Holidays for 'special occasions' - how do you decide where to go?

Mrs_Soup

For my 40th birthday I chose (South Africa), for husbands 40th next year he has chosen (with my approval) to go to his parents holiday home in France as his mum with throw a party for him and I won't. And we now have children which we didn't when i turned 40. We try to get away for a weekend for anniversarys - its the tenth this year so hoping to do New York (my choice- I'm seeing a pattern here) - last two years have been to Paris and Birmingham - both equally enjoyable.
My parents did a cruise for their 25th but nothing particularly for their 40th.

Alikay

We went to Lake Garda for our 25th anniversary a couple of years ago. We have always had good holidays as travel is a real passion of ours, but this was very different to our other holidays not least because it was without kids/teens . We stayed in a lovely lakeside boutique hotel and it felt very "grown up" and romantic

tomtontom

This is like pulling teeth ...

No one can help you without knowing your budget!

lostinrates

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

If I'm honest I think OH doesn't see the 'need' for the holiday - he's not against going on holiday per se, just he doesn't see why I feel the need to make it a special one

What would he like to do?



Failing that, is there Anywhere either of you have unexplored links with or that's important internationally to a hobby or interest you share?

gettingtheresometime

tomtontom wrote: »

This is like pulling teeth ...

No one can help you without knowing your budget!

I appreciate I'm asking what next week's lottery numbers are but all I can say is not stupid money...and yes I know 'stupid money' is subjective.

I'm guessing the question I should be asking is how do you deal the situation when one person wants to go on holiday but the other one isn't that bothered??

He likes the outdoors - I think his ideal holiday would be to climb Kilimanjo (my idea of hell!) - and neither of have ties

Georgiegirl256

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

I'm guessing the question I should be asking is how do you deal the situation when one person wants to go on holiday but the other one isn't that bothered??

You've got to come to a compromise somehow. Easier said than done I guess if you've got wildly different views on your ideal destinations.

It seems to be abit one sided though tbh. You want to go away but your husband doesn't.

I can see where your husband is coming from though, I don't buy into the whole 'special occasion must do something to celebrate it' thing either.

mgdavid

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

I appreciate I'm asking what next week's lottery numbers are but all I can say is not stupid money...and yes I know 'stupid money' is subjective.

I'm guessing the question I should be asking is how do you deal the situation when one person wants to go on holiday but the other one isn't that bothered??

He likes the outdoors - I think his ideal holiday would be to climb Kilimanjo (my idea of hell!) - and neither of have ties

we are in exactly the same position re: Kili !

One way would be both go to Kenya, he does Kili on his own while you laze on the beach or go on a game safari trip. You have a couple of days together either end of doing what you want.

gettingtheresometime

Georgiegirl256 wrote: »

I can see where your husband is coming from though, I don't buy into the whole 'special occasion must do something to celebrate it' thing either.

Normally I'd agree with you - we don't do valentines day, for example, and tend not to make a fuss over anniversaries.

I just thought given its a milestone anniversary, and the fact that we don't normally do holidays it would have been nice to go somewhere a tad different.....at this rate we will be going on separate holidays!

elsien

Mothers 70th, Norway, northern lights and dog sledding.
My 50th - travelling round Cuba to see it before the changes really kick in. ( couldn't afford the galapagos! )

One of you must have somewhere you've always wanted to go, surely?

Mrs_Soup

Unless he is actively against going somewhere would he not be happy just to go along with what you would like to do?
mgdavid's idea is a good one- safari is pretty outdoorsy and so long as you don't have to climb the mountain (I'm sure it looks great from the bottom) then you could have a lovely holiday. Prices could be variable depending on the degree of luxury you go for.