What are your thoughts on online dating vs real world dating?

kingslayer

I come in peace! :beer: no more whining from me, just want to hear your opinions.

Basically, i just wanted to know what you guys thought of online dating vs real world dating?

For a while now i have been sporadically trying out meeting women on the street. I just compliment girls on what they're wearing or how they look, then just try to get into a conversation with them. It doesn't always work, but i find there are women who respond well and it brightens up their days.

I think to myself, if i can just make a person feel good about themselves/their appearance, and it doesn't take more than a couple of seconds to compliment someone, then why not; and if it leads to something more, great!

Anyway, i was wondering if real world, meeting opposite sex on the street, in coffee shops, in supermarkets etc, is the way forward.

I have tried online dating before and there's a lot of game players on those sites, not to mention fakes. I tend to question the genuinity of online dating, including the women.

You often hear stories of women and men meeting people online without confessing that they're in relationships or marriages, only for the husband/wife/partner to find out and end up so distraught.

Do you think it's about time that we started meeting people offline, instead of relying on technology to date, or do you think that online dating is actually worthwhile?

missbiggles1

kingslayer wrote: »

I come in peace! :beer: no more whining from me, just want to hear your opinions.

Basically, i just wanted to know what you guys thought of online dating vs real world dating?

For a while now i have been sporadically trying out meeting women on the street. I just compliment girls on what they're wearing or how they look, then just try to get into a conversation with them. It doesn't always work, but i find there are women who respond well and it brightens up their days.

I think to myself, if i can just make a person feel good about themselves/their appearance, and it doesn't take more than a couple of seconds to compliment someone, then why not; and if it leads to something more, great!

Anyway, i was wondering if real world, meeting opposite sex on the street, in coffee shops, in supermarkets etc, is the way forward.

I have tried online dating before and there's a lot of game players on those sites, not to mention fakes. I tend to question the genuinity of online dating, including the women.

You often hear stories of women and men meeting people online without confessing that they're in relationships or marriages, only for the husband/wife/partner to find out and end up so distraught.

Do you think it's about time that we started meeting people offline, instead of relying on technology to date, or do you think that online dating is actually worthwhile?

I'd call the police if you tried that on me!

kingslayer

missbiggles1 wrote: »

I'd call the police if you tried that on me!

:rotfl: I am sure many women would say the same as you, but a simple compliment isn't harming anyone. Also, i guarantee even the most hardened, stressed woman would enjoy a nice, genuine compliment from a stranger.

There's plenty of videos on you tube regarding approaching women; even a video with a woman who teaches a guy who's struggled to meet women, to meet them on the street.

Peter333

I prefer face to face, but I am old school. Born long before the internet LOL.

I find the idea of meeting a potential partner online a bit creepy.

Sorry if that offends anyone: it's just me, I am old fashioned.

Have you tried speed dating Kingslayer?

HPoirot

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Who is going to give the time of day to some creep stopping them on the street to compliment them on their appearance???

BigAunty

I tend to find it hard to reconcile your two sides.

You claim to have history of depression and anxiety, long term unemployment, a lack of resourcefulness to finding education, training and a job, cite frustration with living at home and not becoming fully independent.

Then you become some kind of chirpy lothario.

How do you do this?

kingslayer

HPoirot wrote: »

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

Who is going to give the time of day to some creep stopping them on the street to compliment them on their appearance???

Me: "Hi HPoirot, excuse me, this is really random, but i saw those shoes you were wearing and they look great on you."

HPoirot: *smiling* "Oh, thank you!"

Me: "That was all, have a good day"

HPoirot: "Yes, you too" *still smiling*

kingslayer

BigAunty wrote: »

I tend to find it hard to reconcile your two sides.

You claim to have history of depression and anxiety, long term unemployment, a lack of resourcefulness to finding education, training and a job, cite frustration with living at home and not becoming fully independent.

Then you become some kind of chirpy lothario.

How do you do this?

I try this to get over my social anxiety and improving my conversation skills. I would never class myself as a lothario - yet!

It doesn't take much to do, and I can do it while i'm out and about.

dandelionclock30

Troll a doodle dandy,For a while now i have been sporadically trying out meeting women on the street yes of course you do. Stop coming on here and taking the hit and miss all the time.

Theres no hope for this person and they are even sadder than the person they pretend to be.

giantmutantbroccoli

If your approach to women online is the same as your approach to women in the street, I'm not surprised you've had problems with online dating. You'll need to try something a bit less formulaic than "That's a smashing blouse you have on" or "Oh, you like that thing? I like that thing too!"

I have been on several dates with guys who messaged me through a dating website, and had interesting conversation with a lot more. I have been on zero dates with random guys who complimented me in the street, and didn't pursue so much as a conversation with any of them. It's a very odd thing to do, and most women will think you odd or creepy for doing it.

Person_one

You've not been reading those pick-up artist sites have you? That's just what the female population needs...