When do you stop giving Christmas presents?

SingleSue

I will buy for my nieces and nephews until they have their own children and then I will buy for their children, if they don't have little ones, then I shall just continue to buy for them.

My oldest niece is going to be 18 3 days after Christmas and she has been included as per normal.

notanewuser

We don't buy for any adults, and only 2 or 3 of our 5 nieces and nephews (aged between 1 and 3). I'd be extremely surprised if we're still buying for them at 18.

DD (4) only gets token gifts from us and grandparents. We don't do santa (or xmas, really).

silvercar

My kids have a great aunt who has grand rules about present giving that she devised to be fair to all concerned, so my boys (now 24 and 20) get a little net of chocolate coins. Something to do with the number of people on our side of the family that she buys for, their relationship to her within that group, who has kids of their own and who doesn't etc. Causes great amusement, especially as they were on the Terry's chocolate orange tier a few years ago until demoted.

onlyroz

Quizzical_Squirrel wrote: »

I stopped when each child stopped personally giving presents to me.

When that first single present arrived that was signed from the entire family rather than the previous multiple small gifts from its individuals, then it was all over.

Indeed. To all the people who have replied saying that they still give their adult nieces and nephews a present or money, do you get anything back from them? I know you don't give to receive but I would be unhappy about giving an adult a present who I know had no intention of ever reciprocating.

JIL

I have 16 nieces and nephews. I tend to get chocolates and give a card with some money in it to the ones under 18. But I hated leaving the older ones out and give them a card with a Starbucks/nandos voucher in it. They are at uni so I hope it comes in handy. I don't know when I will stop. Ironically their parents no longer give to our adult children.

VfM4meplse

LEJC wrote: »

I tend to buy a collective gift of chocolates/biscuits/sweets etc which I then make sure is at my SIL house for all the neices and nephews to have a little of whilst they visit over christmas....my neices and nephews are now all in their 20's,some with kids of their own...


However what does niggle me is there is never a thank you or even a christmas card in return..same for birthdays..i send but nothing is ever received....

Is your gift not even acknowledged in a telephone call? If not, that really is taking you for granted or simply not appreciating your gift. It would make me wonder if SIL has not bothered to mention they were from you, or has been spiriting away / re-gifting without their knowledge?

*max*

notanewuser wrote: »

DD (4) only gets token gifts from us and grandparents. We don't do santa (or xmas, really).

I doubt there is a regular member on here who does not know that, tbh.

I'm still looking forward to the "anything to do with Santa" thread that goes on for 15 pages. I've bought the popcorn.

rachiibell

It really depends on the family circumstances. On my mum's side me and my sister are the youngest so tend to still get christmas presents even though my mum stopped buying for my cousins when they turned 18.

However on my dad's side we are the oldest and presents stopped at 18. My youngest cousin on that side is much younger than us and will probably end up getting presents from all his big cousins and their parents for much longer.

The way I see it is I enjoy giving people I love presents so if I can afford it then I will.

clairec79

I think it depends on each family (and potentially down to the size of those families)

My dad's family I never remember getting presents off of aunts and uncles (there are over 30 of first cousins), my mum's we did until we were 18 (only 9 cousins) - now just cards, my husband's family he has one aunt and she still buys presents for everyone - but there are only 3 of them and she doesn't have children

BrassicWoman

when they stop sending thank you letters.