Wedding invite issue!!!

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My good friend and his wife have invited us to go to their wedding this year and its in another country. We have accepted the invite and paid a small deposit on reserving the rooms for the wedding abroad.

However now my wife's best friend from her childhood has announced she is getting married on the same day as the other wedding and my wife is very upset at the thought of missing out on her best friends wedding.

I feel for her as we have already accepted and booked to go to the other wedding. Its clearly going to cause issues over the coming months as i know my wife deep down wants to go to her best friends wedding.

Would i be wrong to contact the other couple and cancel on them explaining the problem probably upsetting my friend and his future wife???

Nothing is every easy sometimes, i just don't know what to do...

ceecee1

Wouldn't it be easy just to go to one each ? You to your friends and her to hers.

Mrs_Imp

I was invited to a friend's wedding on the same day as Mr Imp was invited to a wedding. We did one wedding each. My friend was fine with Mr Imp not being there and suggested I take a friend as my +1.

Why don't you do go to your friend's wedding and your wife can go to her friend's wedding.

sinizterguy

ceecee1 wrote: »

Wouldn't it be easy just to go to one each ? You to your friends and her to hers.

This seems the most sensible option.

Skintmama

You have asked if you would be wrong to cancel on the wedding you have already agreed to go to. My feeling is that unless you absolutely know for sure that your friend would be okay about this, then yes, it would be rather rude to do so.

It seems to me that either you each go to your own friend's weddings, or you both go to the one you have accepted first in order to be fair to the couples involved.

As you say life is complicated sometimes and it isn't always possible to please everyone. Good luck in finding a solution.

ellesbellesxxx

I agree with others... You could risk causing offence to your friend potentially too.

FBaby

ceecee1 wrote: »

Wouldn't it be easy just to go to one each ? You to your friends and her to hers.

That seems the obvious decision, so I'm assuming that this is not something they are prepared to do, or least one of them?

If that is the case, do take into consideration that this is exactly what most people would conclude, so if you tell your friend that you are not coming to go to your wife's friend's wedding, it is likely that they will feel offended that you can't come on your own even if it would mean a higher cost to attend both.

onlyroz

If your "good" friend is indeed a good friend then you should still go and your wife can go to her friend's wedding. If your friend is just a passing acquaintance then I don't see the problem in cancelling.

peachyprice

Another vote for you going to your good friend's wedding, your wife going to her best friend's wedding. No issue at all.

Is there a reason why you've already dismissed this idea?

neneromanova

Get your wifes best friend to re-arrange it to another day :rotfl:

Timeflies

I agree with the others, it sounds sensible for each of you to go to your own friend's wedding.

However, if your own friend's wedding is very soon,your wife dropping out may cause them issues with table plans, accommodation, personalised items for guests having already been made, deposits already paid, being too late to invite a replacement guest etc. If it's months away, this is not a concern.

A couple I know have over 70 nieces and nephews between them and often do the one wedding each approach, so as not to turn any invitation down.