christmas birthdays

mathsus

Thanks for all the lovely sympathy! I have to say, none of my children have ever given me a joint present or a birthday present in Xmas paper... can't say the same for others!

olgadapolga

My DS2 is 22nd December and my DD2 is 29th December. We do not merge their birthdays with Christmas and never will. Christmas decorations don't go up until Christmas Eve anyway (long standing tradition) and we make sure that they are down before DD2's birthday (I've usually had enough of them after a couple of days TBH). I've always said that they deserve to have their birthdays without the Christmas stuff everywhere. We celebrate their birthdays independently from Christmas - last year my son wanted to see The Hobbit so we did but we've been bowling and things as well. Poor chap just has to decide what he wants to do well in advance of his birthday so I can get it booked though.

I cannot think of anyone who has tried to merge their birthdays. Birthday presents are wrapped in birthday paper and birthday cards are not modified Christmas cards.

pigpen

Mine is 26th... I loathe it..




I refuse to have presents wrapped in Christmas paper. you wouldn't do it for a June birthday so why do it with mine..


I hate the 'joint birthday/Christmas'... effing cheapskates.. you'd have bought me that anyway you're just too stingy to get me 2 gifts!! Even if one is a bag of maltesers that's fine, just make the effort!

I have never been out to celebrate my birthday.. not once.

On my birthday I get to clean up in the morning.. cook food for everyone and 8 extended family members this year this will be 12 or 14.. then I get to wash-up and clean some more.


There is nothing more humiliating than having to sit there while people sing 'happy birthday' to you when it is the one day of the year you wish you had never been born.

I hate my birthday.. I don't mind being older, I just hate the day.

We have family birthdays 15, 17, 25 November, (DD1's baby due 16th), 2, 10, 19, 22, 26 (mine) 27, 2x 28, 3x 30, 31 December, 1, 10, 15, 22, 25 January, 2, 3, 6 and 8 February.

It is insane!

ALou19

Mine is a week before Xmas which still kind of sucks! As a kid it was the most annoying thing...having to wait all year for two things to come at once! Haha.

From memory I can't think I have ever received joint bday/xmas presents although my mum has told me that when she found out I was to be a December baby she made clear to family that my birthday and Christmas were two separate occasions and should be treat that way. She didn't want me getting joint presents as my sibling who had a spring birthday wouldn't be treated that way so why should I?

As for receiving birthday presents in Christmas wrap, I remember this happening once. The first year I was with my boyfriend! Can't say he has done it again though after I pointed out how lazy he was!

vikki_louise

I'm on the 21st, as a child we didn't put decorations up until the 22nd, never joint presents or joint cards from family (I was always gretful for any cards or gifts but used to wonder why people went to the effort of splitting up hat and scarf sets and the year that wins was the old lady who gave me a left glove for my birthday, any guesses as to what was my Christmas presemt?). My parents always made my birthday special, I couldn't imagine going to school on it like most kids do. One thing my mum struggled with was buying a cake (I had homemade when little), what is it with celebration cakes in supermarkets and card shops getting rid of all birthday stock in December? 1/12th of the population was born during it! As a young child I used to get a little present on my dad's birthday in June, generally a garden/summer toy and we called it my 2nd birthday. I know a family who don't do parities or cakes for their kids December birthdays and instead relocate it all to the summer!

stimpy27

Mine is Christmas Day and I think it is preferable to being too close to christmas as people never forget if its on the day, I rarely work my birthday and despite never going out for my birthday (everyone too busy/skint/away with family) I have a fab celebration every year without fail with everyone in a good mood. Agree with no washing up too!
When I was little my mum was very strict about separate presents and having birthday time which I loved. Downside as a kid seeing something you really want in January and knowing you'll have to wait 11 months x

mamto3

Both my Nana and Nephew were born on Christmas Day 80 years apart! For that reason alone it is a special day (this year 15 & 95).

My Nana stays at my mums on Christmas eve and for as long as I can remember she has had separate presents for each and they are opened at different times. My Nephews presents have always been the same as Nana's in that they are totally separate (he used to get his birthday present off my Gran in June which thankfully doesn"t happen anymore) - now being 15 though he sometimes chooses a joint present!!

My brother in laws is 28th but that never causes an issue!

Flowfy

mine is the 29th dec. hate it. never had a party. only worked on 1 of my birthdays....my 21st. from the time I was about 13, my parents just give me an envelope with money in on the day. so a lot of the time I had no presents. my husband now hates 29th December, because generally, I am depressed or cry. he tries, a bit, but he generally isn't good at anyone's birthday, because I do them. I have had many a joint present, and more presents in Christmas wrapping than not. on my 40th birthday, I lay in bed and my ceiling fell in on me. I have stopped him getting me a cake, because every year the only one that was there was a stupid catapillar cake made out of a chocolate log. I never put my cards up, because I only have 3 anyway, so that gets me down too.

stickypudding

I'm a Christmas day baby too :wave: and have got to say I really don't mind and can't say that I ever have (that I can remember) nor do I mind never going out for my birthday especially, as I try to go out with the hubster for a meal when the kids are out anyway!


My parents split when I was young so I would spend time with both sets over the Christmas period, that way celebrations always lasted about 3 weeks! I've never missed having a birthday mid year as I've never known any different.

My mum was strict about birthday and Christmas presents being separate things, and this hasn't really caused much of an issue that I'm aware of?!

I like the fact that I have never worked on my birthday and again nor do I do the washing up! I don't mind cooking the lunch which I tend to take in turns to do every other year with my mum.


Nowadays I'm pushing mid thirties with 2 boys under 10 and the day is more about them than anything else, which is just fine by me! :):)

7roland8

Coming at it from the other side - seems a bit harsh to 'refuse' gifts if in Christmas wrapping.


Also why think you are a 'burden' to your children for having a birthday near xmas? Unless you expect extravagant gifts?


Flow - so sorry to hear of your birthdays - it does seem a pity that you do others' birthdays and no one does anything for you - but I did have to smile at the caterpillar cake, sorry.


If very close or on Christmas you could always have a 'half' birthday in June with party etc - especially when not a child.


Personally I find it hard when people have birthdays in December or early January as I am thinking of all the Christmas gifts and then have to get extra ones on top.


Have MIL, 2 friends, 2 nieces and sister. However I always do their gifts separately and never in xmas wrap - or a Christmas card - now that is pushing it a bit.