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Hello anyone who can be bothered to read this. I have been here before and found the advice overwhelming. I filled in a statement of accounts (not sure if that is correct) but find the tech stuff a challenge.
Money is not just money ...it is tied in to my past ,my future,my beliefs and my emotions. Just never get a handle on it.
Husband earns good salary,no huge debts but always on the edge, in the overdraft
Money is not just money ...it is tied in to my past ,my future,my beliefs and my emotions. Just never get a handle on it.
Husband earns good salary,no huge debts but always on the edge, in the overdraft
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Hello
I am the same
OH is unwell and can't cope with money (although he can manage to spend it) so I have to do it all,
We have around 20,000 debt :eek::eek::eek::eek::eek: but he doesn't know and I try to pretend we don't to myself
He doesn't work due to ill health and my wage is okayish but I don't know where it all goes?????
2015 will be the year I get this sorted!!!!
Have attracted a spreadsheet to track finances, just need to fill it in now!!!!!!Go hopefully into each new day, enjoy something from every day no matter how small, you never know when it will be your last0 -
I dunno gnomey....I could spreadsheet for the next 10 years it goes deeper than that0
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Yes OP it does and I have struggled with money for years...buying stuff to keep everyone one happy and then getting into debt...I started to sort myself out a bit after reading the book your money or your life...then finding these boards. The book helps you get to know yourself and your money attitudes better and try out things that will help. I have tried spreadsheet s but without much success! You need to figure out why you get into a mess in the first place....
You can do it but don't expect it to be an instant fix...:oEvery Penny's a prisoner :T0 -
its like anything its baby steps.
Don't try and change to much in one go.
First thing to do which is very boring get bank and credit card statements for the last couple of months. And look and see if there is a pattern to why and where you are spending.
Do you spend when bored or lonely?
And then go from there. Maybe look at taking out the money you need in cash. Or say you will have X amount of Non spend days.
All the best
Yours
CalleyHope for everything and expect nothing!!!
Good enough is almost always good enough -Prof Barry Schwartz
If it scares you, it might be a good thing to try -Seth Godin0 -
I've been clear of mortgage for years now and of debt for quite some time.
One way that I find helps me to keep on track is to ask myself "Am I financially straight yet?". By my age (60s) I certainly should have been for some time:(:mad:. However, the facts are that I'm still working on getting to be (ie having the money to get my recently-bought second house completely finished and getting my savings back up again0.
So, I have, for some time, kept a list of what is still required to be "financially straight" and roughly how much it will cost written by each item on the list.
I keep that list written down in my diary and remind myself of it frequently and it helps give me the incentive not to just blow money, as I think "...and the next item on my list is....".
It's unnerving at my age to think that list is still over £20,000 long, eg:
new kitchen = £5,000-£8,000
sofa = £1,500
but it does help a lot to keep me on track and coping with the "By my age I should have....." blues and think "Yep...I know I should....but this is how it is, ie that I'm still working on it....".0 -
thanks all very useful tips. I have done the statement of money in and out many times but no progress.
It is said doing the same thing and expecting a different result is insanity!
Need to get a grip and be honest.0 -
Do you know why you spend your money? Where does it go/on what?
Sometimes, until we understand why things happen the way the do, the harder it will be to fix the source.Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
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I am the same so its cash only this year.Mortgage and Debt free but need to increase savings pot. :think:0
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It goes on food a lot as in a perverse way I regard being frugal with food as something other people do.
It goes on my 2 kids who are at Uni,constantly.....need to try and sort that out.
It goes on stupid things to make myself feel better in the short term.
It goes due to lack of organisation and focus and boredom.0 -
It goes on food a lot as in a perverse way I regard being frugal with food as something other people do.It goes on my 2 kids who are at Uni,constantly.....need to try and sort that out.It goes on stupid things to make myself feel better in the short term.It goes due to lack of organisation and focus and boredom.
I hope this helps a bitBe who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
Personal Finance Blogger + YouTuber / In pursuit of FIRE
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