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lostinrates

zagubov wrote: »

I always reckoned someone here would reveal they had an indoor hang-gliding arena in their home. 'Tis that day!

No, out door hand gliding only here, and the private airport is off site , up the road. . We call hand gliders the strange exotic birds, they are bright and cheerful looking.

ukmaggie45

LiR, hope you are watching War Horse BBC1 just started.

Soon as I saw the horses I thought of you.

Hugs

lostinrates

ukmaggie45 wrote: »

LiR, hope you are watching War Horse BBC1 just started.

Soon as I saw the horses I thought of you.

Hugs

Thanks....no, I hadn't seen it was on. Thanks for telling me....

fc123

HAMISH_MCTAVISH wrote: »

Mate of mine died yesterday, relatively fit, didn't smoke, played sports, had a sudden and fatal heart attack in his late 40's.

The first of my friend group to die of 'natural' causes.

Been a few passed away in car/bike/plane incidents, in dodgy parts of the world from work related issues, or from various other misadventures of the recreational variety, but that's the first from just getting older.

Bit of a shocker really. I'd have laid good odds he'd have outlived me, despite being a good few years older.

A reminder of our mortality.

Sorry to read that Hamish...it is a shock to hear of a fit + healthy someone die so suddenly when under the age of about 70 - 75.


I haven't had a friend die yet but have experienced a few..... like parents of kids school mates or someone we knew at school.

GDB2222 wrote: »

I'm sorry, Hamish. Friends of ours lost their son, in his 20s. He just dropped dead, and they never discovered the cause. Whilst feeling gloomy I will mention that a friend has just been diagnosed with Motor Neuron Disease, which seems to be progressing quite fast.

I had never heard of that illness until a few years back and it seems to crop up more frequently now....don't know if that is my age or it is more common?


One of the partners at our accountants was diagnosed at the end of last summer and sadly passed away this spring. I think he was late 40's and was knocking footballs around with his boys last July and by Xmas he was in a very poor way.

Generali wrote: »

Really sorry to hear that mate.

The first of mine to go was when I was 19: she died of a brain hemorrhage. I suspect quite a lot of people were quite shocked when I got cancer as I live a pretty healthy life: 2 hours cycling a day, eat well, don't smoke. The media seems to promote the idea that we can live in a certain way and live forever* but it just ain't so. People were clearly taken aback when I said that my cancer came from getting an infection rather than from being some kind of immoral reprobate that smokes/drinks to excess/eats carbohydrates.

We can shade the odds in our favour by living well but ultimately we will all die at some point and we can't delay in the inevitable forever. All we can do is live in the best way you feel able to and hope for a pain-free ending.

Dr Karl, an Aussie MD and Physicist who also has a broadcast on BBC R5, is very interesting on pain. He makes the point often that there is no valour in suffering pain needlessly.


*Led by the Daily Mail's attempt to split all foods into 2 groups: those that cause and cure cancer. Admittedly there does seem to be some overlap between the 2.

I read about your tests recently *thumbs up sign*........there is an assumption that most illnesses are the persons 'fault'...


I got that all the time when my Mother was ill with a shot liver. People would ask, tentatively, oh was she a drinker (these are people in the launderette for example as I was a regular for 10 months) and when OH went deaf in 2004, I remember a staff member asking what he had done to get the disease...errr nothing, just bad luck as it was a hereditary one.






I really like Niks science based reply to that...I can't find the post to quote...but I liked it



I have been floored with a nasty bug the past 48 hours...felt it brewing on Weds and by Sat, I just had to crawl under the covers for 24 hours and feel sorry for myself. As I am so rarely ill, I felt it was a lifestyle led road to death in 5 or 6 days time.






The shops selling niche products struggle to survive unless they have a significant online outlet as the footfall probably isn't there for them. Online can only work for them if they have products not easily sourced elsewhere too.


The fact that LIR hadn't purchased anything from there for 12 months (as there are only so many lion earrings a girl requires) only has to be multiplied by all her loyal customers...who loved popping in there for the odd gift a couple of times a year...but it maybe wasn't enough to pay her a decent salary after all overheads?

Yorkie1

Hope you feel 100% soon fc

ukmaggie45

Oh G this is awful. Difficult stuff. Almost crying already.

My "Uncle" Vic who I think was a cousin to my Gran Alice was in the cavalry in WW1. He was lovely, came for a couple of family meals when I was in my teens in West Kirby. He told us that the first thing you did at end of your day was to look after your horse.

lostinrates

fc123 wrote: »

The shops selling niche products struggle to survive unless they have a significant online outlet as the footfall probably isn't there for them. Online can only work for them if they have products not easily sourced elsewhere too.


The fact that LIR hadn't purchased anything from there for 12 months (as there are only so many lion earrings a girl requires) only has to be multiplied by all her loyal customers...who loved popping in there for the odd gift a couple of times a year...but it maybe wasn't enough to pay her a decent salary after all overheads?

Interestingly she'd opened a second shop round the corner in same area (but out of prime bit IMO) about a year ago I guess. It had clothes in it and frankly...I thought it was pants. Lots of comfortable not very stylish 'well, its all gone to pot, so I'll wear this stripey top and go around the corner to the oth shop and buy an expensive handbag' She also sold lots of handbags in the sparkly shop. I think most peoe I spoke to in other shops today were most upset about the hand bags / other accessories.

All of these CAN be sourced elsewhere, I know because...having seen things I've looked elsewhere out of curiosity, and to check prices in cluding a bag I thought I liked then decided I hated, I think pN might have helped me track it down on a previous np thread.

But editing stuff I think remains a good role. IMO she was good at buying jewellery ( every day slightly funny stuff, not too ott, like my lion earrings) less good but not too bad at all at bags, but not great at clothes.

In others she obviously hit the bag thing on the nail for them, and the jewellery was too tacky. I bet that second shop twentyfive yards in the wrong direction didn't help

fc123

Yorkie1 wrote: »

Hope you feel 100% soon fc

Today I am 95% but ache a bit in other places due to my inactivity over the past 48 hours.


I put myself to be bed on Fri pm and tried to 'embrace' the hot / cold fever as I know that's what kills the virus but, as I am rarely so ill that I have to go to bed for 24 hours, I thought I had a lifestyle led terminal fatal illness that was going to wipe me out in 4 or 5 days. I gave myself to Friday 21st.


I also took it as an opportunity to go on strike, so to speak, as my weekends have been becoming a constant drudge of tidying, cleaning and cooking for several adults.
I need an acronym like Lir has for RP for adult kids + partners so I can grumble.


I work all week too yet EVERYTHING is left to me, shopping, cooking, laundry, cleaning and I quite enjoy it some of the time...but, sometimes I just get fed up that I don't even have the time to potter on here for even 30 mins.


EG; OH needed to put some laundry on but doesn't know how to work the new washing machine (installed and working since late March 2014)


I decided a few weeks ago to take Fridays off instead and have a day solo pottering about cleaning my house (which I enjoy doing when OMO) except I had to go in last Friday and the Friday just gone I got ill.

Nikkster wrote: »

I'm confident I made the right choice for me though. Despite the token 'nice young lad' on the front of my gardening calender (he looks nice enough, but he doesn't feature elsewhere in the calender so I wonder what the point was).

....to get women to buy it who don't dig One D and like a more down to earth type of chap who can teach them gardening skills?

fc123

lostinrates wrote: »

But editing stuff I think remains a good role. IMO she was good at buying jewellery ( every day slightly funny stuff, not too ott, like my lion earrings) less good but not too bad at all at bags, but not great at clothes.

In others she obviously hit the bag thing on the nail for them, and the jewellery was too tacky. I bet that second shop twentyfive yards in the wrong direction didn't help

It is always about the edit with an Indie boutique and a good one can do well.....maybe you got it right and she spread herself too thin by opening the 2nd shop....and then that dragged down the good one with it?

michaels wrote: »

Finished reading 'Curious incident of the dog in the night' - I completely got all the autisitic stuff except for the bit about not being able to have hugs, that I would find too hard

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I have never got into that book, couldn't get past the first few pages. I must try again.
Yesterday, to make the most of being bedbound I read a John O Farrell (every book he has written is fab IMO esp '''This is your life'') and read 'The Man who forgot his wife' http://www.amazon.co.uk/product-reviews/0552771635/ref=cm_cr_dp_hist_five?ie=UTF8&filterBy=addFiveStar&showViewpoints=0


(I still can't use the features in the box to overwrite links etc??)


I would highly recommend it as he is funny / sad and incredibly insightful. It's easy to read as well as his writing style just 'flows'. It's set in Clapham and about the struggles of marriage in late 30's, 2 young teen kids and all the rest of the stuff that goes on in middle England type lives.

fc123

mmmm, too many Lemsips ..I seem to have repeated myself over 2 posts?

lostinrates wrote: »

Park, vital. and also what shops there are. I like a variety of independent shops along side some useful reliable chains ( m and s for tights, a shoe shop or two, a big chemists, if I'm very lucky a space nk, and somewhere like a lush or something.) ...happy to swap the purchases of any of the chain type places for independents if they are inspiring in someway....Independent shoe shops , for example, can be really exciting..but more frequently aren't.

There is no point going to x town if y town has all the same shops and eateries and parking. In fact its just ruddy boring.

Since moving back to SE London and no longer having to travel into Central London for work things very often,.....my shopping habits are truly tragic...especially as I was an Indie shopkeeper for more than 2 decades.
Indie is the word everyone always uses in the trade and in trade press but I never see it used outside 'Drapers'.
Maybe in mainstream press people get it mixed up with Indian?


It's one of those common questions you get as a label 'How many Indie stockists do you have?'.

LydiaJ wrote: »

Many years ago I nearly went out with a bloke who was born 3 years before me, on the same day.

My parents are both April Fools but 7 years apart.