My new boyfriend is a wonderful person but never offers to pay for anything

*max*

I'm curious as to what made the relationship "official" two months ago? You don't kiss, you barely touch, you don't see each other that often, you have to ask him to even text you...Are you sure he's actually your boyfriend??

trollopscarletwoman

He sounds like a virgin to me.

You could proactively relieve him of that.

If he doesn't want more then you know there's no future in the relationship.

summerspring

trollopscarletwoman wrote: »

He sounds like a virgin to me.

:rotfl: I think even virgins know how to text and make a phonecall.

I was going to suggest he might bat for the other side..

sassyblue

He sounds very odd to me. You keep saying it's not about the money but it's bothering you, as it would me. I'll probably get flamed but l actually wondered if he's gay.

trollopscarletwoman

sassyblue wrote: »

He sounds very odd to me. You keep saying it's not about the money but it's bothering you, as it would me. I'll probably get flamed but l actually wondered if he's gay.

That's exactly what my Mrs just remarked.

And nothing wrong, of course, if he is.

Two ways to find out.

The first is ask.

The second-well, I don't want to be indiscreet.

Having said that some people can go through the motions so that isn't always concrete evidence.

burnoutbabe

he is just a mate. Mate's generally go dutch. He is paying his share, so fair enough.

Errata

He isn't a boyfriend, he's an acquaintance and not even a close one.

egoode

The money thing while annoying wouldn't worry me as much as the lack of him showing any initiative that he's actually interested in you by calling or touching you. I'm generally a person that doesn't initiate calls with friends, evenings out etc because that's the type of person I am. However with my ex-boyfriend it was different as I wanted to do things for him and sometimes I just couldn't keep my hands off him and I was never an overly touchy feely person. It sounds to me he's not overly interested in you and as you don't seem to want to do all the work then he's clearly not a match for you. It really shouldn't be this hard 4 months in and you should be at the can't keep your hands off each other stage.

Indie_Kid

I don't understand why you're with him. And I thought someone I was sort of dating last year was stingy with money - he once turned up with no money and then told me.:mad:

kettlefish

I was my DH's first girlfriend; he was very immature. However I knew where I stood - he acted "boyfriend-y" from day one. Despite being completely skint he phoned me or emailed every day. He spent his last pound (literally) buying me a McFlurry on our first date (i didn't know it was his last pound, I just believed him when he said he wasnt hungry/thirsty) I don't think he doesn't understand how to behave with a girlfriend - I think he's not bothered enough to try.