Do men get broody?

moneyistooshorttomention

I agree that some individuals of both sexes get broody and obviously want children.

The one thing I don't understand is why both people don't say pretty early on in a relationship whether their views are for/against or not bothered either way. It helps to make sure both parties have exactly the same view either way and then neither of them is exerting unfair pressure to do what they want later on.

It really should be the case when a child is born that both parties wanted them/discussed it/now feel overjoyed they've both just been "granted their wish".

One of the reasons I finished with a very nice/caring/generous/etc/etc man was because it was very very clear he was broody and I was going to "stick to my guns" about not having children and didn't want anyone putting any pressure on me about such a major decision of mine. Nor did I want to deprive him of the chance of finding someone else who also wanted children (and he duly did have a couple subsequently and obviously thinks the "sun shines out of them".

tatabubbly

Yip, my OH is super broody!! But so am I! Getting married next September though and then it's making babies time.. I can honestly say we are both really looking forward to having little ones, however that may change when we are constantly woken up during the night!! Lol

MothballsWallet

I'm about as broody as a corpse.

Gra76

I wasn't 'broody' for any of our 3.

I thought the timing was right for the first one, the second one was unplanned and by the time she'd suggested a 3rd one I'd given up all resistance...

jtr2803

Unfortunately, most of the men I know of are very much in the 'it happened' or 'she wanted them' camp, I cannot think of a single man who wanted to have children, they just ended up with them one way or another and often tell us to stay child free and enjoy ourselves.....

Lily-Rose_3

jtr2803 wrote: »

Unfortunately, most of the men I know of are very much in the 'it happened' or 'she wanted them' camp, I cannot think of a single man who wanted to have children, they just ended up with them one way or another and often tell us to stay child free and enjoy ourselves.....

Don't believe a word of it.

Not what you're saying; what they're saying. I think in the case of these men; that's what they want people to think. I mean, think about it, is a man actually going to say 'I love my kids so much, they mean the world to me, they are my life...?!!' No! :rotfl: They probably think it, but would feel emasculated if they said it!

Must say though, I have never ever ever met a man personally, who has spoken like this (saying he was coerced, bullied, nagged into having children.) Hubby says his pals who have kids have never ever said anything about it only being 'her' who wanted them either!

I think it's actually pretty nasty for any man to tell ANYone that it was HER who wanted the kids and not him. And what a horrible nasty way to talk about your children! If any man DOES go around blathering about how he did not want the kids; it was the missus who bullied him into it, I hope the kids never hear him say it!

Gavin83

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I think it's actually pretty nasty for any man to tell ANYone that it was HER who wanted the kids and not him. And what a horrible nasty way to talk about your children! If any man DOES go around blathering about how he did not want the kids; it was the missus who bullied him into it, I hope the kids never hear him say it!

What if it is true? Men don't get the same choice as women, if an accident happens they'll have children regardless of if they wanted them or not. I know several men who had children when they had no desire to. One guy in particular had only been with his girlfriend for a few months when he announced she was pregnant and ironically was saying the week before he was ready to split with her.

I also know a few guys who pretty much talked their girlfriends/wives into having children as they were the much more broody party.

Neither me or my girlfriend want children and this was something we discussed pretty early on. I'm surprised most people don't discuss it as well.

Billie-S

Whatever the case, it's funny how everyone who doesn't want children, or who claims it was the wife/girlfriend who wanted theirs; all happen to know loads of people who were 'trapped' and 'bullied' into having them by their wife or girlfriend.

And everyone who has and likes children, all don't know a soul who has ever said they didn't want them.

Funny that! :rotfl:

Me personally, I have known of about 4 or 5 men whose girlfriends fell pregnant and the men became fathers, but claimed they didn't want the baby. But I do not know any married men who have children they didn't want.

I think that married men - with children - are far more likely to have wanted - and planned - their children with their wives.

I think there are far more men who wanted and planned their children, than there are men who had children they didn't want.

And why isn't anyone talking about women who may have been bullied/coerced into having children? It does happen you know! One of my cousins's friends was married for 7 years and eventually gave in to the harassment from her husband and his family, to have a baby. Then when their son was 6 months old, he left her for another woman! Didn't attempt to take the boy as the new G/F wouldn't want a screaming baby hanging around! He has seen his son three times in the year since he left.

Billie-S

Gavin83 wrote: »

What if it is true? Men don't get the same choice as women, if an accident happens they'll have children regardless of if they wanted them or not. I know several men who had children when they had no desire to. One guy in particular had only been with his girlfriend for a few months when he announced she was pregnant and ironically was saying the week before he was ready to split with her.

I also know a few guys who pretty much talked their girlfriends/wives into having children as they were the much more broody party.

Neither me or my girlfriend want children and this was something we discussed pretty early on. I'm surprised most people don't discuss it as well.

I think these all these men you know, who you claim had 'no desire to have children' should have been a lot more careful then. Serves them right for having sex without protection!

And these women didn't trap anyone into having a baby; it takes two to tango, and these men KNEW there was a pregnancy risk when they had sex with these women!

And one guy was ready to split with his girlfriend, and yet continued having unprotected sex with her?!

Unbelievable! :rotfl: You couldn't make it up!

Gavin83

Billie-S wrote: »

I think these all these men you know, who you claim had 'no desire to have children' should have been a lot more careful then. Serves them right for having sex without protection!

And these women didn't trap anyone into having a baby; it takes two to tango, and these men KNEW there was a pregnancy risk when they had sex with these women!

And one guy was ready to split with his girlfriend, and yet continued having unprotected sex with her?!

Unbelievable! :rotfl: You couldn't make it up!

I totally agree with you, protection should always be used. I didn't use the word trap either or in any way suggest that the women were in the wrong here, just making the point that the woman has more choice in the matter. I was also commenting on the poster who seemed to believe that a man who doesn't want children should suddenly change his mind when they turn up.

I do know of one guy who was in a relationship with a woman and she was on the pill. He didn't particularly want children but she ended up pregnant anyway. Turns out she'd stopped taking her pill and had failed to inform him. This is just wrong in my eyes, totally dishonest.

And in reference to your last comment I assume the unprotected sex happened before he was considering splitting. It takes a bit of time for a woman to realise she's pregnant after all.