Rubbish neighbours on both sides

Newlyboughthouse

One thing I should say about the way I politely asked him to stop, it was more banter as I did get along with him quite well, and his mates all take the mick. He didn't seem bothered, or to 'feel terrible'. So it wasn't so much 'bare faced cheek' rather, cheeky in a nice way...

Wow you guys are quick to judge without knowing full facts

HB58

bouicca21 wrote: »

Isn't the obvious thing about the throat clearing to send him back to the doctor? Untreated asthma, or a minor upper respiratory infection can cause this. I'd encourage him to keep going back until it gets sorted.

I think this is something a concerned friend should do, not the next-door neighbour.

anfieldred

Newlyboughthouse wrote: »

Hi all

Bought and moved into my house in August 2013 and all was wonderful, until about January 2014 when my neighbour got a new boyfriend who moved in. He has a throat clearing issue and constantly does it day and night. It really travels through the wall and makes my blood boil. I politely asked him to stop it and he was really nice about it first time, saying he'll try and do something about it. To be fair, he did go to the doctors and got some medication (which, by the sounds of it, has proved useless). I am pretty sure it is not a medical condition, rather some sort of nervous tick. Things have turned nasty when I asked him to calm it down again. Him and the girl kicked off at me (even though again I asked politely). He did then calm it down (proving that he can consciously stop it). What would you guys do/have you been in a similar position and what did you do?

So you complained about someone clearing their throat in their property? also, are you a doctor? how do you know he isn't going back for regular tests or doesn't want to disclose the real issue to a stuck up !!!!! next door?

You then moan that people react the way they have? any wonder?

Lord_Baltimore

A repetitive noise, whatever its cause, can be harmful to your health but this issue won't be resolved probably until either he or you move. Once you notice specific noise it's hard to get it out of your head.

I empathise that this guy has a medical problem but potentially so do you. Your mental health will suffer if you continue to remain in these circumstances. As it isn't realistic to expect him to stop coughing, your only other option is to move.

This may seem drastic; in a few months you'll probably come to realise it is the only, and very necessary, option.

As for the noisy weed smokers....call environmental health and/or the police.

Newlyboughthouse

anfieldred wrote: »

So you complained about someone clearing their throat in their property? also, are you a doctor? how do you know he isn't going back for regular tests or doesn't want to disclose the real issue to a stuck up !!!!! next door?

You then moan that people react the way they have? any wonder?

Ooooooh calm down! Had a bad day? I'd love to see you, or anyone else, put up with it. All I wanted was advice as to what everyone else would do, and now I have received it - cheers. Did you not see the bit about the banter?

P.s. grew up in council house, have done many things a stuck up person would never do. Gosh we do have some sensitive & delicate, yet judgmental, folk here. Easy behind a screen though hey! :rotfl:

Newlyboughthouse

Lord_Baltimore wrote: »

A repetitive noise, whatever its cause, can be harmful to your health but this issue won't be resolved probably until either he or you move. Once you notice specific noise it's hard to get it out of your head.

I empathise that this guy has a medical problem but potentially so do you. Your mental health will suffer if you continue to remain in these circumstances. As it isn't realistic to expect him to stop coughing, your only other option is to move.

This may seem drastic; in a few months you'll probably come to realise it is the only, and very necessary, option.

As for the noisy weed smokers....call environmental health and/or the police.

You're right - it's in my head and is all I can think about. Sorry that makes me a terrible person to everyone else

going_nowhere_fast

I think the op has had some unfair replies.

My interpretation of their post is that they are unhappy in their home because of their neighbours. I agree as annoying as it may be its wrong to ask your neighbour to stop clearing their throat but i can see how unpleasant it is for the op - i experienced a neighbour who did this but to the op it is better than loud music!!

As for the other neighbours so you could report the smell of drugs to the police and inform the council if there is nightime noise of music, loud tv, shouting etc.

I understand what the op means about having unemployed neighbours. There are lovely people who dont work but sadly there are a lot who dont go to bed at 'normal' times because they have nothing to get up for and whilst staying up late they are noisey - i have experienced that too and its a nightmare.

To the op, neighbours come and go so this might not be forever. Its prob a good idea to start saving for a detached house.

jaylee3

Newlyboughthouse wrote: »

One thing I should say about the way I politely asked him to stop, it was more banter as I did get along with him quite well, and his mates all take the mick. He didn't seem bothered, or to 'feel terrible'. So it wasn't so much 'bare faced cheek' rather, cheeky in a nice way...

Wow you guys are quick to judge without knowing full facts

But you never said ANY of this in your first post. I don't think you sound like a bigoted evil monster, but you do sound rather sarcastic and pedantic, and like you would be a bit of a nightmare neighbour TBH. Not so much from your FIRST post, as we are all entitled to get peed off with certain 'noises; but from your reactions and posts since!

Good luck. You'll need it!

[Deleted User]

Newlyboughthouse wrote: »

Wow - thanks for your help guys - I have learnt that I am a truly evil, bigoted, nasty, horrible person haha

Well, the way you wrote about your neighbours that you suspect are on benefits and out of work does rather scream bigotry, but anyway... Here's some advice:

And the weed (cannabis) smoke comes through our windows yes, so I'm afraid that is a problem.

Call the police. Get them to come round and smell it. Problem solved. Why have you not done this already?

Mickygg

Most of the responses on here to the OP are quite frankly terrible. All the OP asked for was advice.
Unfortunately OP on here a lot of people love to jump on the hate bandwagon and not help the thread one bit!!
I can understand it would be annoying but I wouldn't speak to them again about it. It really is the risk you take in living somewhere.....your neighbours. I had to move from my last house due to the 10-15 kids every night shouting and screaming outside my front door, it drove me insane.
Sometimes moving is the only answer.......however you could jump from frying pan into the fire.