Is this Right?

kelloggs36

Nobody has ever said that all fathers are useless - we all acknowledge that many are not but some are - just as there are some mothers who are equally useless and greedy - it cuts both ways, always has. People speak from their own experience - it just seems that many NRPs would do their utmost to avoid paying because of the number of PWC who have posted with this experience.

djdido2

rebbonk wrote: »

With the greatest of respect, (I have been watching thes boards for many months) many women only want the children as a meal ticket. My ex has constantly tried to bleed me dry for the last 15 years, and now she has no further need of "her" children she has thrown them out. Yes, good old dad is here to pick up the pieces, find acomodation for two teenagers, and show them how to feed and look after themselves. My ex wife never made any effort to care or look after the children, the facts of which are only now becoming clear. She even gandered off to america chasing after some bloke that she met on the net, leaving the children with anyone that would have them.

Don't get me wrong, I'm not bitter, but some of the trite things that get said on these boards seriously brass me off. Not all blokes are !!!!less fathers, some of us were denied the option. Equally please don't assume all mothers are good ones because they aren't

You are there dad so where were you when the mother was treating them so badly. If she ran off to the U.S with her head in the clouds you should have been there as a father to take your kids in. If you had to show them how to feed and clothe themselves as teenagers then you probably have not been a particularly good dad either have you?

kelloggs36

It never ceases to amaze me how many alleged terrible mothers there are out there who completely neglect their kids lol. Seriously, it obviously is sour grapes and bitterness which leads to such comments - I am sure that there must be some parents who do neglect their kids, but not the amount that we hear about from the NRPs who scream that their kids are being neglected because their maintenance money gets spent on the PWC. It isn't pocket money (as another poster said) it is to maintain their lives by feeding them and clothing them etc! I don't believe that these children aren't being fed for one minute! Nor walk around in rags all the time.

mrbnewc1

Interesting that, once again, fathers get the stick.

Let's face it, don't we all know some mothers who don't look after their children properly and use the money they're meant to spend on them on other things... like holidays for themselves, boyfriends and going out on the drink?

I certainly know a few....

MXW

mrbnewc1 wrote: »

Interesting that, once again, fathers get the stick.

Let's face it, don't we all know some mothers who don't look after their children properly and use the money they're meant to spend on them on other things... like holidays for themselves, boyfriends and going out on the drink?

I certainly know a few....

This could be by ex posting about me, he's said it often enough, despite the fact that he does not see his children, buys them nothing and has me in and out of court trying to avoid the child support (that obviously I use for drinking, clubbing and going on holiday!):rotfl:

djdido2

mrbnewc1 wrote: »

Interesting that, once again, fathers get the stick.

Let's face it, don't we all know some mothers who don't look after their children properly and use the money they're meant to spend on them on other things... like holidays for themselves, boyfriends and going out on the drink?

I certainly know a few....

You are missing the point aren't you???. If the mothers are not taking care of the kids properly then it is up to the father to try for custody of his kids or to ensure that they are not being neglected.

Most mothers have to spend there own money on there kids so the cash that comes from the NRP by rights just goes into a pot to deal with all household essentials that means the kids have a comfortable home life.

Why is it a problem for the mother to have a holiday, boyfriend or go for a drink, I wonder? Does life stop for the mother just because she is newly single???

Any real man would want to know that his kids are happy and well looked after.

mrbnewc1

MXW, I am not your ex and I don't have any children.

I absolutely agree that any proper father would want to make sure his kids are ok and go for custody, espcially in the circumstances I mentioned.

There is no problem with a new single mother having a holiday, but the point I was trying to make and maybe I should have made myself clear, is that there are plenty of mothers out there who receive money for their kids and let them go without the essentials, aren't happy and are not well looked after. I have seen this too many times.

It wouldn't be right for me to criticise anyone on here. I was making a general observation and putting forward my experiences from childhood, which I am entitled to do the same as anyone else on here.

El_Roi

Well I guess parents do want the best for their children. On my personal view, if you earn more, why not give more than what the law states? That way your ex and the kids would have a better life?

MXW

mrbnewc1 wrote: »

MXW, I am not your ex and I don't have any children.

I absolutely agree that any proper father would want to make sure his kids are ok and go for custody, espcially in the circumstances I mentioned.

There is no problem with a new single mother having a holiday, but the point I was trying to make and maybe I should have made myself clear, is that there are plenty of mothers out there who receive money for their kids and let them go without the essentials, aren't happy and are not well looked after. I have seen this too many times.

It wouldn't be right for me to criticise anyone on here. I was making a general observation and putting forward my experiences from childhood, which I am entitled to do the same as anyone else on here.

Well my own childrens experiences of life when they look back will be a mother that works 2 jobs to keep a roof over their heads and give them a decent standard of living (no holidays, drinking smoking etc etc) and a father who earns a very good living who has nothing to do with them and is doing his best to make our lifes a misery by taking me to court(I am currently in the middle of yet another court case) knowing full well that if he wins the case I will have to sell our home! I am sure there are mothers that do not do their best by their children, but this is a minority. I too am entitled to my opinion.

djdido2

MXW

What a nightmare for him to take you to court even though he has nothing to do with your children. He sounds just as spineless and spiteful as my ex. He does not want to see his son at all and has had no contact with him since October last year and then when he did it was an hour or two here and there when he could fit him in around his job and his frequent trips to the pub or to play golf.

I was making it my mission to chase up daddy for the sake of my son who asks for him on a daily basis. It is only when a friend pointed out to me that I was using up precious time trying to FORCE him to see his child and that is when I decided to stop.

Like you I am working really hard and have missed payments on my mortgage as I have not earned enough this month to cover the payment. I would walk to the end of the earth for my kids and will jump straight to defence when you get these idiots saying that the money they HAVE to give is being spent on the mother instead of the children. GRRRRRRRRR!!!!!!!!