What are your thoughts on online dating vs real world dating?

LilElvis

Sassy_gnome wrote: »

I LOVE YOU KINGSLAYER

It's not weird to compliment someone's shoes, by complementing something other than chest, eyes or !!! he is being a true gent

Sassy, aren't you "breaking the rules" by posting?

I seem to recall a "goodbye" thread in which you claimed that you wouldn't be posting again until December because you are under 18 and that that is the minimum age required for posting on this forum.

Or was that another porkie pie?

duchy

Depends.... If you do it with sincerity and don't stand waiting for a reaction then it isn't creepy and if she sees you again she just might remember you. If you say it then stand there expectantly.....it's creepy !

pinpin

Hmmmm....Interesting that most people think it's odd to compliment and initiate conversations with strangers on the street.

I've always thought of it as an American thing.
I'm aware of the whole PUA thing, and I remember reading posts from frustrated Brits a few years back, who couldn't understand how their American counterparts were enjoying so much success. Americans girls were much more open to talking to strangers.
Us Brits find it strange, lol. Guess we're much much less social than them in general.

This cold approach would be more acceptable in clubs/pubs I guess, even for us uptight Brits.

It also depends what you're after.
I have a few friends who use Apps and online dating to have sex with different (much younger) girls most weekends. You need to be good looking!

Of my friends who have girlfriends/wives, a huge percentage of them met their other halves at work.

csnann

If he really wants to meet women, he could try the advice given here: http://captainawkward.com/2014/08/26/617-all-the-dating-advice-again/

Caroline_a

I do think it's pretty much a given that most women would find some random stranger coming up to them and complimenting them on something they were wearing very creepy.

I once worked with someone who did this to other staff members (particular junior ones) who he really didn't know. He was reported several times for sexual harassment and lost his job. He had no concept that he was making these young women feel very uncomfortable...

Peter333

purpleshoes wrote: »

I think she'd probably be thinking, who is this effing nutter and how hard can my lovely shoes kick him in the gonads/where's the nearest police station.

I remember someone made an attempt to chat me up in a swimming pool of all places, years ago but Ive never forgotten it, some random bloke swam up to me and asked me did I want to start chatting to him because he liked the look of me, he got the evil death stare and I got away from him as soon as I could.

You don't practice your chat up techniques on women in the street. Thats not real life dating, thats just mental. You dont know what someones marital status is as Im sure someone said earlier and you don't know what someone's relationship baggage is either, someone who has escaped an abusive relationship for example, do you think they want some stranger coming up to them complimenting them on their hair/shoes/teeth

Weird doesnt cover it, its just totally bonkers.

This ^^^ Good post. :T

Indie_Kid

pinpin wrote: »

Hmmmm....Interesting that most people think it's odd to compliment and initiate conversations with strangers on the street.

It depends how you go about it. A male friend of mine did this to me, which wasn't too bad. Because unlike some men, it wasn't a creepy compliment about me. He struck up a conversation about games. (I was just about to leave Game)

We once bumped into his parents and he'd told them how we met. To which his mother replies "he's such a creep, isn't he?"

That was January. We're now close friends.

I have no interest in internet dating at all.

System

I think, when i'm ready i will probably do online dating again.

Realistically i know i'm not going to meet anyone at work, the social club (if you can call it that) is full of people younger than me so doubt i'd meet anyone that way, and the place i occasionally go to on a night out, well is full of drunk people and loud music so not ideal for meeting anyone (though i did meet an ex there...lol). For me online dating gives me more confidence as i can find people with similar interests and get to know them. The relationship i've just come out of was with someone i met online, and we did have a happy 2 1/2 years together but ultimately it wasn't meant to be, but that hasn't put me off online dating.

I encouraged my best friend to online date after he was single for about 4 years and he met an awesome girl who he has now moved in with and expecting a baby with, so i do think it can work