This is a let off steam, a rant just that

victory

gettingtheresometime wrote: »

And gps are well known for keeping to appoitment times aren't they -and in fairness how did he know when you'd be out?

When you say he can talk freely does that mean he has a private office ? I can speak freely in my office but as its open plan I wouldn't want to talk about my OH's medical situation/treatment with all and sundry listening in.

I think you need to cut him some slack.

Well yes consultants can be late. He can leave his office as he does for meetings on the other side of the building, for lunch, for his coffee etc

Of course cut him slack, all the reasons/ possibilities/ time constraints and everything else that could be added is fair , he rang yesterday so can't be too hard eh?:D

Buzzybee90

I'd be upset to be honest. I'd feel like he didn't care enough to text or ring me. I think you're well within your rights to have a rant.

Ames

I think peachprice made a really good point about him not knowing you were out.

I think what's done is done, and the important thing is how he's reacting to the news, whether he's being supportive and interested etc.

MrsAtobe

victory wrote: »

I went to the consultant alone through choice, working day and all that, it was going to be the deciding consultation, we knew that, exactly feel a bit unloved and uncared for at the mo:eek: am I really worth nothing?:o

Both me and my OH have ongoing health problems, and if a deciding consult, than he will text me on his problems, and I will text him on mine.

Are you sure your OH knew it was the deciding consult?

mgdavid

For balance, another bloke's POV:- just another example of 'Mars and Venus'. Blokes are generally SO much more matter of fact and 'black and white' than women; if it wasn't life-threatening then it's not really important. Many of us only share information on a need-to-know basis, and would expect to do that as part of the evening round-up of the day's activities and events. Can't really add to that without knowing more about what effect this medical situation might have on the OP's household in the future, if any.

duchy

I'd be peed off too
He knew it was important to you, he knew you weren't looking forward to going and needed a bit of moral support.

On the other side men often don't do the big stuff by text or phone and he might have thought face to face was better- but by the time he got home you were already seething.

But yes after years together he should know when and how you'd like support too.

Hope the rant helped and the treatment does too.

b_girl

My DH has the worst memory for things like that. What he always tends to do is whenever we're discussing something important happening the night/morning before he'll say something like 'good luck, let me know how it goes' so I'll let him know what happens. I don't think it matters who rings who as long as the important info is relayed.

Do you ever phone him at work? He might've thought you'd phone him to let him know the outcome.

Derby2

I know it's not quite the same, but yesterday our 12 week old had his second lot of immunisations. Both times we've not had a text from daddy to see how he got on ( screaming the surgery down is the answer!) even though I expected one.

He did remember my contact lens check though and asked how that went! Even he can't explain why his brain only remembered the least important thing on the calendar. He did apologise when I reminded him bless him.

FBaby

Is it usual of his behaviour? Did he apologize and asked questions and showed interest when you finally told him?

My husband is very good normally about remembering about important events in my life, but he has more thinking and physical time during his working day to do so. However, if he has a particularly bad day, he might very well forget, even something very essential.

If that was the case, I would just wait for the text/call and gradually growing more resentful as the day go by to the point of snapping when the subject finally comes up. I would just text him and tell him about it.

I would hope that in a long term committed relationship, you would need to expect them to query about the important part of your life because they usually do and that a one-off ommission wouldn't result in a relationship crisis.

victory

Thank you to everyone for your support, as I always say it is very much appreciated, thank you very much:D

amesMrsAtobe yes he knew I was out and he knew it was yesterday.

mgdavid thank you
duchy thank you

b-girl yes we both ring.

Fbaby it's a missed phone call to show support/listening ear/offer help hardly a relationship crisis;):D

Thank you all, very, very much:D