecurity!) :rotfl:

mrs-moneypenny

iQueen wrote: »

Ha ha, your poor DH! 'Better' isn't good enough, is it? Don't forget to tell him how joyful he is to you! (Just to allay any insecurity!) :rotfl:

Oh I tell him that regularly. Specially after he got a bit upset when I tried to kondo Valentine's cards (from over 30 years ago) I told him that we didn't need huge cruddy corny cards with badly Drawn cartoon cats on to know how we felt about each other. But I fear judging by his reaction when I dared to suggest it I think he does:eek::rotfl:
The saddest card I've ever seen Was when mil gave me a load of old cards to recycle for her there was one that looked like it was from the 70s with "To Dad. regards, Mum" written in it. She hadn't even written their real names she had just designated them to being my Dhs parents. I am proud to be my children's mum but equally proud to be Dhs wife and ME in my own right I don't just have one identity.

Igamogam

GreyQueen wrote: »

The young woman got so fed-up with being a chew-toy in their ongoing grievances with each other that she told both of them that she'd be spending Christmasses with friends until they could grow up and behave themselves.

We stopped going to 'family Christmases' many years ago.........my family are few and far flung in remote places across the globe. OH's family all live within the M25..........we had lots of invites to spend Christmas with various parts of his family but when children came along and got older we suggested that maybe some members with similar age children come and spend Christmas with us...........'but its such a long way!!!!!!!' went up the cry. Yep exactly the same distance for us to come to you I pointed out. So that was it. Drawbridge up and our little family only for Christmas Day and then friends either here or theirs on Boxing Day. I was so not popular as of course it was all my doing. MIL ( no longer with us)did spend a few Christmases with us whilst she could manage the train and loved it as we always managed to order snow and she waxed lyrical about it to the rest of the family when she got back;):rotfl: I think we are too primitive/unconventional for the within M25 crew which is why they didnt want to "drive for days":rotfl::rotfl: I hope once our DDs have homes/families of their own that we will be sensible about it:(

Got a kondo plan brewing and cant wait to get started. Will explain later.:D

Igamogam

mrs-moneypenny wrote: »

=I'd left it in a bowl of peelings and threw it in by accident.

I do that all the time - peelers,veg knives kitchen scissors! Also prone to lose my gardening gloves in there too. All well and good if not biodegradeable:rotfl:

grunnie

I gave a friend who showed an interest the KM book and today she brought me loads of kntting needles 3 bottles of a certain perfume I adore ( hint hint) and an axe. All welcome items as one of my sons now has a woodburner stove and didn't have an axe. Christmas and New Year every year was me doing all the cooking and washing up while my mum and aunt just watched as they weren't able to do much. Some years it was cooked in their homes but I much preferred to cook in my kitchen. When my 3 sons grew up and all married now were told if they wanted to spend Xmas at their inlaws that was fine by me. We choose a day and that is our Christmas. One of my sons works offshore and we had a Christmas weekend at the beginning of November one year all xmas decs up and santa came for the kids. This last new year was the first time in 42 years that it was just OH and me and we had a great relaxed day and not a turkey in sight. :rotfl:

System

Got lost under the sink in the cleaning cupboard this morning. Theres stuff in there i bought a long long time ago that i will never use.

Its all gone down the sink.... If you dont hear from me again, you'll know the fumes has sent me funny.:D

iQueen

mrs-moneypenny wrote: »

But I fear judging by his reaction when I dared to suggest it I think he does:eek::rotfl:
I am proud to be my children's mum but equally proud to be Dhs wife and ME in my own right I don't just have one identity.

Ah - bless, DH! Still, those V cards will probably fit in a family-size mushroom carton! :rotfl:

The Mum/Dad card reminds me that, during my childhood, many couples used Mum and Dad as titles instead of their forenames! A short step on from calling each other Mr Bloggs and Mrs Bloggs! :rotfl:

Isn't strange how we devise celebratory rituals, often based on our own childhood ones? And what a burden they often became?

Initially, at Christmas, I made everything food-wise, but then I discovered M W@alker's pud! Then a good soft-iced cake. Now, on my own, I use frozen s rolls, and a fruit cake, which I heavily marzipan - no icing, too sweet for me! I eat chicken for lunch (back to my childhood!), but still have trifle at tea-time, made to my Nan's recipe.

But it was the ritual preparations for Birthday Parties that got me - always the same food and The Cake. (I calculate that at 156, including my husbands' and mine! :eek: No wonder I hate chocolate fingers!) The children grew out of that, often 'doing something' with friends or boy/girlfriends, instead. BUT, they couldn't tolerate my not have a Birthday Tea on my day, (which I had to prepare)! I was SO glad when they left home, and I could just slob out with a marmite sandwich, after the phone-calls! :rotfl:

greentiger

Hi. I've lurked and popped in on a couple of occasions. I was laughing over the cutlery stories, because it reminded me of mine. 40+ years ago I got a beautiful set of Viners Love Story pattern cutlery. It was (and still is, sorry) kept for best, ie any celebration, visitors, so it does get used quite a lot. But there is a very, very odd thing, which I can't explain. It's a 6 person setting - dinner knives & forks, dessert knives and forks, dessert & soup spoons and teaspoons. A few years ago a dessert spoon went missing. That's not odd, I hear you say! It happens all the time. Yes I agree. I discovered it when I was setting the table. I laid all the cutlery out, looking for the missing spoon and discovered there were 7 dessert forks! I cannot explain it. I don't know anyone with the same cutlery. Very odd!

mrs-moneypenny

iQueen wrote: »

Ah - bless, DH! Still, those V cards will probably fit in a family-size mushroom carton! :rotfl:

Sadly not, they are those huge about 3ftX2ft Jobbies, that came in coroguatted cardboard 'envelopes'. The envelopes did get kondoed to minimise the space they were taking.

Just had a phone call to say my windows have been corrupted and I have a virus, Ds2 was nearby so I asked would he hold for the IT dept, I got quickly asked if this was not a residence, Before La Laing for a bit then putting DS on, he got told about the virus then said in his best deep voice That he very much doubted it as here at the police station we have very good anti virus and phone tracing technology. Guy on other end went very quiet, then muttering how sorry he was hung up quickly:T:T:rotfl:

yellowbear

We stopped visiting family on Christmas once the kids arrived. It got a bit competitive between my mum and mil as to who could do the best dinner.

I am pooped!

I have done both kids' rooms. There are 2 to a room so it took forever!

3 (the shame!) bags of paper, a bag of plastic and 3 bags of rubbish have been found. I have kondoed a plastic chest of drawers and a bookcase that can no longer be repaired.

Lots of tuut has been binned. I am going to do their clothes within the next week.

You can now walk from one end of the room to the other without playing a Lego obstacle course!

I have, however, found 27 pens!