Holidays for 'special occasions' - how do you decide where to go?

lostinrates

lostinrates wrote: »

What would he like to do?



Failing that, is there Anywhere either of you have unexplored links with or that's important internationally to a hobby or interest you share?

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

I'm guessing the question I should be asking is how do you deal the situation when one person wants to go on holiday but the other one isn't that bothered??

He likes the outdoors - I think his ideal holiday would be to climb Kilimanjo (my idea of hell!) - and neither of have ties

Errata wrote: »

It's not rocket science. You choose one week, he chooses one week.

But a holiday isn't what he wants to do to mark the occasion.....that's really what I was asking, what is his alternative to a holiday?

What would he like to do to mark the year? Anything? Something different to a holiday?

I think going on a holiday I'd picked for OUR anniversary would be disillusioning for me unless he was saying...I want to tKe you wear you want to go!

gettingtheresometime

lostinrates wrote: »

But a holiday isn't what he wants to do to mark the occasion.....that's really what I was asking, what is his alternative to a holiday?

What would he like to do to mark the year? Anything? Something different to a holiday?

I think going on a holiday I'd picked for OUR anniversary would be disillusioning for me unless he was saying...I want to tKe you wear you want to go!

tbh he isn't a very 'let's mark the occasion (whatever that may be)' person - but he's gone along with things because I guess I've wanted to do something (as I said he sounds a misery but he isn't really!)

He is the sort of person who will have an argument about, for example, this holiday and in two or so months time would come home with a handful of brochures so I guess the key is patience.....

kloana

I get where you're coming from, OP. My husband isn't passionate about travel. That's not to say he doesn't like it, but he would happily go without a holiday, whereas I need 2-3 per year (city breaks I mean, not budget-busting trips).

So I choose 100% when and where we go, as well as what we do/see upon arrival. We've been to some fantastic places, as well as some not so good. If something turns out a bit naff, I always feel guilty (though husband would never complain).

A bit of partnership and co-operation on travel decisions would be nice - but I can't see it on the horizon!

jackyann

I would park the money in savings, and say to each other "when we read or hear about something that makes both of us go "wow" then we can do it"
We have always done this rather than shoe-horn something on to a "special anniversary" and we have had some wonderful times.

happyandcontented

We did a trip around Italy for our 25th Anniversary. We flew into Rome, stayed for a few days, then took a train to Naples and rented a villa on the Amalfi Coast, and visited all the various places from there. Then train back up to Venice and home from there. It was fantastic.

scientificbabe

I suggest for a special holiday the Maxx Royal hotel Belek turkey, or Regnum carya , Belek, 2 luxury hotels 24hour all inclusive.
Not for everybody but these 2 hotels will blow you away.

Newly_retired

My DH is very much like yours, OP.
He will agree to a small scale holiday as long as it is within UK, self catering, only eating out a couple of times, ie on his terms.
I do make other suggestions but they seem to fall on deaf ears.

He would not object if I went somewhere on my own, but that's not what I want to do.

For our most recent special occasion, we had actually lost count of the number of years so only realised at short notice. We managed a short hotel break, which we both enjoyed.

Next year I have a special birthday coming up, so I am hoping he might agree to my proposals.
To be honest though, my best holidays have been trips with my choir, which he has declined to come on. His loss!

For ordinary holidays, our method is to agree a date, or choice of dates, a place, then I do all the internet research and present him with a couple of choices which I know will suit him. That way he thinks he has made the decision, so is happy, and I have had some say, within his perameters.

lady1964

What about you each write down a list of what you would each like to do, then read each other's out, then if there's not 2 things that are very similar then try to find some middle ground or combine two or three things if possible.

I'm lucky, me & my DH like very similar things so we usually agree on what to do for specials birthdays or anniversary, hope you can find something you will both enjoy!

hazyjo

If your OH isn't really fussed about holidays as such, what about a City break (as some have suggested)? I've been to Prague 9 times and NEVER get bored! Paris is also another huge fave - and no flights to worry about if you go Eurostar.


What's he into? Anything arty or cultured; somewhere you can walk lots and get around easily; somewhere warm; or would he rather be somewhere all inclusive staying put? That'll help your decision.


If you don't want to go too far (hard to suggest without knowing where you're from), but you could go to say Belfast, Edinburgh, Glasgow or London. I won 2 nights in London once and, despite working up here every day, we had a lovely time doing lots of walking, going on the Wheel, etc. Were right little tourists for a few days and it was wonderful. Nice meals (on deals). London is expensive, but you can cut a tonne of corners so the pricier things balance with the deals. (PS other cities are available - just happened to mention my faves.)


Jx

Sparkle_66

I can never decide where to go on holiday so now I just wait until 2 - 4 weeks before I want to go and book a late deal to anywhere in my budget. Having said that my 50th birthday is in November 2016 and I have decided on a Canaries cruise. I decided this having done a late deal cruise in 2012, my 18 year son came with me and said it was the best holiday we've had. I chose Canaries because it's still warm in November but may consider Egypt if necessary. With a cruise you can do as much or as little as you like, lots of entertainment to choose from and you get to visit a different place almost everyday. I'm so looking forward to it already.