How Do You Know They Love You?

Faith177

I know OH loves me because

If something goes wrong the first thing he always says is "We'll deal with this" even if I have mucked up something and it's all my fault he always makes me know he is there

If I'm really upset and cant face eating he will go out and buy nearly everything in Tescos to tempt me

He keeps all the red and black sweets for me if he buys a bag (even if he has them at work)

He doesn't get annoyed with all the cuddly toys I have and continues to buy me more.

Last night he quite happily sat with me on the sofa while I was wearing a husky onesie complete with tail and detachable paw gloves without saying a word

When my mum was diagonised with cancer he was working away he got clearence to leave work indefinately and when I got home he had cooked me my favourite food and there was a bath running

He looked after my mum when she was recovering from surgery for breast cancer as I can't drive

He always kisses me good night

He texts me or e-mails me every morning to see how I am (he leaves home at 5am while i'm still dead to the world)

He looked after me while I was suffering with depression and has spent a long time learning my warning signs and helping me with my CBT for anxiety

He relocated from Birmingham to Essex to be with me.

He moved in with me despite being highly allergic to cats (I had 3 at the time) and spent a year taking tablets to cope with the allergy

He pays attention to things I like and if he sees a story about a programme or an actor I like he sends it to me

He indulges my Titanic obsession and will set up documentries if he sees them on Sky in case I've missed it and then doesn't mind watching them despite me seeing them a million times. He also keeps a list of the Titanic books I have already and updates it often so if he sees a book he knows if I need it

He spent 3 hours testing Canon SLRs (despite hating them with a passion) to find the best one for what I wanted it for

He never moans that I disappear for a week every July to go to an airshow with my mum and leave him with the animals

He signs up to the Nickleback fan club everytime they tour to guarentee me and my mum get excellent seats

There are a million more things I could list but I better stop now otherwise I'll be here all day. The main one though is he will drop everything to be there for me.

pollypenny

zaxdog wrote: »

Nouveau riche???????? :eek: I wish :rotfl:

I live in a beautiful part of the west coast of Scotland and we have a lot of people from the south of england coming for an idyllic retirement who then want to change and re-organise EVERYTHING.

They get very annoyed when the natives get restless and do things like "trespass" :rotfl::rotfl:

Ah, we have that with hippy_-type English coming to live in Wales for 'the simple life'.

Then object to people speaking Welsh. :cool:

heartbreak_star

DigForVictory wrote: »

He makes things. From scratch. Meals, properly researched AngloSaxon shoes, bone needles - odd things that would be hell on wheels to shop for..

Off-topic, but are you a re-enactor?

HBS x

hgotsparkle

• He'll make me a cup of coffee when he gets up for work if I have to be up for an early shift and its cold
• If hes home before me, he'll stick the heating on so its warm for when I get in
• He lets me have the last bite of his chocolate bar
• He gives me all the red ones from his bags of sweets
• If we go shopping, he'll point out things I might like and always gets it right
• He tells me he loves me every morning when he leaves for work
• He lays on my side of the bed whilst I'm in the bathroom getting ready for bed so that its warm for me
• If someone is stressing me out or upsetting me, he calms me down
• He rubs my back softly whilst I fall aleep
• As much as he won't admit hes a softie, he'll do anything for me to make me happy

HOWMUCH

It's in his smile, when he looks at me........
It's in the squeeze as he holds my hand......
It's in the cuppa coffee he made .......
It's in the bath he ran me..........
It's in the meal he cooked.......
It's in the passing cuddle as he walks past.......

It's because he loves me.....It's love

pollypenny

He's just allowed me my choice of holiday, China, when he wanted to go to India.

katsu

Because he puts himself out to make me happy so if I want something he will do it (like fetch a drink) and I do the same for him.

Because he doesn't shout at me or treat me with disrespect. He treats me kindly, speaks politely to me and listens to me/explains things to me.

He supports me in what I want to do and encourages me to see friends and have a social life.

He tells me he feels fortunate that we have each other.

Because I love him more than I have ever loved anyone and he says the same. We've been together since we were a lot younger and we try to treat each other well as we believe that it is an important part of helping our marriage last till death us do part.

babymoo

Such a lovely thread!!

...Because he cooks for us every night despite being at work as long as I have been during the week and it's always fresh food, never just freezer stuff.

...Because every now and again he will come home with a bunch of flowers for me, just coz!

...Because he indulges me listening to my kind of music and singing (very badly) around the house despite him hating all the music I listen to. (He's a metal head, me not so much)

...Because he makes sure my car is always running safely and will fix just about anything for me on it straight away.

...Because he will randomly take me shopping if I ask to go clothes shopping on our day off together and then he will pay for my choice of clothes just coz.

...Because he has 2 sides to him, the side he shows the world and the side that only I see when we are at home alone.

...Because when we bought our house he said absolutely no cats or rabbits, we could only have a dog. 2 years later we have 1 cat and 1 rabbit and he loves them as much if not more than I do.

lostinrates

So many ways. I'm not sure I can even remember them all as they are woven into our very life together.

The way he knows that important moment before I do that I'm running out of steam, because he pays more attention to my needs than I do.

That he will tell me ( in private) when he thinks I was wrong but in public I'm right all the way.

That we can talk about any of life's problems without fear of a row, or someone taking it personally, knowing that we'll try to do what we can to do what the other one needs at that time.

Claire_A87

He's straight to the point, if he didn't love me then he wouldn't be with me - he doesn't put up with things that make him unhappy. It's nice being with someone who isn't sentimental because I know exactly where I stand.

After never having lived with a partner, he agreed to give it a go with me after 11 months together (I practically lived in his flat anyway!). We had a long discussion about if it didn't work it didn't mean we were over, but we just weren't ready. He'd never have agreed to try it under any circumstances for anything less than love. 4 years later we're happily still invading each other's space, and bought our first house together 6 months ago.

He always comes to bed and gives me a gentle rub even if he thinks I'm asleep, because I find it really soothing.

When i got upset after a flippant remark he made about marriage a few months ago, he told me he didn't realise he needed to think about getting married because he's thought we'll be together forever anyway

When I first got with him (nearly 5 years ago) he couldn't stand the thought of kids, even though he pictured being a Dad 'sometime in the far future'. 3 months ago we started trying, and he now constantly talks about when we have children.

Most importantly - after I lost myself a bit between the ages of 18-21, I realised being an adult didn't need to mean being boring. He brought back out my sometimes quirky sense of humour & childlike excitement for things, reminding me that I should never feel the need to hide those aspects of myself in order to suit all people at all times. He nurtured those parts of me & accepts me for all my quirks