if you don't have a will can you answer please?

skylight

Penguingirl - your OH will only get your house if its jointly owned as "Joint Tenants". If you co-own it as "tenants in common" then your share goes into your estate upon death and will be dealt with under intestancy rules if you haven't a will and left your share to someone (so your parents will get it). So check that out.

savingmummy

Seanymph wrote: »

Will they go into social services care? Really? That is what you want for your children?

Sadly yes! There is no one who could have the children.
Its a horrendous thought and of course its not what I want for my children!!

aurion22

skylight wrote: »

I really need to get on and re-do my will, urgently, but I procrastinate....

There are several "free" will schemes where you give a donation to a charity. MSE link for further information:
http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/family/free-cheap-wills

Don't put it off any longer!

Loretta

skylight

aurion22 wrote: »

There are several "free" will schemes where you give a donation to a charity. MSE link for further information:
http://www.moneysavingexpert.com/family/free-cheap-wills

Don't put it off any longer!

Loretta

I haven't Loretta - I did mention at the end of that post that I had made the appointment! And I have it all worked out, asked relevant people and upset my Mum who is not first choice as guardian....


But great for posting that link for wills; perfect for most people on here who haven't got one either!

Primrose

What really surprises me on this thread is the number of people who quite selfishly in my opinion have given no thought whatsoever to the people left behind if they die and the extra hassle THEY will encounter trying to sort out their affairs without a will, even if their affairs are quite simple.
It's bad enough being bereaved and losing somebody you love. It is 100 times worse when they have have died leaving their mess for you to sort out when the simple act of leaving a will would have made life easier for them. It's not just about YOU and what you have, or haven't t got in the way of assets. It's about making life easier for your loved ones left behind at a difficult time.

Primrose

What really surprises me on this thread is the number of people who quite selfishly in my opinion have given no thought whatsoever to the people left behind if they die and the extra hassle THEY will encounter trying to sort out their affairs without a will, even if their affairs are quite simple.
It's bad enough being bereaved and losing somebody you love. It is 100 times worse when they have have died leaving their mess for you to sort out when the simple act of leaving a will would have made life easier for them. It's not just about YOU and what you have, or haven't t got in the way of assets. It's about making life easier for your loved ones left behind at a difficult time.

purpleshoes_2

I dont have a will but I need to get it sorted out soon, I dont have much to leave and I dont have kids either, but I do have some fairly distant relatives who would have a claim on certain monies that I want my brother to have in the event of my death, life insurance (not quite but a similar plan). My mum has had her will done for years and my gran had one as well, so I have to get my backside in gear and get it sorted soon.

I also have relatives on my dads side who dont know me and have never had anything to do with me in my entire life who would also be able to claim for a share of my estate (when I say estate it would be a five figure sum should I die tomorrow), but its my brother who I want it to go to or split between my brother and my mum if I die before her, so I'll do it as soon as possible.

Mojisola

purpleshoes wrote: »

I dont have a will but I need to get it sorted out soon, I dont have much to leave and I dont have kids either, but I do have some fairly distant relatives who would have a claim on certain monies that I want my brother to have in the event of my death, life insurance (not quite but a similar plan). My mum has had her will done for years and my gran had one as well, so I have to get my backside in gear and get it sorted soon.

I also have relatives on my dads side who dont know me and have never had anything to do with me in my entire life who would also be able to claim for a share of my estate (when I say estate it would be a five figure sum should I die tomorrow), but its my brother who I want it to go to or split between my brother and my mum if I die before her, so I'll do it as soon as possible.

I don't want to put you off making a will but, if you aren't married and don't have children, then your parents would inherit everything you leave. If both parents have died, then any siblings would inherit. For distant relatives to inherit, everyone between them and you would have to be dead.

jaylee3

Primrose wrote: »

What really surprises me on this thread is the number of people who quite selfishly in my opinion have given no thought whatsoever to the people left behind if they die and the extra hassle THEY will encounter trying to sort out their affairs without a will, even if their affairs are quite simple.
It's bad enough being bereaved and losing somebody you love. It is 100 times worse when they have have died leaving their mess for you to sort out when the simple act of leaving a will would have made life easier for them. It's not just about YOU and what you have, or haven't t got in the way of assets. It's about making life easier for your loved ones left behind at a difficult time.

:T I know.

I don't think anyone is doing it maliciously. However, they are being thoughtless and very, very naive. If they think that things are going to go perfectly when they die, and everyone they leave behind won't fight like cat and dog, then I'm afraid they're likely to be sadly mistaken.

I find the 'yeah, we don't need to bother,' 'it'll be fine,' 'my family are great,' 'me and my partner/husband know he/she will just get everything, and that's that,' 'my spouse will never remarry yada yada' type comments rather worrying disturbing.

I find it particularly worrying that some people in a relationship but not married, with expensive assets, have no will. As has been pointed out, your partner's parents and siblings have as much right to his possessions as you do.

Are people THAT naive??? Do they seriously believe that it will all be OK, and that there will be no problems, should their partner die?

Seanymph

For me it's the parents who have not made any provision for their children.

As a parent doing nothing and hoping astounds me.

I understand it's hard - but as the arrangements wouldn't kick in unless they lose both parents and that's unlikely, in the event something traumatic means they children lose them both would they really want to inflict that on their children?

Who would actually step up? Would they want their grieving children picked up by someone they didn't know and the police and never to return to their home again?

Really?

To do nothing seems abhorrent to me.

If there is money attached to the kids then people may well fight for custody who wouldn't normally.

I'd rather have some say than no say. And eventually they would end up somewhere - just abandoning them at such at time seems indescribably awful to me.