Do men get broody?

Gavin83

They most certainly do. I have a number of male friends who are extremely keen to have children. A friend of mine had a baby this week and he has been overjoyed ever since the pregnancy was known about.

I'd like to think that no one has children purely to keep the peace in their relationship but in reality it probably does happen.

VestanPance

I wanted kids, but never had them. Lucky really as we split up.

I consider being childless the one true thing in life I'm missing out on by going single from here on in. Although if I'm being honest at 42 I'm too old to be starting a family anyway.

jaylee3

Gavin83 wrote: »

They most certainly do. I have a number of male friends who are extremely keen to have children. A friend of mine had a baby this week and he has been overjoyed ever since the pregnancy was known about.

I'd like to think that no one has children purely to keep the peace in their relationship but in reality it probably does happen.

Great post! :T

I think many men are glad to have children, and it seems unfair to suggest that men only have them because 'the wife wants one.'

notanewuser

I certainly didn't have DD to keep the peace, but with one partner wanting children and the other not sure either way it was going to be a sticking point for 10 more years or more. I never did decide to become a mum, I was in denial about pregnancy and would wake with surprise when I heard/sensed DD stirring for the first year. I'm a very relaxed mum, don't look into the future and just live to enjoy the moment with her.

But technically I suppose DH "won". :rotfl:

jaylee3

notanewuser wrote: »

I certainly didn't have DD to keep the peace, but with one partner wanting children and the other not sure either way it was going to be a sticking point for 10 more years or more. I never did decide to become a mum, I was in denial about pregnancy and would wake with surprise when I heard/sensed DD stirring for the first year. I'm a very relaxed mum, don't look into the future and just live to enjoy the moment with her.

But technically I suppose DH "won". :rotfl:

Aren't you glad he did though? :rotfl::T

Kynthia

In my circle of new mums, for those that planned their pregnancies half were at the insistence of the man.

notanewuser

Actually, thinking about it, my mum had me when she did because my dad wanted to be a dad by a particular age......

CH27

notanewuser wrote: »

No. I was very very nearly 33 when I had her.

She's SO perfect (not had a tantrum yet - touch wood!) I'm not keen on rolling the dice again and potentially getting a nightmare (like my younger sibling, who is still a complete PITA 33 years on!!!)

My mum always said if my younger sister had been the first she would be an only!

roobee13

I think it's down to the individual. I'm 30 and have never been broody, which many of my friends don't understand. My ex was desperate to have them but his (and his Dad's) constant nagging just made me dig my heels in. It was a factor in the split (there were many factors!)

I've been with my OH for nearly 2 years now and we're pretty certain we won't be having kids (he's also a little older than me). I'll never say never, as I might wake up one day and be desperate to have them, but I would also never 'force' someone to do something they don't want to do. We will cross that bridge if / when it comes!

However, other posters are right, I do know of a few guys who were a bit 'meh' about kids, ended up having them and are now amazing Dads. I also know guys who know/knew for certain they wanted kids. Down to the indivudal involved I guess!

sterl1ng

Lily-Rose wrote: »

What is this attitude (from some) that it's only women that get all cooey and broody, and men only agree to having a baby to 'keep the peace,' or 'for a quiet life,' and they are never really that happy with the situation. What a horrible depressing attitude.

I pity ANY woman married to (or in a relationship with) a man who had kids with her 'to shut her up' or because he had felt roped into it.'

I sincerely hope you are all kidding.

I have a feeling that in many cases, it's all bravado tbh, because my husband had a desire for wanting children, about 2 years after I did (by the time we were both in our early 30s,) and at that point, we agreed MUTUALLY to have one.

I fell pregnant 3 months after coming off the pill, and he cried with joy when I announced I was pregnant. (I told him when I was 10 weeks gone...) He smiled for a week and started planning the nursery instantly. He was utterly overjoyed, and as I said, he cried with joy when he found out.

He would never admit to that though, and I suspect that the same kind of thing is going on here.

To even suggest that you were 'roped into it' is somewhere between laughable and ludicrous, and plain offensive to your wife/partner, not to mention your poor children, who you are claiming you didn't actually want!

In answer to the original post, yes I believe that men DO get broody, but as someone suggested earlier, probably a bit later on (like late 20s...)

Yes the whole being 'roped into it' or 'to shut them up' I do find quite sad really and would hate to ever think that my partner would have a kid with me to shut me up but because he genuinely wants them!