Bit trivial, but a little sensitive. Advice needed please.

lostinrates

melanzana wrote: »

I will always remember the time my two sisters (Julie, the youngest passed away last year sadly), and my only brother went to London.

(every January the four of us went away for a few days without partners etc. magic time, great memories)

Anyway, Julie booked the hotel - one three bed room for the girls, and one single for the bloke. When we arrived there were only two doubles. Hotel full, booking mix up. AAAGH.

Well how we laughed. So Julie, the mad one and my brother decided to share. Can you imagine! We all ended up in their room that night there was so much fun going on. Two at the top and two at the bottom, it was like we were baby kids again.

The next night myself and other sis decided to sleep in our own room. The other two were honking snorers, God Almighty!

But I think a bit of over indulgence in the drinkies might have played a part too, wink!

Sorry if I've taken things off topic.

Sounds great fun.

It occurred to me too, that no one has passed comment when as a trio I've gone into a hotel room as a group, we booked a suitable room, that's all the hotel have cared about, and we've not broken tvs or left the room a pigsty.

melanzana

lostinrates wrote: »

Sounds great fun.

It occurred to me too, that no one has passed comment when as a trio I've gone into a hotel room as a group, we booked a suitable room, that's all the hotel have cared about, and we've not broken tvs or left the room a pigsty.

That's right. The hotel don't give a fig, once you have paid the going rate, and aren't sneaking anyone in to the room for free or engaging in any other shenanigans.

Or as you say wrecking the place.

It's a business not a moral authority.

Prothet_of_Doom

Ear plugs would be cheaper.

Auntie_Social

I have sleep apnoea (I stop breathing around 8-10 times an hour apparently) and would snore like you wouldn't believe, I have been given a mandibular device to wear (looks like a boxers gum shield) and its improved immensely, it might be worth the OP looking into one for her hubby. Mine was done through the hospital, but I know you can buy them online, you just have to put them in boiling water then put them in your mouth and let them "set". It's not the sexiest of things to wear in bed, but it's certainly better than separate rooms.

Have a great holiday what ever you decide to do, and remember - the people you book through don't know you, and the people on the holiday you never have to see again, so dont worry about what any of them say. :)

repeatoffender

My friend always books linking rooms wherever they go on holiday she never explains why just does as melanzana said, rings up or books online.

Has your OH had a sleep test? Initially a test can be carried out overnight in hospital or they can wire him up to a home device. Without a cpap machine I stop breathing 15 times an hour on my side and it almost doubles if I sleep on my back, the snoring was horrendous, apparently.

Sleeping on his own you wont know if he stops breathing or gasps but sleep apnoea is far more common than people think and can increase the risk of hypertension, stroke, heart disease, diabetes, never mind memory and concentration.

JimmyTheWig

Billie-S wrote: »

Also, re; jimmythewig's comments, I don't understand the bit where you say that it may not be fair on the person in the neighbouring room, because even if the OP's husband is in with her, there will still be someone next door who can hear his snoring. In fact, there could be people either side hearing it. At least with her one side, only 'one' other person will be potentially affected. Apart from this, I can't see it being that bad, as there will be a wall in between the rooms.

I'm not saying that it wouldn't be fair on the people next door, just that it might cause a little tension.
If the OP doesn't want to tell the person on the phone who they book the deal with about the snoring, will they be happy with the people on the holiday knowing about it?
Sharing a room won't help this (as you say it would make it worse!) so I'm not using this as a reason not to get seperate rooms. I'm questioning whether this is the sort of holiday that the OP wants to go on with her husband.

I genuinely, seriously think that nobody else will give a fig. The travel agent OR the other people on the trip. Like I said, they don't know you, so what's it to them? Hell would freeze over before I'd care about what people I don't know think about me.

Which is how I would feel, too. But I don't think the OP feels like that.
OP, have you thought about CBT or something to help _you_ deal with his snoring?

Cyberman60

hamsterfan1 wrote: »

I know this is slightly off topic but does you husband seem to stop breathing between snores? id so get him to see his GP as he could have sleep apnoea which can be treated. then you wouldn't need two rooms

My father had this problem but now uses a breathing mask. This could be an option for the OP's OH.

Upsidedown_Bear

Auntie_Social wrote: »

I have sleep apnoea (I stop breathing around 8-10 times an hour apparently) and would snore like you wouldn't believe, I have been given a mandibular device to wear (looks like a boxers gum shield) and its improved immensely, it might be worth the OP looking into one for her hubby. Mine was done through the hospital, but I know you can buy them online, you just have to put them in boiling water then put them in your mouth and let them "set". It's not the sexiest of things to wear in bed, but it's certainly better than separate rooms.

Have a great holiday what ever you decide to do, and remember - the people you book through don't know you, and the people on the holiday you never have to see again, so dont worry about what any of them say. :)

You can buy gum shields here:
https://www.britishsnoring.co.uk/
Worth taking their test to see what type of snorer you are
http://www.britishsnoring.co.uk/itests/

DigForVictory

Another thing to consider may be the mattress. My substantial OH was a champion snorer until we got a highly spring but very solid mattress. He's been happy as a clam, rejoicing in a decent night's kip in ages.
Certainly cheaper to see your GP first, and move onto a gum sheild if that seems advisable, but whatever you do, have a smashing holdiay Anyway!

Flossie.

Thanks for all the advice and help everyone. It's very enlightening to know that others have the same issue with snoring partners/hubbies, and that not everyone is joyful about sharing a bed and a bedroom!

Also, I haven't booked the trip yet, but I will do at the weekend. And I feel a lot better about it after reading all the lovely replies on here.

I'll let you know how it goes.

Also, thanks for the advice about the snoring issue. He has tried a few things in the past, but doesn't embrace things very well. I think it would cure 75% of the snoring if he lost weight tbh.

Thanks again.