Met an older woman...what am i doing?!

marisco_2

I think you are overthinking it all a bit. Jeez you haven't even been on the first date yet. Bit early to be worrying about what will happen if things were to get serious. Oh and at 17 and 19 they are not children, but young adults most probably focussed on their own lives and love interests, too busy to take that much notice of who their mum dates.

LilElvis

What are you doing?

Simple answer is that you keep expecting strangers to tell you what you should do in your life every time you have a conundrum.

What you should do is sign off from all forums and decide what you actually want from life and then take steps to achieve it. Put the question of relationships on the backburner and concentrate on finding a job which you feel is taking you where you want to go. When that side of your life is settled you will find that you will be in a far better place mentally and emotionally to be able to have a fulfilling relationship.

BrassicWoman

What are you doing? Attention seeking! Well done, it worked.

Caroline_a

Got a job yet?

kingslayer

LilElvis wrote: »

What are you doing?

Simple answer is that you keep expecting strangers to tell you what you should do in your life every time you have a conundrum.

What you should do is sign off from all forums and decide what you actually want from life and then take steps to achieve it. Put the question of relationships on the backburner and concentrate on finding a job which you feel is taking you where you want to go. When that side of your life is settled you will find that you will be in a far better place mentally and emotionally to be able to have a fulfilling relationship.

That's the problem, i don't know what i want. If i did i wouldn't be here looking advice. It is frustrating to say the least and is stressing me out.

I'm going for an assessment tomorrow to get on a gcse course to re-sit maths and english, but i'm sh*tting myself because I'm not good at maths, and i need to get my gcse's if i want to get onto an access course for university next year. However, even if i still can't decide what i want, i still want to retake these gcse's anyway.

BrassicWoman

No, you are attention seeking.

Go back, look at your old threads.

IMPLEMENT some of the advice you have already been given. There is plenty there already. You do not need any more, nor applause and cookies for every tiny decision you make.

kingslayer

Caroline_a wrote: »

Got a job yet?

not yet. I had an interview a week and half ago with BHS, but never heard back. I mean if BHS aren't going to hire me for a skivvy, general assistant position, then i have no hope.

I fear that the gap on my c.v. is ruining my chances tbh. I am applying for lots of different jobs online, but nothing is coming from them.

I don't want to go back on benefits either, but i need to see a careers advisor or someone who can lend a helping hand with this situation. I am seriously stressing out as i don't just need a job, i also need some bloody direction in life. I guess i keep thinking the advice will change on here. It's because my head is spinning at 100mph.

would i be able to see a careers advisor without being on benefits?

I think meeting up with these women is my way of masking the problem, i don't know. I just want to meet people, especially women, as I am not getting those interactions as much as i would like.

kingslayer

BrassicWoman wrote: »

No, you are attention seeking.

Go back, look at your old threads.

IMPLEMENT some of the advice you have already been given. There is plenty there already. You do not need any more, nor applause and cookies for every tiny decision you make.

what?! I am not attention seeking. if i wanted attention i would go dance in the middle of the high street.

okay, i understand to you that i may seem irritating, but i'm just really confused.

I am definitely not attention seeking.

fivetide

SailorSam wrote: »

Don;t go the cinema for a first date. First dates are to get to know each other, you can't talk in the cinema.

As an aside I actually think the cinema isn't a bad first date - the important thing is to go early and then go for food/a drink.

That way you have a good ice breaker because you can always talk about the film/play etc and move on from there.

Stevie_Palimo

Go for it as an older woman will teach you some new tricks and are far more, Having dated many an older woman I have found that the old saying goes with age comes experience and it sounds like you could do with this.


My only thought though is that she may eat you alive and spit you out afterwards.