Christmas for adult children

lostinrates

Dh's dad doesn't do gifts. Or if he does he sends CDs or something that cost us more in customs to pick up than they would have been to buy. He is not up generous, just wouldn't think of it. Were DH to ask him for something specific I'm sure he'd be pleased to do it.

My parents ask and we say ' nothing' but I have a sibling who asks for cash.

I'm not really that much a fan of gifts, I'd not only not mind nothing I prefer it.

drmdmcgwn64

FatVonD wrote: »

We still do a pile of gifts for DS, DSD and DSS who are 17, 15 and 19 though the pile is smaller as the kind of things they like when they are older tend to be more expensive than, say, colouring books and puzzles were.

Eldest DSS who is 22 probably gets a few less (maybe 4 or 5 presents?) as he has a good job and anything he really wants he'll already have bought himself which doesn't leave much scope for surprises. In the past we've bought stuff like, say, a winter coat but he's just moved into his first flat so we'll probably end up buying him practical things like toasters and ironing boards this year!

DS (17) is getting the new X-Box, he's trading in his old one and a pile of games towards the price but it'll still be quite expensive so everything else he gets on top will just be stocking-filler type gifts.

Sorry - not picking on your in particular but I keep seeing these acronyms all over the place and its a pain as I have no idea what then mean.
I very occasionally look at these forums and 1 of the main reasons is that the posts are a nightmare for someone like me to understand.
Why not just type words - web space and bandwidth isnt the issue it used to be!

What is a DS, DSD, DSS, DH, DD and why cant people use words?

lostinrates

drmdmcgwn64 wrote: »

What is a DS, DSD, DSS, DH, DD and why cant people use words?

Dear son
Dear step daughter
Dear step son
Deaf husband
Dear daughter

Indie_Kid

lostinrates wrote: »

Deaf husband

:rotfl:I assume that was a typo?!

lostinrates

Indie_Kid wrote: »

:rotfl:I assume that was a typo?!

:rotfl:

Lol no idea how that happened or what I was thinking :rotfl:

NotGivingIn

My son & daughter now 21 & 18 respectively - at home out of term from uni. Family tradition means presents from all other relatives stop at 18, but as parents we choose to still give our own gifts. From age of 14/15 main gift is money - they are savvy enough to prefer to spend it in the sales and get money for the price & we turn it into family day(s) out when lucky enough to have time off work. Still also buy 'fun' stocking fillers to unwrap on the day. Plan to do that for at least as long as they live at home or have a family of their own.

System

After speaking to my mum recently this thread came to mind, my mym is changin things up this year as my dad is heading for retirement soon so they need to start saving a bit, plus 2 of my siblings are students and the other 2 of us dont have the best paid jobs, so she'd decided that although we each get a set amount as usual, for presents were are doing a secret santa style thing with a budget of £20. So everyone gets a present to open but we don't have to worry about buying for 5 other people.

She was worried that people wouldn't be happy with it but i think as we're all adults its good idea

balletshoes

xXMessedUpXx wrote: »

After speaking to my mum recently this thread came to mind, my mym is changin things up this year as my dad is heading for retirement soon so they need to start saving a bit, plus 2 of my siblings are students and the other 2 of us dont have the best paid jobs, so she'd decided that although we each get a set amount as usual, for presents were are doing a secret santa style thing with a budget of £20. So everyone gets a present to open but we don't have to worry about buying for 5 other people.

She was worried that people wouldn't be happy with it but i think as we're all adults its good idea

i agree with your mum, I think thats a great idea when you are all adults in the family. My DD is doing the same thing with her group of friends at school this year.

Hezzawithkids

Our two are 19 and 13. They get masses of presents from family members so from us (parents) they get one main present (spend up to £50 each) and they both also get stockings (which are actually small sacks) full of small, gimmicky, personal stuff that I've accumulated for them through the year plus chocolate coins, sweets, etc. These are the first things that get opened on Xmas morning and its a lovely way to start the day, OH & I drinking tea and watching them sitting on the carpet in front of the fire delving into their goodies!

Last year when DD was 18 I dared to suggest that she was too old for a stocking and the look on her face was as if I had suggested cancelling Xmas altogether:o. So I guess we will be continuing with the tradition until someone says otherwise!

For one side of the family I suggested a Secret Santa just for the adults which everyone agreed with but it didn't go very well. Someone missed out altogether because their Secret Santa "forgot" and someone else just wanted the money instead. So I won't be suggesting it again, if they want it to happen this year then someone else can organise it instead.

red_devil

Hezzawithkids wrote: »

Our two are 19 and 13. They get masses of presents from family members so from us (parents) they get one main present (spend up to £50 each) and they both also get stockings (which are actually small sacks) full of small, gimmicky, personal stuff that I've accumulated for them through the year plus chocolate coins, sweets, etc. These are the first things that get opened on Xmas morning and its a lovely way to start the day, OH & I drinking tea and watching them sitting on the carpet in front of the fire delving into their goodies!

Last year when DD was 18 I dared to suggest that she was too old for a stocking and the look on her face was as if I had suggested cancelling Xmas altogether:o. So I guess we will be continuing with the tradition until someone says otherwise!

For one side of the family I suggested a Secret Santa just for the adults which everyone agreed with but it didn't go very well. Someone missed out altogether because their Secret Santa "forgot" and someone else just wanted the money instead. So I won't be suggesting it again, if they want it to happen this year then someone else can organise it instead.

I think its sad and shows just how much pressure you are under when the look on your daughters face makes you keep spending money.

How about she do a stocking for you this year instead.