Mooloo's "Making my future, one stitch at a time"?

duchy

You know it probably isn't the age gap but more the fact that you are streets ahead of them with your own business and always busy. They probably thought you wouldn't be interested. Don\t take it to heart.

Savvy_sewing

ivyleaf wrote: »

Aw, Mooloo (((HUGS))) Perhaps they didn't invite you simply because they knew you wouldn't be able to come?

The fact is that I suppose I should have been able to be the one to say whether I could. Or couldn't go. Not for them to deside that I couldn't.never mind. I suppose I will just go back to work and fill my time accordingly.
( but it doesn't help my feelings).

On the plus side it's been a better day at work with both work in and out.
I had one lady in who had had her dress with a competitor and felt she was being over charged.
I said bring it in,? I will see what I can do. She brought the dress in, asked me how much etc, and I gave her a g
Quote. It turned out to be £30 cheaper.
I got her to come for a fitting.
The work she needs actually was a simple alteration on the central zip. £15
Then she told me that the dressmaker had charged her £60!!!
I'm flabbergasted!

Hard_Up_Hester

I work in an office & I'm never included in things that happen at work, never mind invitations to external events either, I'm not sure if it is intentional because of my age or whether I'm just overlooked. After 11 years I'm used to it, but still don't know why.

Savvy_sewing

Hard_Up_Hester wrote: »

I work in an office & I'm never included in things that happen at work, never mind invitations to external events either, I'm not sure if it is intentional because of my age or whether I'm just overlooked. After 11 years I'm used to it, but still don't know why.

I suppose it is not intentional but it doesn't help when I was already low on self esteem. Perhaps it is an age thing, although in the passed one of them used to work with me at the shop, and she would say that she forgot that I was older than her.
Oh well. Today I will just briefly stop and say hi to them and then dash of to work. I don't want any of them to think I am being funny.

I have a good amount of work to do today. Which is a relief. The bank balance needs it.

dktreesea

I was an older mum who worked, back in the days outside the school gates. Working mums were just seen as a different species. The ones who were stay at home mums would all take themselves and their toddlers along to one of the nicer coffee shops near to the school and have a good natter. those of us who worked would be dropping off our children with a quick peck on the cheeks and straight back into the car to work. The only time I got to know the mums better were if my DD or DS were friends with their children.


The stay at home mums were nice enough, and had partners well off enough enable them to stay at home. They were on benefits/income support or anything like that. Some of them had very nice, fairly recent, 4x4s. But I did once in the while get the feeling of "Oh, you have to work! Poor you. Thank goodness I don't", even though I had a reasonably prestigious job in those days.


It was almost like if you worked you were viewed as being poor, as in poor enough to have to work.


There are parallels to here. Prior to coming home I had lived in places where the self employed got no support at all from the taxpayer so by and large were a well off lot. They needed to be, to keep their businesses afloat. Coming back here, I have been amazed, over the years, how many people assume I am poor, on benefits and unable to get a job in the working for someone else world, just because I'm self employed.


Over time, I have learnt to be grateful for these assumptions, not to mention fleeting meetings at the school gates. I don't want to waste my time or life talking about X factor, Eastenders, celebrity lives, endless gossip about this one and that one from their large loose circles.

Savvy_sewing

I walked into work today instead of standing at the school chatting. Better for me.
I feel better for it, although coming home took a bit of an effort as it is all up hill.
Busy again the last few days.

Savvy_sewing

Today DGD is coming to work with me for a few hours as I don't have a babysitter. One of the after school team is going to take her late morning for me, they are going shopping. While I have 8 little girls for a birthday party. Well a birthday lesson where they will make some bunting.
We have prepared it as much as possible and hope that they will be able to go home with a finished product.
Tomorrow would have been my parents wedding anniversary. So I am going to take Mum out for lunch. Don't want her spending the day on her own.

Eager_Elephant

((Mooloo))


I'm sorry the mums at school have made you feel like this.


I work with a group of women (all for the same company but some of us work from other outreach offices on some days and some are part time so we don't all see each other every day) and I like to think we all get on well but they often go out in the evening and then mention it a few weeks later.
For some reason I always get a horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach about it.


I wouldn't usually go out with them if they asked as I have things at home to be doing, I don't drink much and also we live quite a distance from the town so if I did drink I would have to get a taxi (£20+) or get DH to collect me so why does it bother me?!?!? (I do go on birthday or leaving meals as a whole organisation though - don't want anyone thinking I'm unsociable!!)


Us women are funny creatures!!!!


Hope today goes well.

Savvy_sewing

The birthday party was a great success and lots of little girls went home with some random bunting. They all had their names on but some were rather unusual shapes! But they were happy, and the dressmaker and I are now tired!
But the Mum was thrilled and amazed that we used sewing machines. Although there were a couple of the children who were actually 6 but we managed. ( I usually say 7).
Just waiting now for DGD to get back from her trip to town. Then I can relax and put my feet up at home for a while

Savvy_sewing

Today would have been my parents wedding anniversary so We took my Mum out at lunchtime. DGD actually agreed to wear a dress and Her sparkly shoes her auntie had bought her the other week. Biggest of Mooloo's brought her baby and partner. Dgd2 was with her Dad this weekend.
This evening DGD and I have put together her Ibis costume for tomorrow at school.
Why do I always leave these things to the last minute?
Oh well it's done now.