Why are some ex's so spiteful?

duchy

lulu_92 wrote: »

Oh chick I've been there, it's hard but you have to let him have this strop. If he's worth his salt he will come back when he's in a better mood and you can choose what to do on yours terms.

Hope you're okay

Why on earth would she want him to come back? This is 2014 real women don't wait for him to bestow the favour of his presence on them.
I'm with a man capable of this kind of stupid behaviour and other women have let him get away with it in the past. He has done it to me once .....and got the shock of his life when it was made clear I don't tolerate that kind of behaviour. Two years down the line he's never done it again as I've made it clear I won't enable such pettiness and immaturity . If you want to be treated like an equal then act like one !
Mines even older btw .

74jax

I would now ignore every text, if you ignore ten texts then reply, he knows he needs to keep sending them to get a reply.

Pack up his stuff, leave it somewhere and drop a quick text 'hiya, I know you mentioned picking your stuff up, I'm out today so it's bagged and waiting for you at xXxX, hope this is ok but I thought it would save any more text between us and I'm sure you want your stuff back . Pleased you had a good night, but we've split up now, there's no need to keep texting me, so I think it's best you move on and stop trying to get in touch, I do wish you well'

barbiedoll

^^^^This

Don't engage with him any more than you have to. When he's got his stuff, you should probably block his number. He sounds like one of those drama queens who has to make every small argument rage on for days and it has to be all about him. You're well rid.

duchy

I'd bag it up and drop it at a friend's and then block him once you've let him know where it is.
Refuse to engage with him.

lulu_92

duchy wrote: »

Why on earth would she want him to come back? This is 2014 real women don't wait for him to bestow the favour of his presence on them.
I'm with a man capable of this kind of stupid behaviour and other women have let him get away with it in the past. He has done it to me once .....and got the shock of his life when it was made clear I don't tolerate that kind of behaviour. Two years down the line he's never done it again as I've made it clear I won't enable such pettiness and immaturity . If you want to be treated like an equal then act like one !
Mines even older btw .

Oh I agree, I meant that if it was just a strop on his part. Not suggesting she should take him back at all. I should have worded it better to say that he'll come crawling back and if he does she can tell him where to go - ending it on her terms, not his.

duchy

Surely it has already ended.
Having the last word isn't required

The best revenge...if required...... Is to be happy without him.

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To be honest. I don't need all this carp from him. Ive dated many a man. He's just the last in a string of no hopers. Seems to be self centred. Every relationship he had has failed. His marriage. He doesn't even have a home of his own. He owns nothing. What a waste of a few months.. Lucky for me ive got out now. Just realised what his other ex's had to put up with. No wonder hes got nothing. He seems very bitter in the texts considering he ended it with me. He was probably trying to control me by ending the relationship when he didn't get his way then trying to come back and he's still blamed me. Bit controlling ....

lulu_92

duchy wrote: »

Surely it has already ended.
Having the last word isn't required

The best revenge...if required...... Is to be happy without him.

Well that's what I meant. She can choose to do that and prove that she doesn't need him in her life to be happy. Sorry, I've got morning work brain!:rotfl:

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duchy wrote: »

Surely it has already ended.
Having the last word isn't required

The best revenge...if required...... Is to be happy without him.

Oh trust me. I am happy I won't be texting. I said what I had to say in a nice way. He obviously isn't happy as he thought he could swan back in my life otherwise he wouldn't of text. Seems he cut his nose to spite his face.

Vikipollard

Didn't you know, you were supposed to sit at home, crying and begging him to take you to the party? Or at the very least, be falling over yourself with apologies about how it was all your fault (whatever he claims you did to 'make' him break up with you) and you won't do it again.


The guy's a controlling loser and you're well rid. I'd dump his stuff at one of his mates houses - if he has any - and just tell him it's there. You don't need that jerk coming round to your house again.