Baby steps to mortgage freedom for beanielou.

beanielou

KajiKita said:

Good morning 🌞 (just! 😉).

Hope you are having a lovely day 😊

KK x

Thank you. Not the best day. Tomorrow will be better. 

beanielou

RosaBernicia said:

I'm glad you are getting more help but can understand it's hard. 

Do you have any access to counselling or other mental health type help with adjusting to the transition? 

If I opened that Pandora’s box I would never get it together again. 

beanielou

I have had a tough but needed conversation with my mum. I understand that the way she deals with things to a degree is to try to block things out. However I am unfortunately now at the stage I do need to try to get my difficulties across to her. Obviously she does not live with me so doesn’t see me when I am just am not at my best. Hmmmm. 

But then according to the media I am a benefit scrounger. 

KajiKita

Well done for having the difficult but necessary conversation with your mum. 

Stuff the whatsit meeja! I’d like to see a single one of them cope with what you have had to deal with in recent years, with your grace, dignity, determination and generosity towards others! I very consciously pay my taxes because I know it will be there to help others less able than myself. If you are one of those my taxes go to, I consider it an honour. 

Sending hugs, big, squashy, but gentle ones x

skint_spice

I don’t think anyone could think of you that way Beanie. I hope you manage to get your mum to understand.

jwil

Sorry things are tough at the moment, and well done for having the conversation with your Mum.

You are in no way a benefit scrounger and nor are the millions of others that need support for their physical and mental health.  This vile government are stoking this nonsense to distract from their corruption and incompetence (and decimation of public services).  Whilst some media lap it up, there are other sides of the media who recognise it for what it is.

Sun_Addict

You are definitely NOT a benefit scrounger! Ignore the media (usually the M@il and Gu@rdian) the same low lives who claim all civil servants are lazy 🤬 Thanks to the media we have had to go into the office 3 days a week despite being completely capable of doing our jobs from home 😡

RosaBernicia

beanielou said:

RosaBernicia said:

I'm glad you are getting more help but can understand it's hard. 

Do you have any access to counselling or other mental health type help with adjusting to the transition? 

If I opened that Pandora’s box I would never get it together again. 

I think I recognise something like that feeling.  But may I tell you something from the other side of the process (ie after over 3 recent years of counselling) that might be of use?  The point of support is to help you deal with what you've got going on at the time, in whatever way works for you at the time.  Nobody should be telling you to lie on a couch and discuss your dreams if what you asked for was help figuring out practical ways to help tomorrow be a bit easier than yesterday.  And that may change over time if you choose. 

I'm also glad that you've made things clearer for your mum.  But I'm sorry it's more difficult than it needs to be.  (In case useful, Captain Awkward has some good 'scripts' for difficult family conversations.  And Peg Streep on particularly difficult mothers.) 

The media who say that kind of thing are just controlled by people who think they should be able to make money out of people's desperation instead.  (Just like the return to office **** is drummed up by the owners of office blocks.)

RB xx

debtfreewannabe321

I'm so sorry to hear of another fall Beanie I am pleased you have some extra hours though do they start soon?
The best thing anyone can do with the (mainstream)media is switch it off. They control to the Nth degree what is put out there to sway public opinion and purposely incite groups of people against one another. I hate it all and never ever watch it or read it any more. They're all controlled by the same fat cats at the top and no one should listen to a darned thing they say. (soz didn't mean to rant on your thread). I hope you're doing okay today xx

savingholmes

Glad you are getting more support. Family rarely understand what we need - I'm as guilty of that towards others as they are towards me - as none of us is in the other's skin and what we find difficult they find easy and vice verce.

The press has no memory and wax hot and cold on things by the day.