Helping a Friend In Need

Orlando_Virgin

Thanks for all your views and input on the situation guys and gals.

I suppose my initial question should've been more, "what do I need to consider here before he just moves in?" rather than anything else.

To answer a few people, no I am not friends with his wife. I met my friend at work, and whilst I have met her at a few functions/do's etc. there is a very clear line. We've always been a sounding board for each other about this kind of issue. So I have no worries about being in the middle of anything.

But some of the questions around kids, time constraints, the friendship turning sour if not sorted, bills, space issues etc. are all brilliant points that I should consider.

FWIW I have been friends with him for nearly 9 years now and he's very intuitive, and we've always been pretty honest with each other.

They are not even speaking at the moment, and I am away for the weekend. So I said he could stay at my house for the weekend and ONLY the weekend, whilst he gets some breathing space and thinks about what he is going to do.

Marisco

Maybe you could say to him that he can stay for a month, whilst he looks for a place, and you could help him to look for somewhere. Also make plain what you expect re the kids, personally I couldn't be doing with 2 small kids running around my flat, so I'd rather say so from the onset, than sit there seething. Plus it will be an added incentive for him to find his own place, if he cannot have the kids overnight in your place.

If I could afford it and didn't need the money, I wouldn't charge him "board", he's probably leaving the marital home with sod all, so he'll need every penny for upfront costs of getting his own place. Anything that makes that easier for him has to be a bonus for you as well.