Struggling to move on :-(

vodkachick68

FBaby wrote: »

Maybe because it wasn't all bad, because OP even if treated badly in terms of commitment did have some great times, fun, excitment etc... with this man. Because it is upsetting to invest a lot of time, energy and emotions into something and get no return in the future. Because OP probably had dreams and these are now non existant, and she faces the fear that she might never had the chance again.

When I separated from my ex, it was a relief, but I was still upset that we had failed to make it work.

Precisely Fbaby,you have summed it up very nicely. In the beginning or honeymoon period we did have some good times and I thought stupidly that we both wanted a future together. As time went on I realised that maybe this wasn't going to happen but I was in too deep to break it off with him and I kept trying to convince myself that things would be fine in the end.

Shineyhappy

I think you should focus on some other aspects of your life and declutter, study, exercise, decorate, learn a new skill or whatever you fancy and concentrate on that.

There are articles on making your life 1% better by doing various small acts and maybe in doing those you could keep your mind off him and make other bits better?

I have been cheated on and time is a great healer. I met someone else 6 months after my ex cheated on me. We have been married 5 years and he is kind, considerate and very sweet!

marisco_2

VestanPance wrote: »

You learnt a valuable lesson. You can't trust anyone, so never be stupid enough to do so again.

To connect with others, place trust in them and let a friendship or relationship evolve is not a stupid thing to do at all. It is a natural and vital part of life. To allow the awful behaviour of one person toward you to cloud your view, and leave you thinking that every other individual you meet cant be trusted, suggests that your self esteem and confidence has been knocked terribly and not addressed.