I hate Christmas. Who's with me?

Primrose

What irritates me slightly about Christmas cards is receiving them from acquaintances with whom you have absolutely no other contact for the remainder of the year and they just sign them Fred Bloggs! Alright, it lets you know they're still alive but if they're paying for the stamp anyway why not make an effort by writing a few words with their news?

Primrose

jackieblack wrote: »

Do you mean like this one? :wall: :wall: :wall:

Oh thank you! Is there any way I can copy :wall: and paste this icon into a few emails I am currently in the process of sending to banks and other institutions who are giving me a particularly frustrating time?
Or can they only be used on this site?

going_nowhere_fast

I actually love Christmas but hate the way all my friends, family members, colleagues, TV shows, adverts etc all show big family gatherings.

I'm a single mum to one child. We never get included with siblings celebrations, friends are with their own families and my parents sadly passed away.

LO is happy spending the day just the two us, playing with new toys and would be happy with beans on toast for Christmas dinner! But I miss being part of a large family gathering, I feel the odd one out and worry that LO will find Christmas boring alone with just mum when they are a teenager / young adult.

We have no visitors over the Christmas period because everyone is so 'busy', we never get invited over and I have stopped inviting them to ours because quite frankly its upsetting to be reminded they have no time for you or your child.

Don't get me started on the lack of phone calls. I realised last year that although I ring family to wish them merry Christmas they have yet to ever ring me so this year I wont be bothering.

melanzana

I am an unrelenting Bah Humbug when it comes to Christmas.

I totally understand that many people love that time of year, but I do not.

That is primarily because three very close relatives that I dearly loved have died. There will always be three empty spaces at the table now. It breaks my heart, so my heart is not in it anymore.

But I jog along and make the most of it, but I am so glad when the day is over. Just a personal thing.

Christmas can be a very sad time for many people for various reasons, so the jolly hockeysticks everyone is happy thing can make for a kind of sad time for many too.

Think on that, and remember it is just a day.

Gloomendoom

melanzana wrote: »

I am an unrelenting Bah Humbug when it comes to Christmas.

Cheer up. At least you're in the right thread.

melanzana

Gloomendoom wrote: »

Cheer up. At least you're in the right thread.

LOL you are right, a gloom and doom thread (just havin a laugh here re your username, hope you don't mind!)

It's not that I hate Christmas, It's that I don't like it much without those people who are gone now.

Each to their own, and we all have our own reasons and stories.

Still it's just one flippin day. Thanks be.

Gloomendoom

melanzana wrote: »

LOL you are right, a gloom and doom thread (just havin a laugh here re your username, hope you don't mind!)

It's not that I hate Christmas, It's that I don't like it much without those people who are gone now.

Each to their own, and we all have our own reasons and stories.

Still it's just one flippin day. Thanks be.

Although I do now enjoy Christmas, I do understand what you mean. When I was a teenager, my grandfather died on Christmas morning and the magic of Christmas just evaporated for me.

It was over twenty years before I started to enjoy it again. Mrs G loves it and her enthusiasm has rubbed off. It lasts twelve days in our house... you'd hate it.

codemonkey

I like Christmas, I do. I like the trees and the fairy lights and the yummy Christmas food (Lidl and Aldi are great for this). I like giving presents - for the past couple of year I've done homemade ones which are more expensive than buying stuff off the shelves but more personal.

I do not, however, like Christmas in bleeding November! Christmas adverts, Christmas music in the shops, Christmas movies on TV, people on fb boasting about having done their shopping and wrapped all their presents already, people talking about putting their tree up. It just erodes it - the very same people will be moaning in mid December that they're sick of Christmas. Leave it to December people.

Jagraf

All Christmas reminds me of is the hassle of separated parents and child sharing. Not being with my DD every other year was always hard (as it is for any parent). She's 16 now so does as she pleases.

I dislike the spending and the queues. I enjoy the more religious aspects and open fires.

I find it all over-rated and a bt depressing, and false.

Jagraf

going_nowhere_fast wrote: »

I actually love Christmas but hate the way all my friends, family members, colleagues, TV shows, adverts etc all show big family gatherings.

I'm a single mum to one child. We never get included with siblings celebrations, friends are with their own families and my parents sadly passed away.

LO is happy spending the day just the two us, playing with new toys and would be happy with beans on toast for Christmas dinner! But I miss being part of a large family gathering, I feel the odd one out and worry that LO will find Christmas boring alone with just mum when they are a teenager / young adult.

We have no visitors over the Christmas period because everyone is so 'busy', we never get invited over and I have stopped inviting them to ours because quite frankly its upsetting to be reminded they have no time for you or your child.

Don't get me started on the lack of phone calls. I realised last year that although I ring family to wish them merry Christmas they have yet to ever ring me so this year I wont be bothering.

This reminds me of my ex who always had to give me a figure of just how many people he had round in his big house for Christmas Day. I always felt in competition, although I dd have family.

I still wait for his figures .... "We have 25 for christmas lunch" or "we've had to borrow chairs from all the neighbours". It's funny now but at the time I just felt inferior.

The funniest thing is that he doesn't even like his family it just looks good for the photographs.