Hurt and frustrated

JIL

*max* wrote: »

It's not often I agree with Tbeckett (or whatever their username is. ). But here, I definitely agree. I was very close to my mum as a teen, even though I moved away at 17 for a french prep school. I'm still very close to her.
What I know, though, is that she would never have worried about me not being invited to a wedding to the point of posting a thread about it (even if there had been such a thing as the internet then!). It's not "worrying". It's life. It happens.
He was not invited to a wedding most of his team mates were. Alright. You can make a massive deal out of it, and he'll forever be known as the cry-baby who told his mum. Or you could do nothing. (which it is - nothing, in the grand scheme of things) and let him deal with it.

He's 20, let him grow up.

I think as a parent you do always worry about your children, if someone hurts them they in a way hurt you too.

I understand where the op is coming from, would I start a thread about it, myself? probably not, but then the op was only canvassing opinions as to how others would feel. Its good to get some independent input.

My eldest two left home at 18, it doesnt stop me thinking and worrying about them. They have told me about on a number of occasions, scenarios where I felt they had not been treated fairly, i couldnt do anything about it and it was a good learning curve for them. However it did not mean I could shut off that protective parent instinct.

mgdavid

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why are you getting involved with this? Let your adult son run his own life. If you haven't before, you should start now.