Three choices in life; Give up, Give in or Give all you've got!!

liltdiddylilt

Hahaha you do make me giggle. Hat hair indeed with those horrid Mr A hats. Still, its a night away!!

Woop for the boys being away!! Is she under instruction to give you at least a bit more than a blimmin lie in before she turns up with them on the doorstep at 9am?!? I shouldn't be harsh. It is very nice of her. But if my mum took Jelly from 6pm to 9am, Jelly would sleep for all but an hour and a half of that... so it is no different to having them in bed is it! Ooh you and DH can leave the house for a wander round the village at 10pm... but you won't so what is the use :rotfl:

I am a big transformers fan too. I love Optimus Prime but Bumblebee is my favourite, as I love cars too I should have been a boy! I would have been in my element here with you today!

Hope DH gets used to his new tablets and starts to become a bit more lucid soon. Are they tablets he takes more than once a day? My doc has me take mine at night because they make me sleepy.

Lots of hugs! Missed you when my computer carked it. xx

P.S twonk is one of my favourite words.

please-let-me-be-lucky

Aw Lilty, I missed you too! :A.

Mum is under strict instruction to give me advance warning if she plans to bring them back at the crack of dawn! I've also hinted that the crack of noon would be better :rotfl:. Believe it or not, the boys just face-timed me at 10.30pm to say Goodnight :eek:. DS2 is normally asleep at 7.30-8pm and DS1 at 9pm! They will be horrors tomorrow if they don't have a mega lie in!! No lie in for me though as DH has arranged to go for a cycle ride with paramedic mate at 8am, organised before Mum offered to have the boys. Might go back to sleep after PM picks him up though!!

DH has to take his tablets only at night at the moment, then in the morning too after a couple of weeks. Then the dose is increased at night only at first, followed by increasing the morning dose. It's all very clever .

Well, time for bed. I've just been snapped at so I think that's enough for one day! Xx

liltdiddylilt

Glad the docs are trying to minimise the effect on his daytime hours, but still sad for you to have to deal with the fallout. Hopeful that it is the thing that will work and make all of your lives so much better.

Enjoy your disjointed lie in. I would be back in bed the second the front door closed!!!!

Sleep tight!! And enjoy your boy free morning (fingers crossed!) xx

Sun_Addict

Hope you enjoyed your child free evening and got your long overdue lie in.

mary_hinge

How are you today Plmbl?

please-let-me-be-lucky

mary_hinge wrote: »

How are you today Plmbl?

To be honest Mrs H I'm not great. I'm feeling under a rather black cloud that has been chasing me for 4 days now and I can't seem to get rid. I have an overwhelming feeling of doom, like something bad is going to happen and I just can't get away from it . I'm trying to, really I am but it's hard to do. I keep trying to brush it away like I normally can when it hits but it's not working this time. I'm wondering if it's time to talk to the GP, or if getting it out on here will chase it?

For example, I had the 'night off' last night. I should have been thrilled but the first thing I thought of was that the last time the boys stayed out at my Mum's (6 weeks ago ish), I made a mistake at work and it ruined my night off and kept me awake all night. Nothing came of that mistake and it's all been forgotten about, yet I kept thinking that something bad would happen to ruin last night too. It didn't and all has been fine so why am I miserable?

Mum kept the boys until noon :T. DH and PM had a successful cycle ride out and I slept all night. I did some ironing and tidying this morning but nothing too strenuous. All good stuff and I'm trying to focus on the positives.

When DH came home from his cycle he looked miserable, and apparently he feels I shouldn't have asked the other Mums to keep an eye on him at the party yesterday. I don't know why he didn't mention it yesterday as it must have bothered him lots to still have remembered it today and want to discuss it. I don't really know how to process that, because I felt I was taking a big leap of faith leaving him at the party just him and DS2, yet it's obvious he feels smothered. I don't mean to treat him like a child but look what happened last time he was given freedom! I also didn't want to talk to the other Mums behind DH's back but perhaps that would have been a better idea?? I would never have forgiven myself if something went wrong though and no one knew who to call or what to do. I'm feeling down about all this too, like nothing I do is right.

When the boys came home this afternoon they were asking to go bowling, so I called the alley and asked about prices and Carer's discounts. The best 'normal' price they do on Sundays is £24.50 for an hour's bowling for all of us, but if a Carer is needed in the party then it was £2 per person per game, which meant we paid £16 for all of us for two games, which actually took nearer an hour and a half so was a much better deal! Then DS2 had a meltdown and ruined it all. Being objective, he will be shattered because of his late night at Mums last night, but it just added to the misery.

Sorry for the rubbish post but I'm hoping it will help me deal with it all and move on Xx

DawnW

Sorry to hear that you are feeling miserable

Perhaps it is time for that appointment with the GP? You have such a lot to deal with. Can you discuss with OH when you are feeling a bit better why you worry when you are not with him? I am sure you have discussed it before, but he may have forgotten? As you said, DS2 was probably just overtired after a late night. How old is he?

Take care xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thanks Dawn :A.

DS2 is 4, 5 in January. He had at least 3 hours less sleep than normal and has been such a little horror for it. He is having an early night tonight whether he likes it or not!!

DH will have forgotten things soon enough but the problem is I don't. He forgets about the times he's wandered off and got lost, had panic attacks, not known where he was or who I was (while in our own lounge), had seizures, said he was going to do something and then immediately forgotten about doing it, had a temper tantrum unnecessarily etc etc. I could go on. Problem is, these things don't happen every day or all at once but they do happen regularly and repeatedly, often without warning so I'm always on my guard. When I tell him about all these things to try to get my point across then he gets depressed and goes on about not being a proper human. How are you supposed to let someone know how important it is for them to have a Carer when they don't want to know why?! He does know about his problems obviously, but if he were to explain it to anyone he'd just say it was Epilepsy and a bit of a rubbish memory due to an accident, which is a massive understatement Xx

liltdiddylilt

Oh Lucky. I really hope it helps to get it out on here. You are not alone in having a black cloud pop over the horizon and refuse to leave every now and again but I do think you have a huge amount more to deal with than any other person I have met.

I never understand how you cope. You must be one of the strongest women on the planet. I think you were most likely a rocket scientist astronaut surgeon in a past life. Or Mother Teresa

It is a huge catch 22 to be stuck in a cycle with DH where he refuses to acknowledge his problems because it depresses him, but then rails at you for smothering him. I know this is a bizarre thought, but could you maybe have some vista print cards made up? 250 for £5 postage? Just explaining DH's issues, and giving your number and MiL's number. Then you could discreetly hand them over to trusted friends etc, to keep in their purses, and if the situation occurred where you had to leave DH, then you would have that security without either going behind his back OR doing it in front of him?

I know it isn't his fault but I do feel very sad for you at the unfairness of brain injuries.

Hope you feel better soon hun. Not much I can do from here but sending you big squiggly hugs xx

please-let-me-be-lucky

Thank you Lilt, you make me smile! Gawd knows how the drivel I write comes across as me being some kind of superstar but it made me :rotfl: to have you say that. I'm really nothing special, honest.

The numbers on a card idea is a good one and one I will look into. I realised all too late that I could have broached it differently with DH in that should something have happened to DS2 (Lord forbid) then the other Mums would have contact details other than mine, as I can't be reached on my mobile while at work. I remember a couple of years ago when DS2 broke his arm, they ushered me into children's A&E because I was carrying him and asked DH to book him in at the desk. DH was devastated because he couldn't remember DS2's date of birth or GP details etc and I had to step in. Then again, if I reminded him of that he'd probably be just as depressed!

Squiggly hugs are the best! Xx