I hate Christmas. Who's with me?

Brighton_belle

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Go out for a walk or something, I often go out on Xmas day for a ride round on my bike and there are loads of people out and about in the countryside/parks. Even people just by themselves.
If you cant get out get yourself some DvDs or books and music to listen to and just chill out at home. It doesnt have to be a really miserable day. Or you could do some baking if your interested in that.

If she is able to do that, given her very poor health, then she will already being doing those things every day to try and make every day a little interesting. Which would make xmas day exactly the same as every other day and when you are long term single and sick, finding the joy in such small pleasures every single day AND xmas day really is very very difficult.
Imagine - being in your twenties and for 8 years you haven't been able to earn a living that you long too, can't get on holiday, can't pursue the hobbies you long too, little hope of a relationship. Basic cooking is exhausting and you've little money for interesting ingredients to try something new anyway. And feeling ill every day with little relief.
Give the woman a break. Xmas is difficult - that doesn't make her a weak human being, lol.
Blimey most people whine when they get a 3 day cold. This OP is just saying one day a year is difficult.

Homeownertobe

Brighton_belle wrote: »

If she is able to do that, given her very poor health, then she will already being doing those things every day to try and make every day a little interesting. Which would make xmas day exactly the same as every other day and when you are long term single and sick, finding the joy in such small pleasures every single day AND xmas day really is very very difficult.
Imagine - being in your twenties and for 8 years you haven't been able to earn a living that you long too, can't get on holiday, can't pursue the hobbies you long too, little hope of a relationship. Basic cooking is exhausting and you've little money for interesting ingredients to try something new anyway. And feeling ill every day with little relief.
Give the woman a break. Xmas is difficult - that doesn't make her a weak human being, lol.
Blimey most people whine when they get a 3 day cold. This OP is just saying one day a year is difficult.

I think it's rather that Christmas is what you make of it, and if you're going to snap at people who are just trying to be supportive then it's no wonder it's just another day.

Brighton_belle

Homeownertobe wrote: »

I think it's rather that Christmas is what you make of it, and if you're going to snap at people who are just trying to be supportive then it's no wonder it's just another day.

I'm sorry if I appeared to be snapping, I merely wanted to offer an alternative view point: I didn't see the post I was responding to as supportive but lacking understanding of how painful life can be with a long term illness.
I was very ill for the decade of my twenties. I worked hard to remain very positive, but the greatest care and support I experienced came when I was allowed to whisper very occasionally 'I'm finding this very difficult today' and being heard and not told 'try harder'.
For anyone with someone long term ill in your life, who you see work really hard most of the time to stay positive and make the most of their circs, give them this gift, of an occasional expression of loss and sadness - it is so uplifting to receive.

Homeownertobe

Brighton_belle wrote: »

I'm sorry if I appeared to be snapping, I merely wanted to offer an alternative view point: I didn't see the post I was responding to as supportive but lacking understanding of how painful life can be with a long term illness.
I was very ill for the decade of my twenties. I worked hard to remain very positive, but the greatest care and support I experienced came when I was allowed to whisper very occasionally 'I'm finding this very difficult today' and being heard and not told 'try harder'.
For anyone with someone long term ill in your life, who you see work really hard most of the time to stay positive and make the most of their circs, give them this gift, of an occasional expression of loss and sadness - it is so uplifting to receive.

Sorry, I didn't mean you. I was referring to the other poster who has been quite rude to others offering supportive and helpful comments.

Brighton_belle

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Sorry, I didn't mean you. I was referring to the other poster who has been quite rude to others offering supportive and helpful comments.

Ah, ok thanks

johnunderwood

Me too... I hate it because I eat sooooo much ;p it's nice to meet my family but it's not huge so I'm seeing them almost everyday, it's nothing special for me...

KxMx

Homeownertobe wrote: »

Sorry, I didn't mean you. I was referring to the other poster who has been quite rude to others offering supportive and helpful comments.

Call me rude if you want, you are entitled to your opinion.

Just as I am entitled to my opinion that posters making assumptions I am not already trying to help myself out of this situation are not very nice, particularly helpful or supportive.

However well meaning it grates to be told life is what you make it and don't sit there waiting for someone to help etc. When that is actually all you've been doing continually for 8 years. But as usual people assume the worst and it never seemed to enter into anyone's mind I might be doing those things already and still find Christmas hard.

I have very few flash points and such advice however well meaning can be one of them, as is Christmas lol.

I never meant to cause any offence or upset however I did not expect those kind of attitudes to be directed towards me in a thread which is supposed to be about mutual support in disliking Christmas which is why I reacted defensively.

I won't reply again because I don't see that would be helpful. Plenty of assumptions have already been made about me and i've no wish to add further fuel to the fire but did want to make a final reply. So if anyone read this then thank you.

pickledonionspaceraider

KxMx wrote: »

I am not already trying to help myself out of this situation are not very nice, particularly helpful or supportive.

Plenty of assumptions have already been made about me

Have some posts been deleted then? as all I can see are people actually trying to be supportive of the limited information that they have of your situation.

I understand you have got a lot to deal with, but I can only see genuine people, and you snapping back at them

Oh well - I still hate Christmas

mumps

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

Hate it. Hate the bling and conspicuous consumption I am a Christian, but Christmas is very little to do with Jesus. Would hate it even more if there were little kids screaming all day. Always glad when it's over.:T

So would it be "No room at the inn" if Mary and Joseph arrived at your door with Baby Jesus?

Birdy12

The words 'stocking filler' are enough to put me off Christmas, particularly when it's uttered on MSE in March. :cool: