This is a let off steam, a rant just that

victory

Had an appointment at docs today, big day, lots of decisions which way to go with meds, a bit nervous and apprehensive, OH knew, one would have thought he could spare a moments thought and ring or text to see how the meet went ?

never rang , yes he was at work, yes he was busy, yes he's much more important than me as he brings more to the table , works longer, obviously gets more tired,yes he's home now so can ask now instead he tells me defensively and unapologetically that it's all my fault that I have turned it into a big issue, that I should go and sulk upstairs,

now I'm upstairs, very annoyed, been told that I am unreasonable and ridiculous, crumbs a lot for thinking my OH could be bothered in his day to put in a call !


yes understood it is all pointless all the negatives but really is it too much to have a bit of support?

Tropez

yes he's much more important than me as he brings more to the table

Rant or not, this makes me sad.

Hope everything went okay at the docs. I forgot once my wife had an appointment (had mixed the days up). I apologised profusely when I realised my error. It's not too much to expect some support.

victory

Tropez wrote: »

Rant or not, this makes me sad.

Hope everything went okay at the docs. I forgot once my wife had an appointment (had mixed the days up). I apologised profusely when I realised my error. It's not too much to expect some support.

Thanks:D he did not forget just made me feel worthless that in the 12 hours he's been out of the house not even on a loo break or a lunch time or before he drove home or in between meetings I was in any way important enough to touch base with and ask, I feel well , that I'm good enough to do x y z for OH but to him I'm pointless.

Babbawah

Is your illness a personality disorder, mental health issue . . .?

victory

Babbawah wrote: »

Is your illness a personality disorder, mental health issue . . .?

No, not going to say as it's my business but no, not depression/ mental health issues/ autism/ bipolar etc no nothing like that

j.e.j.

I think I'd be a bit peeved too, tbh.

And no you're right, don't be drawn into giving details away about your drs appointment. Too many nosey parkers on this board

bylromarha

I assume by the use of "his" in your post, OH is male?

A lot of them do this - forget stuff or can't do personal whilst at work as it's multitasking. My OH will only respond to my texts if I'm going through big stuff and I text to say how its gone. He never initiates - just not in his make up to do that.

It's flipping annoying, I agree.

Grrrrrr victory's OH, Grrrrrrrrr.

But you know he still loves you, right? He's just been a doofus.

victory

j.e.j. wrote: »

I think I'd be a bit peeved too, tbh.

And no you're right, don't be drawn into giving details away about your drs appointment. Too many nosey parkers on this board

Thanks:D no going to, just wanted the poster to know it's not mental health related so others don't say oh it's because of that you got the hump;)

victory

bylromarha wrote: »

I assume by the use of "his" in your post, OH is male?

A lot of them do this - forget stuff or can't do personal whilst at work as it's multitasking.

It's flipping annoying, I agree.

Grrrrrr victory's OH, Grrrrrrrrr.

But you know he still loves you, right? He's just been a doofus.

Can't get past it atm, it's not impossible to call/ text, yes OH is male, yeah sure he loves me to the moon and back , he just showed me how very much he has my back today;)

bylromarha

victory wrote: »

Can't get past it atm, it's not impossible to call/ text, yes OH is male, yeah sure he loves me to the moon and back , he just showed me how very much he has my back today;)

I agree its not impossible, it's just flipping hard for them to get out of their zone. I don't think that way, neither do you, so can't comprehend why they wouldn't either.

Of course he has your back - he brings food to the table, eh?

Boys. Grrrrr. Sneak downstairs and grab a glass of red if your meds allow it.:D

victory

bylromarha wrote: »

I agree its not impossible, it's just flipping hard for them to get out of their zone. I don't think that way, neither do you, so can't comprehend why they wouldn't either.

Of course he has your back - he brings food to the table, eh?

Yes he does;)