christmas birthdays

Chezcat

My birthday is 4 Jan and when I was younger I would receive Christmas cards with Happy Birthday also written in them so I used to retaliate by sending those people a birthday card also saying have a Happy Christmas.

sillyvixen

my parents birthdays are both in the week before Christmas, and my dad is really hard to buy for - hence he always gets a voucher for his birthday!! this is not as bad as it sounds, he always gets a voucher to put towards something for his model railway layout and i would not know where to start buying something for that as well as something he is not expecting. one year i made a batten berg cake, he loves mr kiplings version (most infuriating recipe ever - the next year it was coffee cake). this year i have found a photo of him lighting the fire of a real steam engine at the steam railway he volunteers for as a fireman, after contacting the website i saw the picture on and explaining - i have the photographers permission to print the picture and frame it for his birthday. Dad does not do internet and will have never have seen the photo - i intend to get it framed to put up in his train room.

last year for my mums birthday - i found a teapot in a charity shop (Victorian jack field ware that she collects for £3.50) it looked a bit ropey and i was intending to put it in her stocking - once cleaned it became apparent that most of the decoration was just hiding under the grime. i used it as a container for a voucher for a massage at her local salon.

so both my parents get vouchers for their birthdays - but i try my best to find something they are really surprised with.

Better than a generic bottle of wine or box of chocolates with a voucher.

aliaslotte

My partner's birthday is on the 19th December.

I also get him a completely separate set of presents, wrapped in birthday paper [obviously], and I plan ahead. In fact, I think I've already got most of his presents for both his birthday and for Christmas too, as I shop little and often throughout the year when I see things people might like or spot things at great prices.

I try to spoil him on his birthday, make it a day without any real mention of Christmas coming up, so hopefully he doesn't feel it is too overpowered by the Christmas celebrations that follow.

In a way, it would be better if it were just a few days closer to the Christmas - from a selfish point of view. Working in a school, I am normally still in when it is his birthday, dealing with the rush of activity that comes before Christmas [eg, nativities etc]. Just a couple of days later would give me the chance to spoil him all day long instead lol.

tibawo

Dd2 was due Xmas eve but arrived jan. Standing joke that she ruined my christmas that year as I could not drink!! Lol!

I make an effort to make sure Xmas decorations are down so she knows we are celebrating her bday. Presents wise it can work both ways that she can have joint ones if more expensive but to be honest this year for Xmas other than my old phone she wants nothing else. I hate buying things for sake of it so might ask for a token pressie and put cash in bank rather than just fritter it.

mathsus

My birthday is the 20th Dec. I have had a chip on my shoulder about this for 59 years now! As a young child I remember great birthdays and parties but as a teen it felt as if it was always either the last day of term, or the last weekend before Christmas, so it was either spent travelling or shopping for presents for others. As an adult it became almost impossible to ever have a party as that was the weekend everyone went away to see their in-laws before Christmas. I also know it's a burden for my children as they are strapped for cash at this time of year. My ex had a Christmas birthday too and not only did we get joint presents but also we often got just 1 present to cover all 4 occasions! I am ashamed of myself for moaning but it's great to get it off my chest. One of my grandchildren has a Boxing Day birthday, so I will always feel affinity with him and make an extra big effort.

notanewuser

Husband has a New Year birthday which has any of the same issues as a Xmas birthday.

We don't really do Xmas (and certainly never on the 25th December) and make a bigger fuss of birthdays. Every 5 years (on significant birthdays and mid-decade ones) we have a half birthday party for him.

haras_nosirrah

One of my friends daughters is a Christmas Day baby. We celebrate on the closest weekend to the 25th of june

clarryd

I am a Christmas baby, but have never had any problems with getting a separate present as my mother didn't allow it. She would say if my Birthday was in June then people would have to buy me a gift in June and she bought everyone else'e children a Birthday present so there was no excuse for them to buy me a Birthday present.

I now have a great nephew who is also a Christmas baby and the rule applies to him also.

No joint present.

springdreams

mathsus wrote: »

My birthday is the 20th Dec. I have had a chip on my shoulder about this for 59 years now! As a young child I remember great birthdays and parties but as a teen it felt as if it was always either the last day of term, or the last weekend before Christmas, so it was either spent travelling or shopping for presents for others. As an adult it became almost impossible to ever have a party as that was the weekend everyone went away to see their in-laws before Christmas. I also know it's a burden for my children as they are strapped for cash at this time of year. My ex had a Christmas birthday too and not only did we get joint presents but also we often got just 1 present to cover all 4 occasions! I am ashamed of myself for moaning but it's great to get it off my chest. One of my grandchildren has a Boxing Day birthday, so I will always feel affinity with him and make an extra big effort.

Now see this annoys me. I have this same issue with my DS from some of my family members. Your birthday has been the same day for 59 years. Christmas has been the same day forever ... People know both events are coming, so have ample time to plan and budget for them. They could put the money aside for your birthday in any other month of the year, or even put an amount each month away towards it so that come your birthday they don't struggle because it is also Christmas.

Spendless

mathsus wrote: »

My ex had a Christmas birthday too and not only did we get joint presents but also we often got just 1 present to cover all 4 occasions! I am ashamed of myself for moaning but it's great to get it off my chest.

You get it off your chest. Me and my husband have birthdays exactly 1 week apart and my ILS do us the 'shared' present and it infuriates me to hell. I can imagine it's far worse if people are rolling Christmas into it too! (we don't have this as our birthdays are in Autumn)You make them aware of doing it differently with your boxing day grandchild.;)