Introduction/welcome card to neighbours?

PasturesNew

There's a possibility nobody else owns - and everybody else is 19-21 and renting.

nobodysdriving

Lord_Baltimore wrote: »

Don't answer that OP; he lives at No 9

no, just my name and the flat number I live at

I don't think that's giving any 'secrets' or information which would put me at risk, after all they may be accepting one of my deliveries from postman when I am out so they will still find out my name eventually

moneyistooshorttomention

Think that's pretty much the consensus then, ie for card, but not present.

I think it's nice someone is trying to initiate a friendly/helpful atmosphere to start with. It has to be done in the right "tone", ie of "hopefully we will all be friendly together/help each other out in a relationship of equals who consult with each other about communal things".

I was hoping that was how things would be in the road I have moved to recently, but found that the "atmosphere" had already been set of "WE decide and you go along with....." and they weren't willing to treat me as the equal stakeholder I obviously am. But things are rather different in my set-up because the others in this road are longstanding "locals", whose focus (I would think) was more along lines of "YOU fit in with us", rather than "You decide too, along with us". So, its back to typical British reserve and "This is mine and that is yours" and arms length. Fingers crossed that things will change soon (ie when some of the houses change hands) and we can have a more "mutual equal stakeholders" atmosphere here with the new people.

But, if someone can set an "atmosphere" of mutual co-operation between equals and all stakeholders having their equal say in things/help each other out then I think that can only be a good thing.

scotty01

Totally agree with a card, it's a nice gesture, simple and easy. in my opinion personalised ones are a bit much but thats your choice.

Present is a definate no.

dirty_magic

I'd go for cards but not presents too. I think it's really sad that some people would think it's creepy!

I'd be happy personally and glad I was living near nice people! I think it's a shame we don't have the community spirit we used to have, my Nan used to know everyone in the street and she'd always ask the older people if they needed anything when she went shopping. It's completely different now the older generation have died and younger people have moved in!

kitty_kins

Cards sound like a great idea we moved into a new development back in June and one of our neighbours has taken to being the one who does things like this (which is lovely!) She had a housewarming party a few weeks after we had all moved in which we were all invited to and she is having a Christmas party too

It's a lovely way to meet everyone, and might be a bit more fun than just a small gift

EmmyLou30

I personally wouldn't bother with a gift but a card is a really nice idea. You sound like a perfect neighbour to me :-)

borkid

A lovely idea. When we moved into our new build house we were the first in of the second phase build. When a new person moved in we would knock and say 'hi do you need anything/ you can use our phone/ internet if you need to until BT connect you' We also invite them around for a drink after they've been in a few weeks. It doesn't mean the neighbours will always be popping around but at least they know if they need help they can ask and they have occasionally.

Also if you are friendly from the beginning it will help with disputes, for instance if someone is playing their music too loud you could pop around and ask for them to turn it down a little without being thought of as a 'moany old woman'!

Lord_Baltimore

One thing I've noticed is that the OP, nobodysdriving, has thanked everyone in this thread for their comments.

Nobodysdriving, you are clearly a very nice person and I think your neighbours are truly blessed. I hope they appreciate you. Good luck in your new home

nobodysdriving

Lord_Baltimore wrote: »

One thing I've noticed is that the OP, nobodysdriving, has thanked everyone in this thread for their comments.

Nobodysdriving, you are clearly a very nice person and I think your neighbours are truly blessed. I hope they appreciate you. Good luck in your new home

aaaawwww

thank you, I 'do' really appreciate everybody's comments, I see the majority would prefer just a card, that's the way I will go, I don't want to 'intrude' on anyone in my new home and equally I'd like them to know I am keen to establish positive neighbour relationships where hopefully we will sort out each others differences amicably and support each other whichever way we can.