Met an older woman...what am i doing?!

jaylee3

kingslayer wrote: »

what?! I am not attention seeking. if i wanted attention i would go dance in the middle of the high street.

okay, i understand to you that i may seem irritating, but i'm just really confused.

I am definitely not attention seeking.

I nek nominate you to do that, and get your 'older woman' to film it, and then post it on here.

jaylee3

kingslayer wrote: »

That's the problem, i don't know what i want. If i did i wouldn't be here looking advice. It is frustrating to say the least and is stressing me out.

I'm going for an assessment tomorrow to get on a gcse course to re-sit maths and english, but i'm sh*tting myself because I'm not good at maths, and i need to get my gcse's if i want to get onto an access course for university next year. However, even if i still can't decide what i want, i still want to retake these gcse's anyway.

On several of your threads you say you're 26, (27 this month apparently,) so why on earth are you re-doing GCSEs? What have you been doing for the last 11/12 years? Apart from having fantasies about older women and posting on online message forums about your fantasies...over and over and over again: the same message, the same drivel.

And you started another thread earlier, saying how people were losing the ability to communicate by communicating online. The irony is hilarious.

Tropez

Most people have been dating for at least a short while before they have relationship problems and need guidance.

You need guidance before you've even been on a date. That's a problem.

kingslayer

jaylee3 wrote: »

On several of your threads you say you're 26, (27 this month apparently,) so why on earth are you re-doing GCSEs? What have you been doing for the last 11/12 years? Apart from having fantasies about older women and posting on online message forums about your fantasies...over and over and over again: the same message, the same drivel.

And you started another thread earlier, saying how people were losing the ability to communicate by communicating online. The irony is hilarious.

No, I've just turned 26 this month. I am sure I've I explained this all before. I went to school but my mum died when i was 13, so my studies took a nosedive. we were studying for GCSE's so it affected me bad as well as having an unstable childhood due to my mother's breakdowns and mental health.

I left school with bad GCSE's and got a job at 16, then worked there for a year but got an saw injury to my finger and quit there, then I decided to go to college at 17, well, I turned 18 when I started. I had to do a foundation year because my grades were poor. I finished that and went on to the 2 year BTEC course, finished that a few months before 21st birthday.

I had a job at the time at sainsburys and continued with that for a few months, then decided the next year I was going to go to university. I realised I didn't have the GCSE's even though I was accepted. Anyway, finance fell through and I didn't go.

The next year ( I think it was) I started at community college to get a level 2 in numeracy and literacy (equivalent to GCSE grade c) finished that then applied for university again but decided against it at last minute as didn't feel right to study that course.

I had left my job at sainsburys and my mental health decreased and was suffering with panic attacks a lot. I went on medication for anxiety and was suffering with depression as well; this went on for a long time and I totally lost my motivation and was just really depressed and in a dark place.

Also, now I hear I can't get into university with level 2 literacy and numeracy so therefore I need to study again for my GCSE's to get on to an access course, otherwise they won't let me on without them. I think that rule came in last year I believe.

This is why I want to change my life. I am just fed up of the way the situation is and want to become happy and successful for my own sanity, pride and confidence.

I understand I annoy a lot of you, but it's just me being indecisive and not really knowing what I want. I am not deliberately trying to wind people up.

jaylee3

Oh OK fair enough ^^^

But you must understand that (some) people get annoyed because you keep continually posting the same things over and over again, and it always involves an affair, or a fling, or an encounter with a much older woman.

People are just bored with reading it.

You must be getting bored with posting it, surely?

tea_lover

kingslayer wrote: »

This is why I want to change my life. I am just fed up of the way the situation is and want to become happy and successful for my own sanity, pride and confidence.

Read what you've posted here again. Slowly, read it again and really take it in. Do you think this is the best frame of mind to be looking for relationships in?

There's nothing wrong with having lost a bit of direction in life. You're obviously capable of working hard and focusing (as shown by your btec). I really think your best course of action for now would be step away from dating apps, focus on your gcse's and maybe look to expand your social circle. Not in a dating way though - maybe look at meetup, or other local groups.

Spend a few years putting yourself first - get some qualifications, make some new friends, get some hobbies. You'll then be in a far better position to start a relationship, knowing what you want from life and what you'll be able to offer someone.

Attain_by_suprise

kingslayer wrote: »

She is 41 and i met her on the same dating app i previously met another older woman on. She seems really nice, but her children are 17 and 19! I don't know how to feel about this. Her eldest is 7 years younger than myself. She said she's busy this week, so we have arranged to meet up next wednesday. She said she wanted to see the new inbetweeners film, and i don't mind seeing it, so i guess it'll be a cinema date with a drink before.

Do you think it's a bad idea for someone my age to get involved with older women? I mean this woman seems genuinely nice, but I always worry if things get serious what her children might think.

Reading this whole thread is pure comedy. You say you are 7 years older than her eldest so i assume you are 26? I'm 4 years older than you and when i was 26 i was out in afghanistan. My now wife was expecting our first child and she was born whilst i was out there. I never saw her until she was 5 months old and if something went seriously wrong i could of never saw my daughter. You are worrying about the opinion of a 17 year old and a 19 year old before you have even met this woman which is a joke. You are 26 years old and the way you go on makes me question if you even have any balls? Take my advice and heed what i say! You need to man up boy, get a job and stop worrying over absolutely nothing. I wish when i was your age all i had to worry about was the opinion of a 17 and 19 year old.

Stevie_Palimo

Another thing to consider here is that you go for it with the mother and if all fails then try it on with the daughter.

jaylee3

Stevie_Palimo wrote: »

Another thing to consider here is that you go for it with the mother and if all fails then try it on with the daughter.

Ewwwww.... :rotfl:

kingslayer

jaylee3 wrote: »

Oh OK fair enough ^^^

But you must understand that (some) people get annoyed because you keep continually posting the same things over and over again, and it always involves an affair, or a fling, or an encounter with a much older woman.

People are just bored with reading it.

You must be getting bored with posting it, surely?

Yeah, I do get bored posting it, mainly because I'd rather not be over thinking all the time. I think it's because there's limited advice elsewhere that I continue posting regurgitated stuff on here. After reading through my threads I understand where people are coming from, it does come off as troll behaviour and same rubbish. I guess I'm really not aware of my behaviour as much as I think.