Baby steps to mortgage freedom for beanielou.

Butti

At some point I will stop monopolising your thread!

You asked me about how the realisation of my situation made me feel. Let me repeat that back to you;

Like me Beanie, you don't need to cope with their behaviour anymore. You just need to understand it and NOT accept it.

Knit_Witch

Beanie please don't leave! When I am having a really carp day due to pain reading your thread cheers me up because you so rarely complain in fact for a long while I didn't realise you had anything at all wrong with you - victim shmictim YOU come across as a wonderful caring person and NOT someone with a victim mentality :happyhear

beanielou

Thank you lovely peeps.
It means so much to me..

Todays thought(I am all over the place) is to run up debt at the rate of approx £111 per month so I can keep house.
That could change by tomorrow!!!!

Butti~~monopolise all you like my friend.

skint_spice

Aww Beanie, sorry you are feeling so down. If it's the people I suspect it is you will be unable to avoid them being you but tell them they either change or that's it - I think a free valuation might not be a bad idea just make sure you make it known...

Ellidee

:heartsmil:grouphug::kisses3::smileyhea:heart2:

slowlyfading

Sending you some hugs :grouphug::kisses3:

Butti

skint_spice wrote: »

Aww Beanie, sorry you are feeling so down. If it's the people I suspect it is you will be unable to avoid them being you but tell them they either change or that's it - I think a free valuation might not be a bad idea just make sure you make it known...

I think a valuation might help. You could always nail the message home by offering to help them pack or asking for input on an advert for a lodger. This would definitely reinforce the message that You are not a victim.

in_need_of_direction

hey Beanie, was just wondering how you are?

beanielou

Hey. I am slightly better than I was.
Mentally emotionally & physically exhausted though.

I was at an angel workshop yesterday which was another belated birthday present. It was quite eye opening in a few ways.
One thing it highlighted for me was the need to improve communication. To be honest I thought I was quite good at that. You live & learn.
To this end I have written to both my DS & his GF & highlighted how I feel about some things. I have tried to focus on the positive other than the fact that I fear so much being a burden & how sad I am at my lessening physical capabilities & how I sometimes get so frustated & angry about that.

catriona79

Hello dear Beanie,

Just wanted to add to the messages of gratitude for what your encouragement does for so many of us, and how you take the time to leave the lovely messages on our threads.

Also, not knowing your situation, but reading between the lines, I too hope that you can build up your confidence and face the situation in a way that you see fit. I do agree with Butti that a positive mantra could be very useful.

Hugs to you x