Mooloo's "Making my future, one stitch at a time"?

Feral_Moon

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Moo loo it's no longer your problem. They have to provide for themselves. Let them get on with it. They will be stronger for it.

Errata

Mooloo wrote: »

Now I need to get DGD up and off to her Mum while I go to work. So an extra 24 miles driving at the start of the day, and as usual a busy day ahead.

You wrote a couple of days ago you wouldn't leave DGD with her mum and the BF that's moved in with her until you and/or your dad talked to them about BF's behaviour. Have they given their word they will shape up and stop telling your DGD nonsense and playing inappropriate electronic games in her presence?

duchy

Maybe this spell of homelessness will have given them the bump they need to grow up a bit.

They presumably have mobiles so can still search the free sites/facebook selling sites themselves.

The Salvation Army often have their own or can point people in need towards cheap second hand furniture so might be a good place to try.

Let biggest be their go to person for now. She'll let you know what you can do to help within your limitations of work , DGD , distance etc - if you let her and don't jump in first.

ognum

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Moo loo it's no longer your problem. They have to provide for themselves. Let them get on with it. They will be stronger for it.

Interesting thoughts that I can't agree with. This is easy to say in principle but as a mother despite my children having their own homes, jobs, lives and independence their problems will always continue to be my problems.

I wouldn't interfere but if they asked for help I would help however I could. I would do this for any of my family and friends because we are a family.

just because your children and grown up and supposedly independent does not stop some of us from worrying and helping. Hopefully if I needed help and support my family and friends would return the love I have given.

So Mooloo, I understand your worry and your restless nights, the concern for you future grandchild and the reasons you feel you have to help where you can. I hope it goes well.

Savvy_sewing

Errata wrote: »

You wrote a couple of days ago you wouldn't leave DGD with her mum and the BF that's moved in with her until you and/or your dad talked to them about BF's behaviour. Have they given their word they will shape up and stop telling your DGD nonsense and playing inappropriate electronic games in her presence?

Yes words were said, reasoning given to them and promises were made.
DGD knows that she must tell me if they ask to keep secrets still etc.
They have been warned that they would loose the access to DGD if it continued.

Savvy_sewing

I am shattered.
It was a long day today, and jobs seemed to take me ages.
On the plus side I sold another sewing machine today.
I will let the kids sort things themselves, but don't want to let it get into any area of lack that could stop them having baby and taking it home.
I don't have funds, but I do have a lot more contacts then I did have six months ago. I even know the Mayoress now !

Savvy_sewing

Morning.
I'm later up then normal, as I was so tired I left the alarm an extra hour. I was up and down in the night still.
My ear has blocked again! It's becoming a bit too often now, where I wake up deaf in my right ear, and my face slightly dropped. So getting through yesterday hardly able to hear was a nightmare. add constipation, and my itching skin to the mix, and you will realise I feel pretty miserable!
The cats are going to have to go sooner rather then later. Even taking anti histamine is not really helping me.
Yesterday I went to Cambridge with a friend to bring back a car for their son who is learning to drive. We had lunch in a tiny back street pub. Which was very good. I didn't eat again in the evening.
I didn't get home until 7ish, and DGD was later in, around 8pm. But at least I didn't have to go and get her.
The Bf discussed games, and I said that not even a PG please. It's got to be she appropriate, so he was looking at a suitable game they could get.
He asked if they were having her when I go on holiday in the summer. I said no, she is coming with me.
Let's just see how they are with her and following the rules!
On the work front, I am still very busy, and need to play catch up- so I am hoping for a quiet day, so I can get on!
Although I shouldn't be thinking that way.

Eager_Elephant

Mooloo wrote: »

So getting through yesterday hardly able to hear was a nightmare. add constipation, and my itching skin to the mix, and you will realise I feel pretty miserable!
The cats are going to have to go sooner rather then later. Even taking anti histamine is not really helping me.
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I know it is difficult to get rid of your own pets but it does appear that Biggest just assumed you would have her cats without considering the impact on you and GD.


If I remember you posted last week to say that she had not provided cat food or cat litter/money for them so you were having to pay for an animal you don't even want.

No one ever seems to consider your health and the impact of their actions.

If her tenancy agreement stated no pets why did she get some?
Is there any way she could offer a further deposit to cover any damage the cats might do?

When I rented a different house we had to pay an extra £50 deposit per cat and also had to agree to have the house fumigated before we left.

Sorry if this sounds harsh, I am an animal lover and currently have 5 cats and a dog (plus numerous live stock) but they are my responsibility and no one else's.

Good news that DD's BF asked about what games were suitable - there are usually some U games for Xbox, Wii and PS3's so hopefully they will find something suitable although I am sure they can find board games or other activities for her to do.

Savvy_sewing

non of us knew that I would be allergic to the cats. I used to have cats of my own years ago. So that's not her fault.
My daughter didn't realise they couldn't have cats and as the house already had a cat flap assumed it was ok. I know she should have checked first, but she didn't.
No she hadn't brought food etc again yet, but has been so busy supporting her brother and his girlfriend I didn't want to add to her stresses. Her job is demanding enough, her partner is often working abroad and she is left holding the fort, and even looking after his daughter when he is away and it's his turn for the weekend etc.
She has my phone contract, so I will ask her to pay that this month in return for the cat stuff.
But I will tell her they will have to go sooner rather then later. I believe DS and gf are possibly going to have them. I will check.
Work is rediculously busy, which is great, if a little scarey!
I sold another sewing machine today. So that is 3 machines and 2 overlockers this last week!
I did an hours overtime this evening while DGD was at Brownies. Was going to do more but took ages doing my Asda shop on line. So too late.
Time to sleep I hope.
Night.

carolan78

Your ds needs to check with the local council reharding a grant. Ours have welfare grants (basically the old community care grant) and they will provide upto 4 items for the house.

They have criteria but they'd qualify here because they've been homeless.