Child benefit tribunal help

moodycow2

OP, stop wingeing and get over yourself. Start putting the children first, think how much better a role model you will be if you get a job, pay for yourself rather than letting the government pay for you. If your ex is being obstructive, just take the higher moral ground. After all, you're doing this for your children...... aren't you???


Caroline
do you or did you receive any benefits??

Caroline_a

No and no. I brought up 3 children for the most part on my own, and had no maintenance for my youngest daughter ever from her father, and intermittent bits and pieces from my first husband. I worked full time the whole time, juggled childcare and brought up 3 girls with no help from the state apart from their child benefit payments.

jayII

moodycow2 wrote: »

OP, stop wingeing and get over yourself. Start putting the children first, think how much better a role model you will be if you get a job, pay for yourself rather than letting the government pay for you. If your ex is being obstructive, just take the higher moral ground. After all, you're doing this for your children...... aren't you???


Caroline
do you or did you receive any benefits??

What's that got to do with anything?

I've never claimed tax credits, income support or any other help to raise my children (apart from child benefit) but that doesn't mean I have any issue with people who do claim benefits to help them through rough times, such as illness or in-between jobs. Or who claim much needed top-up benefits such as WTC. It just means I'm fortunate to have a good, hardworking husband and that I have a good work ethic myself.

Your bitterness is really unpleasant. It's a really unhealthy and unattractive trait. I can't understand why you aren't using this time and energy to improve your skills, to secure a good job, instead of ranting at the unfairness of life, like a small child.

I hope your ex isn't as bitter as you, I feel sorry for the children if she is.

moodycow2

jayII wrote: »

What's that got to do with anything?

I've never claimed tax credits, income support or any other help to raise my children (apart from child benefit) but that doesn't mean I have any issue with people who do claim benefits to help them through rough times, such as illness or in-between jobs. Or who claim much needed top-up benefits such as WTC.

that is all im saying
ticked all three boxes and get slated for it

lozzy81

Please stop talking about benefit books! You are never going to get the £13.55 a week for any child. You made the choice to spend all your money on the court order. You make the choice to pick the children up from school. You choose to keep them after school and feed them. Two nights a week is hardly "shared care" and it is your choice to spend time with them. You are not going to get any extra benefits. You need to get a job. Full time. It is the mothers responsibility to sort out child care arrangements if she is working. Do you really believe they live on a few bowls of cornflakes?? I don't get any tax credits only child benefit for one child... Please stop being bitter and jealous and get a job, earn the money to feed your own kids.

jayII

moodycow2 wrote: »

jayII wrote: »

What's that got to do with anything?

I've never claimed tax credits, income support or any other help to raise my children (apart from child benefit) but that doesn't mean I have any issue with people who do claim benefits to help them through rough times, such as illness or in-between jobs. Or who claim much needed top-up benefits such as WTC.

that is all im saying
ticked all three boxes and get slated for it

Nonsense. You've stated you're claiming JSA, what is that? Money from trees? You've also said your ex is claiming these benefits for your children. Do you think they should be paid twice to fund your lifestyle choices? :rotfl:

It is not society's fault if you choose not to insist that your ex feeds and looks after the children on 'her' days. Nor is it society's fault if you choose not to find a way of earning money in the 5 days, each week, that you do not officially have care of your children.

You seem to have bitterness in spades and a massive sense of entitlement! Yeuch!

FBaby

I lost sympathy when you mentioned claiming csa from your ex knowing that she'll get next to nothing from you on JSA. And you're surprised she contested your actions?

SnooksNJ

moodycow2 wrote: »

Perhaps s people should read my post more carefully- I am not saying I don't want to work in fact quite the opposite but my ex chooses to work Part time whereas I am denied such option . Fact is that even if I worked part time I would get no assistance from the govt whereas my ex does . I have the children in real terms 4 days a week . Oh perhaps because their mum gives them a couple more bowls of cereal she am have the luxury of working part time and receiving substantial state benefits .
So any criticism regarding receipt of benefits should not be directed at me.
I spent my life savings so I could achieve a Joint Residence Order
Be interesting to know Nannytone whether you receive any Tax Credits ??????????.
I am only applying for one lower rate child benefit book after all simply so we are both on a level playing field

So whose fault is it you had unprotected sex, made babies, and have decided not to get an overnight job somewhere.
Actually you are lucky because I know a lot of father's who have their kids 2 nights a week and pay child support.

SnooksNJ

Housing_Benefit_Officer wrote: »

The solicitor must be laughing all the way to the bank. They love people like you. I think most solicitors don't want to resolve things as quickly and cheaply as possible but want confrontation so they can 'grow' the case and increase the costs and with you they found a perfect meal ticket. I assume there were lots of hearings before the final hearing? I won't even ask about mediation before litigation. Looks like you are using your children as nothing more than a way to get more benefits and using the court order as a weapon to batter your ex.

This statement says it all:
"this was just a scenario to prove to people that who ever has the cb book owns the children"

lozzy81

moodycow2 wrote: »

thanks for the advice
but I can not claim csa because I don't have cb book
this was just a scenario to prove to people that who ever has the cb book owns the children
so ex can earn 10,000 a week and I cant claim a thing


so if ex earns £500 a week gets cb and working tax credits and family tax
im employed but on minimum wage
ex can then get csa involved just to rub salt into the wounds


plain and simple
all im trying to do is make people aware of this situation.

No one owns children!!!! You made them you care for them!! end off!!!