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How much to give on a birthday?
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So his gift to you was him getting laid on a plane. If any guy offered me that, he would be packing his bags! He must have very little respect for you if he believes that is a gift.
This is just plain nasty, and absolutely unnecessary! LilElvis's husband treated her to a trip to CALIFORNIA for her birthday and took her for a plane ride over San Francisco. Didn't mention that though did you?
Nooo, you just chose to make what he did sound dirty and nasty, like he was doing it to satisfy his own carnal needs. Good grief! Some people! :rotfl:Person_one wrote: »You'd think receiving a gift you're not that keen on was some sort of terrible hardship or trauma from some of the posts on this thread!
PMSL! :rotfl: You are just blowing things out of proportion, seeing things that aren't there, and making out people are saying things they haven't said! Hark about over-exaggerating!
It's just futile to give someone something that they don't want. Why on earth would you not want to give someone something that you know they will like? Or with you, is it a case of 'if they don't like it, tuff t1tty!'moomoomama27 wrote: »It is, but surely the person choosing the present to give, should give something the recipient actually wants? Otherwise it's a waste of money.
I'm genuinely surprised at the thought of someone being offended by being given money or a voucher!
Same here. Some people are just plain ungrateful. Many people get nothing at all from ANYone for their birthday, and yet people say they are 'offended' at being given a voucher or money. How incredibly ungrateful, and how incredibly rude!Proud to have lost over 3 stone (45 pounds,) in the past year! :j Now a size 14!
You're not singing anymore........ You're not singing any-more!
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It's just futile to give someone something that they don't want.
Some people do not want to recieve money as a present - so why would you give it to them? The point is not that money is a bad present all the time, rather that it isn't always a good present, just as a bottle of wine or chocolates are not right for everyone.Why on earth would you not want to give someone something that you know they will like?
A gift should suit both the giver and reciever and there are many reasons something the recipient is known to like may not feel right to give. But most people like more than one thing. Someone on a diet might prefer not to give chocolates - why should they if they can think of something else the recipient would like?
Of course a present should be recieved in the spirit in which it is given and this applies whether the gift is an item or money, but just as stuff can drift from the cupboard to the charity shop so too can money or vouchers be recieved in politeness rather than genuine delight.
All of which I guess comes down to knowing and thinking about the person you are giving a gift to and coming up with something that will please you to give and them to recieve.But a banker, engaged at enormous expense,Had the whole of their cash in his care.
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Soleil_lune wrote: »Now I am just the opposite; I love charity shop 'tat' and gifts and trinkets and stuff. You can get some real gems from charity shops, as well as carp! :rotfl:
Each to their own!
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We live in "immediate gratification" times nowadays, and the chances are that most people will have bought themselves whatever it is they want, be it a new book by their fave author, CD by their fave band, or whatever is their thing.
As we are talking about gifts in the "spare money" range, we're not likely to give or receive a new dishwasher or sofa, so whatever someone might give us in a £20-£50 price bracket. the chances are if it's to our taste we've probably already bought it for ourselves. If we haven't, it probably isn't because we can't afford it, but maybe we're not keen enough to feel we have to acquire it.
Ironically, if someone is genuinely so hard up that they can't afford their own "personal needs" shopping, I'm sure they'd far rather receive money than what someone else *thinks* they might want.
If giving money is so offensive, then find out the recipient's favourite shop and get them a voucher for it. As for it being impersonal, give a bit more thought to what you write on their card! I haven't bogged off yet, and I ain't no babe
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As for charity shops. Ive bought stuff in charity shops for myself that hasnt been anywhere near tat. Like a pair of Monsoon jeans new with tags that would have been around £70 to buy. In years gone by when Ive been stuck for cash, Ive bought a couple of things from charity shops for people for presents, not clothes, but if Ive seen a piece of jewellery that I think someone would like Ive bought it.
My mum bought me a silver ring a couple of years ago from the red cross for christmas, its one of my favourite pieces, have worn it since. I also have two necklaces she bought me, I love them.
The presents I give people tend to be a mix of stuff, some charity shop gifts if I see something and I think they'll like it, vouchers. I also pick stuff up in poundland and poundworld, poundworld sells some fantastic arts and craft sets. Plus some alcohol, wine for my mum and a bottle of vodka for my brother, who isnt a big drinker but doesnt say no to some vodka at christmas.
Vouchers and cash are totally acceptable to give people in my view, I also try and put enough thought into what I buy people, no matter how much money I have to spend so that they hopefully don't look at the presents and go urgh no.0 -
I like to receive money for christmas & birthday so I can buy an item I couldn't justify buying for myself ie expensive perfume or a handbag.Try to be a rainbow in someone's cloud.0
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It's better to know someone has thought about you, even if it is something you dislike. I don't like money as a gift because it is not a gift.
I strongly disagree. I prefer no gifts. I genuinely prefer NO gifts. I certainly prefer no gifts to something I dislike.Person_one wrote: »You'd think receiving a gift you're not that keen on was some sort of terrible hardship or trauma from some of the posts on this thread!
It's just life, and the fact that humans beings are human.
You don't have a friend or a relative who asks where the things he /she bought you are when they visit then is offended if they aren't on display or are not on display prominently or if its suspected they have been put out for their visit?
Unfortunately we cannot all devote rooms to gifts we don't want or use. And this can create discord. Its pretty easy to 'enjoy' bath stuff and smellies or perfume, and various types of things. Decorative items can be a pita.
I really prefer NO tangible gift. Time with someone is far nicer if possible.
if not a kind thought, and email. Some thing like that. 0 -
purpleshoes wrote: »As for charity shops. Ive bought stuff in charity shops for myself that hasnt been anywhere near tat. Like a pair of Monsoon jeans new with tags that would have been around £70 to buy. In years gone by when Ive been stuck for cash, Ive bought a couple of things from charity shops for people for presents, not clothes, but if Ive seen a piece of jewellery that I think someone would like Ive bought it.
My mum bought me a silver ring a couple of years ago from the red cross for christmas, its one of my favourite pieces, have worn it since. I also have two necklaces she bought me, I love them.
The presents I give people tend to be a mix of stuff, some charity shop gifts if I see something and I think they'll like it, vouchers. I also pick stuff up in poundland and poundworld, poundworld sells some fantastic arts and craft sets. Plus some alcohol, wine for my mum and a bottle of vodka for my brother, who isnt a big drinker but doesnt say no to some vodka at christmas.
Vouchers and cash are totally acceptable to give people in my view, I also try and put enough thought into what I buy people, no matter how much money I have to spend so that they hopefully don't look at the presents and go urgh no.
My point was that people donate good stuff to charity shops because it's of no use to them. Quite possibly unwanted gifts. I haven't bogged off yet, and I ain't no babe
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Bogof_Babe wrote: »My point was that people donate good stuff to charity shops because it's of no use to them. Quite possibly unwanted gifts.
The tombola at the school fair in a couple of weeks will have several items given to me by my MIL.
I can't go into our local charity shop at the moment because it has loads of the sprog's old toys for sale and if she sees them she will try to bring them home again :rotfl:0
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