NOT BUYING IT! 2015 - A consumer holiday

Possession

Well we attempted more decluttering today, a boot full of things for the tip and a back seat full of stuff for the recycling shop there, except that they wouldn't accept most of them. The only things they accepted were 2 old skateboards. Everything else was turned down, including a brand new disneyland photo album still in the wrapper. DH is now so fed up of them rejecting stuff that he won't take stuff there anymore.
Very small grocery spend yesterday on some milk, eggs and sweetcorn, and £6 for DD to go to the school panto and buy some treats there.

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Thanks for that GQ. I believe you are right and a black jacket will be all that I need to add, note add, so no point dithering and I will start looking out for one

Yes me too re lottie clothes and am about similar. I have lots of good t shirts, still unused but they will just have to remain in boxes for a year or two. One year and they are out anyway and recycled as cleaning cloths for dh`s bike. I must be patient re my clothes

Today I will just take another teeny step and will put the votives into the cs shopping trolley and will assemble the two `new` daily outfits. Then relaxation as I am still nursing my shoulder, which has now regained the full range of movement, after going through a bit of pain when I bit the bullet and started my own rehab. I am realistic and am expecting this ache to last for several weeks. I am sure that I earned the painful shoulder when I lifted something very heavy down from above me

Bambywamby

PenguinOfDeath wrote: »

Evenin' all!!





I also learnt this week that its OK to get down to the last loo roll before you buy some more!! It used to be something I would stockpile as much as feasibly possible but I was brave, lasted out until I needed to go shopping, and no-one was harmed during the experiment! Who knew?!

I'm currently down to my last two rolls... I am almost sweating in anticipation to buy more. It's one thing I wouldn't want to run out of. :eek:


I think I my have to create a small, 'on offer' stock pile.

Slowdown

What ho me hearties!

Yesterday was a pleasant almost no spend day. I had a nice cuppa with a friend, she paid! Good natter as I haven't seen her do a while.

Did a few home jobs but also lazed around a good deal. I hurt my back a couple of days ago and it wasn't feelig so good but it's better this morning.

I spoke to a friend a while ago about my playbacks in my head. She said her counsellor had called it ' monkey chatter' and apparently we all do it to a greater or lesser extent. I suspect those of us who do it more are those who have the least control over their position. Most of my monkey chatter is based on work related issues, with one or two ore family/friend based ones thrown in. They are generally negative and quite exhausting. It can be controlled by recognising when you are doing it and acknowledging the feeling and moving on. Sometimes when I've been unhappy at work I have actually listed what is and what is not in my power to change and then tried to focus on that which I can influence. Monkey chatter hasn't stopped but I am beginning to control it a bit better.

It's also interesting how ours experiences shape us. My mother was very, very parsimonious and nary an unworthy penny left her purse. Whilst I admire frugality, is was done with an air of 'you don't deserve to spend on yourself', you are not worthy.' I have found this has affected my spending habits greatly and have often found it difficult to treat myself. I have bought for the house and the kids and OH but not so much on myself. I have bought things, felt pleased with my purchase, then felt guilty and taken it back. I am better and more balanced the I used to be, thanks to some good coaching from my DH.

Something currently shaping my thinking is down to a more tragic circumstance. My friends DD aged 27 is terminally ill with cancer. She is in hospital, dosed to the eyeballs to keep the pain at bay, head shaved and painfully thin. She has 2 young children and the whole story is incredibly tragic. It is the same cancer my DH was diagnosed with five years ago. He had a relapse 18 months later but has since been healthy. I can only feel like we are the luckiest people on earth at the moment as this type of melanoma is an aggressive killer and my advice to all is get that us cream and those glasses on. A tan is not worth it.

I'm really sorry if I have upset anyone by mentioning this. It's just that it has made me understand that life is short and you simply don't want to fill it with useless stuff when you could be filling it with beautiful moments with your loved ones, with nature and with yourself.

It's a beautiful day here and I intend to drag DH out for a walk amongst the trees while exuding gratitude to my crew mates and the world in general.

Have a peaceful and joyous day

Kind regards
Slowdown:)

Karmacat

Nargleblast wrote: »

For years I thought my habit of replaying situations and having imaginary conversations in my head was part of my eccentric nature, but now I find lots of people do it. Either we are all bonkers or it is normal human behaviour, part of the way the brain makes sense of experiences.

So, a suggestion. You know how you often feel better after a good cry?
Then let it all loose. Next time something that happens winds you up, get yourself on your own at home. Set an alarm clock for, say, fifteen minutes or so. Then let rip. Replay that scene in your head, this time adding the bits that should have happened. Let your inner drama queen loose, see your enemies grovelling at your feet after you have attacked them physically and verbally, see everyone watching and admiring you. Let the tears of anger and frustration out, think of it as poisons being released from.your body with every tear.

Nargleblast, I'm really glad somebody broached this, I was getting a bit uncomfortable. I'm sure its part of the human experience to do this - we may do it too much now, because we have such high standards for ourselves, but I'm sure the process itself is just part of being human. **After** the emotional release suggested by Nargleblast, there can spontaneously be a message from my own subconscious: I was expecting them to do things differently from previously without speaking up for myself/ she's just like my mum/ I treat myself like that sometimes/ my neighbour's been that rude to me and I kept the peace. Its really helpful - just speaking from my own experience here.

Bambywamby wrote: »

I'm currently down to my last two rolls... I am almost sweating in anticipation to buy more. It's one thing I wouldn't want to run out of. :eek:

I'm prepared not to buy another 9-pack until I broach the next 9 pack, but thats as far as I'm going to go :rotfl:

Slowdown wrote: »

I'm really sorry if I have upset anyone by mentioning this. It's just that it has made me understand that life is short and you simply don't want to fill it with useless stuff when you could be filling it with beautiful moments with your loved ones, with nature and with yourself.

It's a beautiful day here and I intend to drag DH out for a walk amongst the trees while exuding gratitude to my crew mates and the world in general.

Lovely post, Slowdown, I'm finally understanding this myself, very late, but not **too** late.

Slowdown

Unfortunately DH not in the right state of mind for a walk through the woods. Sometimes I would let this get to me and not go, feel let down and like he can't be bothered with me. However, I do know this is not the reality and he has his own stuff to deal with and so I have a different mind set today.

Today I will enjoy a walk alone. I shall admire the forest in winter, smile at passers by and count my blessing for they are great in comparison to many. I might even sneak into a lovely country pub for a quiet drink on the way home. I am not one to be embarrassed by this. I enjoy real ale and a pint of broadside on a Sunday lunchtime is a proper, proper treat!

Enjoy your day sailors.

Kind regards
Slowdown:)

76rosie

Slowdown wrote: »

What ho me hearties!

Yesterday was a pleasant almost no spend day. I had a nice cuppa with a friend, she paid! Good natter as I haven't seen her do a while.

Did a few home jobs but also lazed around a good deal. I hurt my back a couple of days ago and it wasn't feelig so good but it's better this morning.

I spoke to a friend a while ago about my playbacks in my head. She said her counsellor had called it ' monkey chatter' and apparently we all do it to a greater or lesser extent. I suspect those of us who do it more are those who have the least control over their position. Most of my monkey chatter is based on work related issues, with one or two ore family/friend based ones thrown in. They are generally negative and quite exhausting. It can be controlled by recognising when you are doing it and acknowledging the feeling and moving on. Sometimes when I've been unhappy at work I have actually listed what is and what is not in my power to change and then tried to focus on that which I can influence. Monkey chatter hasn't stopped but I am beginning to control it a bit better.



It's also interesting how ours experiences shape us. My mother was very, very parsimonious and nary an unworthy penny left her purse. Whilst I admire frugality, is was done with an air of 'you don't deserve to spend on yourself', you are not worthy.' I have found this has affected my spending habits greatly and have often found it difficult to treat myself. I have bought for the house and the kids and OH but not so much on myself. I have bought things, felt pleased with my purchase, then felt guilty and taken it back. I am better and more balanced the I used to be, thanks to some good coaching from my DH.



Something currently shaping my thinking is down to a more tragic circumstance. My friends DD aged 27 is terminally ill with cancer. She is in hospital, dosed to the eyeballs to keep the pain at bay, head shaved and painfully thin. She has 2 young children and the whole story is incredibly tragic. It is the same cancer my DH was diagnosed with five years ago. He had a relapse 18 months later but has since been healthy. I can only feel like we are the luckiest people on earth at the moment as this type of melanoma is an aggressive killer and my advice to all is get that us cream and those glasses on. A tan is not worth it.




I'm really sorry if I have upset anyone by mentioning this. It's just that it has made me understand that life is short and you simply don't want to fill it with useless stuff when you could be filling it with beautiful moments with your loved ones, with nature and with yourself.

It's a beautiful day here and I intend to drag DH out for a walk amongst the trees while exuding gratitude to my crew mates and the world in general.

Have a peaceful and joyous day

Kind regards
Slowdown:)

Work and my power hungry bully boss also affecting my life.

Now have to find strength to write a good positive cv.

Going to have a chill out day as blood pressure has been very high.
Have to go back to work tomorrow.

Never feel like spending money any more either. My health is more important than things.

Prefer to save money for a cheap sunshine holiday or a day off when needed.

calleyw

Nargleblast wrote: »

For years I thought my habit of replaying situations and having imaginary conversations in my head was part of my eccentric nature, but now I find lots of people do it. Either we are all bonkers or it is normal human behaviour, part of the way the brain makes sense of experiences.

OMG I do that. I thought it was me and I was a bit strange!!! Glad to hear I am normally than I think.

So, a suggestion. You know how you often feel better after a good cry?.......

I have not done that before but think I will from now.

Thanks so much for making me feel more normal now what ever that is :rotfl:

Yours

Calley

Busymumofthreeplusdog

Today I claimed £27 from cashback site(11 months worth of buying) and £10 from survey site (that's £30 in a year). I've claimed both in Amaz*n vouchers as I know i will be able to buy birthday gifts over next few months. The cashback was mostly from things I would have bought anyway e.g LED light bulbs, car parking for hols, Christmas gifts. I'm afraid I do use Amaz*n a lot as we live in the sticks and I don't particularly like shopping anyway.
In terms of NOT BUYING, I have been taking lunches to work, scrutinising my shopping and generally avoiding shops where possible. It will be an ongoing battle, particularly with DH, who feels the need for constant 'treats'.
So onwards we go...

Rainy-Days

PenguinOfDeath wrote: »

I also learnt this week that its OK to get down to the last loo roll before you buy some more!! It used to be something I would stockpile as much as feasibly possible but I was brave, lasted out until I needed to go shopping, and no-one was harmed during the experiment! Who knew?!

Got down to our last supply of Andrex loo rolls yesterday and decided to kick them into touch. Went into Farmfoods this morning and bought a huge whacking pack (18) of the Nicky Elite loo rolls which are far superior to the Andrex and considerably cheaper too. I used to get them from Netto, but when they shut we did not have a Farmfoods local to us at the time!

Also switched the expensive Plenty kitchen towel habit as well, I will still buy them but use them for the heavier jobs, got the Nicky jumbo kitchen rolls for the silly everyday stuff and hopefully that will make the Plenty rolls last out that bit longer!