Bit trivial, but a little sensitive. Advice needed please.

JimmyTheWig

I agree with the consensus. It won't matter to the company at all.

It strikes me that you've got various options...
1. Ask for two single rooms. If they ask why, tell them it's none of their business.
2. Tell them the truth.
3. Make up a different reason - e.g. it's a "make or break" holiday for your relationship.
4. Lie outright and say he's your brother and use Ms rather than Mrs for yourself.
5. Share a room. [Would it help if he _didn't_ use a sleeping tablet?]
6. Don't go.

My only concern in all of this is the holiday itself. You say it's a coach trip. Is it, then, a holiday where you go with a group of strangers and will be sociable with that group the whole time? E.g. will you do group outings?
If so, you'll no doubt get more questions [or behind your back discussions, which is worse!] about your sleeping arangements from the other holidaymakers than you would when booking the rooms. Would you both cope with this if you don't feel able to tell the person you book with?
Also, if his snoring is really that bad would it be annoying for the person in the room next door to him? Presumably you'll be on one side, but what about the person on the other side? If it's a complete stranger than that's just hard luck on them, but if it's another person from your group then it might create tension.

My point is that booking the holiday is fine. The holiday itself might not be.

emmaj30

As everyone else has said,.. its no one elses business what you do. You wont be the first couple do to this and certainly not the last. Hotels have seen it all before. Just book 2 single rooms and think no more about it. PS have a lovely time

elsien

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

Also, if his snoring is really that bad would it be annoying for the person in the room next door to him? Presumably you'll be on one side, but what about the person on the other side? If it's a complete stranger than that's just hard luck on them, but if it's another person from your group then it might create tension.

My point is that booking the holiday is fine. The holiday itself might not be.

Not if you're upfront and make a joke of it. We've done group holidays including one where we all had to sleep outside in a communal area with sleeping bags. The next morning one of the blokes was having the p!ss taken out of him for keeping everyone awake and a rather shame faced mother had to hold up her hand and say "actually....". There's always more than one snorer in a group.
Now she just tells everyone straight off she snores like a trooper and apologises in advance if it disturbs anyone. And everyone has always been fine about it, no friction at all. You tend to find that you're in rooms next to different people each night anyway, so everyone gets a reprieve.
Snoring and proud, that us! OP, don't be put off, have a lovely holiday.

raven83

Again, definitely think you are over thinking this. Just ask for 2 separate rooms, should they ask why (which they won't) tell them it is none of their business!
And anyway, they are hardly likely to complain because 2 room equals more money for them, surely.

Arthog

Flossie, you are not at all alone with this one. A lot of couples have their own rooms because of snoring, getting up to go to the loo, insomnia, etc.
We deal with holidays by always having self catering with a room each, and if we have to stay in a hotel we book a twin room and it can only be for one night. . .
Moneywise, self catering and eating out may work out ok when you haven't had to pay a single supplement. You can still have just the kind of holiday you enjoy.

maman

I've got used to my DH snoring and fortunately it's not every night. Generally a good sharp poke with my elbow or pushing him over onto his side does the trick.


But a couple of years ago we had a family room in Paris with our DGDs. They found his snoring so awful they decamped to the bathroom with their duvets during the night. So they'll certainly never share a room with him again.


I've had offers of holidays with girlfriends but I know they'd want to share a room to save money. I'm a poor sleeper and like to read/listen to radio if I can't nod off so I don't get involved as I think it might look a bit anti-social if I insisted on my own room.


So, other people's sleeping habits aren't as 'normal' as you think.


I can see the point about others on the holiday making comment but I wouldn't worry about that but you might want to let your DH explain if it comes up. We were on a tour last week and I have no idea who was sleeping in which rooms in the hotels.

aileth

When I was very poorly for two weeks, we slept in different rooms as I had to run to the toilet every hour and it wasn't fair on possibly waking him up. Not going to lie, I actually enjoyed having my own room a lot!

We've settled on a single duvet each in bed now as he developed this terrible habit of getting very duvet possessive. I'd wake up at a night to him having stolen the whole duvet with no chance of getting it back as he'd locked it down. After going to Europe a few times, a lot if not all hotels we stayed in had double beds with two single duvets. Well my mind was blown and now I couldn't imagine sharing a duvet again! If I had my way I'd take the whole room

JimmyTheWig

elsien wrote: »

Not if you're upfront and make a joke of it.

I agree...
... but I'm not sure the OP feels that way.

hamsterfan1

I know this is slightly off topic but does you husband seem to stop breathing between snores? id so get him to see his GP as he could have sleep apnoea which can be treated. then you wouldn't need two rooms

Billie-S

raven83 wrote: »

Again, definitely think you are over thinking this. Just ask for 2 separate rooms, should they ask why (which they won't) tell them it is none of their business!
And anyway, they are hardly likely to complain because 2 room equals more money for them, surely.

JimmyTheWig wrote: »

My only concern in all of this is the holiday itself. Will you do group outings?

If so, you'll no doubt get more questions [or behind your back discussions, which is worse!] about your sleeping arrangements from the other holidaymakers than you would when booking the rooms. Would you both cope with this if you don't feel able to tell the person you book with?

Also, if his snoring is really that bad would it be annoying for the person in the room next door to him? Presumably you'll be on one side, but what about the person on the other side? If it's a complete stranger than that's just hard luck on them, but if it's another person from your group then it might create tension.

My point is that booking the holiday is fine. The holiday itself might not be.

I'll discuss these 2 posts I have quoted further down in my post.

Agree with the majority Flossie. Travel agents and hotels would surely be used to people (especially 40 and over) requesting separate rooms. And say what you said in your last post. 'I would like to book a trip for 2 and have 2 single rooms for us please, next to each other if poss. And I will pay the single room supplement of course'

When the booking form comes to you, it will almost certainly be flagged up on there. So don't worry about them suddenly forcing you into a double room when you're there. They won't, because your 'order' will be on your booking form. Keep it with you when you go, for peace of mind.

When we used to book coach holidays abroad with our 2 girls: it said "Family room: 2 adults, 2 children." So I think it should specify; "2 adults, 2 single rooms." As many have said on here, many people find it hard to sleep together, especially as they get older, and people snore more! It's a nightmare, to have to sleep in the same bed (or room) as someone snoring.

Re Raven83's comments: (And a few others said what Raven83 said too...) I don't see how a couple requesting a room each makes the travel agent money, as several people have said here. Surely, if they each have their own room, the extra room has to be paid for anyway? Can someone enlighten me as to how the agent would make money from it?

Re jimmythewig's comments; I can't see anyone else on the trip commenting on them having separate rooms, as they won't know them personally. If a couple I had never met in my life had separate rooms, the reasons why wouldn't even register.

If someone did ask, I would say 'personal reasons which we'd rather not discuss.' (And I'd be VERY annoyed that they had asked.) Also, although you may do bits and bobs with the other people on the trip; most of the time the two of you will be on your own anyway probably, if it's a 4 day excursion to Europe.

That said, if the agent asks, I wouldn't say 'none of your business,' as IMO it sounds a bit rude. Just say 'personal reasons,' and if they press you, say 'he has sleep apnoea and insomnia and keeps me awake all night. I don't want my holiday ruining by having no sleep.'

Also, re; jimmythewig's comments, I don't understand the bit where you say that it may not be fair on the person in the neighbouring room, because even if the OP's husband is in with her, there will still be someone next door who can hear his snoring. In fact, there could be people either side hearing it. At least with her one side, only 'one' other person will be potentially affected. Apart from this, I can't see it being that bad, as there will be a wall in between the rooms.

I genuinely, seriously think that nobody else will give a fig. The travel agent OR the other people on the trip. Like I said, they don't know you, so what's it to them? Hell would freeze over before I'd care about what people I don't know think about me.

Enjoy your holiday Flossie. You, and your husband.