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mhoc

I really don't want to stop him having fun. I am wondering what the draw is - travelling and Japan or a new set of mates to replace his UK mates. There is a girl but she's strictly a mate and I think he realises this.
What I don't want is payday to come around and he knows there is a big credit card bill to be paid mid month and then after living expenses more or less everything else is accounted for or spent and there are another 28 days to go.
28 days of every month and numerous sleepiness nights worrying about money is no fun - I think I've spent the most part of my adult life worrying as I imagine most people have and it is no fun.

Well I've had a response to the message I sent him yesterday and it was a thumbs up - that was it
So we are still at the him spending and me worrying stage.

mutley_muppet wrote: »

I can see you are trying to look out for him, but saving/ finances aren't always a priority for younger people. Maybe just have a quiet word and encourage him to keep an eye on his spending? Other than that all you can do is be there for him if he does end up broke?
But many of us have been broke and lived to tell the tale.

louj101

morning all x I know its been a long time again but thought I would log on and say hi to everyone xx


off to have a look at what I've missed....still cant do anything tho as im still suffering with back pain but its always nice to see how your all doing x


have a lovely day everyone xx

rose28454

fairclaire wrote: »

It's a *big sigh* we are good right now! but I know he lies to me. In the darkest moments he has asked me to let him go.....accept that what's in his head is so bad, it's better than being alive I I can't even imagine feeling that bad
I do get angry I do remind him he has children to think about. It is a selfish illness. I don't sleep because I wake up checking......every night. I thought things were better, and good. But he drank some wine last weekend and said he waits on opportunities for us all to fall asleep but I won't! I won't give him the opportunity

I feel for you. My oh suffered with it ( but is much better since ha gave up booze) and DD has it. I agree it is just as hard on the family. Last year when DD took overdose I was on red alert for months. Now it seems to be back due mainly to the stress of buying a house with DD and it dragging on. I did try to tell her at the outset in May that it would stress her out but she did not realise. However she has started going to gym this week and is actually eating better ( has lost more weight than she can afford to last 3 months) and seems a little better. I dont know how you cope with all that and your son and new visitor. You are a wonderful woman and I hope your family know that.

rose28454

Happy birthday Logie and Aau. 2 stalwart members of the thread!!

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helen4891

Good morning!!

Does ne one know if f&f (tesco) boys shoes last , I always buy Clark's and always get a year out of them, so was wondering if tesco shoes are ne good? My son doesn't play football, so don't have that problem.? Just thinking about saving money!!
Thanks

mhoc

Bananababe wrote: »

oh jings, bless, Im probably worst person to buy something for because I dont really need anything. SO unless ya wanna go mad and buy me a car or tickets to NY :rotfl::rotfl:

my favourite thing to get is a .... Mug.

See im easlily pleased really

Same here, impossible to buy for. I think I prefer small gestures so I know someone is thinking about me eg at OHs workplace there is a book exchange cupboard and OH found a huge book of photos of Liverpool and the history of the docks etc - perfect

Eldest child tends to buy things that look good on the present buying list eg for OHs birthday she bought some very yummy amaretto truffles from hotel chocolate in a very posh bag. They were fabulous. But in reality eldest child coming home for surprise visit was enough of a gift in itself and if she had brought the huge toblerones the size of a house OH would have been just as thrilled.

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helen4891 wrote: »

Good morning!!

Does ne one know if f&f (tesco) boys shoes last , I always buy Clark's and always get a year out of them, so was wondering if tesco shoes are ne good? My son doesn't play football, so don't have that problem.? Just thinking about saving money!!
Thanks

I've found my kids manage to trash them within a few months.
The last pair we had split on the sole underneath within a couple of months.
You get what you pay for I suppose, DS1 has been through 3 pairs of cheap shoes in the last year, I'd have been better off buying one expensive pair from clarks, his last pair of bootlegs (bought from brantanos) lasted the longest out of any shoes he's had.

wendyak

Morning Gang
hope all are well and managing with the difficulties of life and family, hugs to you all.
A quick question....do you think Aspergers and autism is inherent as I have said this to "specialists" and they get quite uppity about it, to the extent that I generally don't mention anything now.
Its just that my father had "problems" over sixty years ago but found his niche (and a good woman) and is "quite" stable now.
I have a brother that was label hyperactive but as an adult was dismissed from some great jobs for strange behaviour.
MY ds2 was on Ritalin at one stage and went to the only specialist at the time who did a clinic for this sort of thing (but was never given a diagnosis in words or paper).
Sorry for the ramblings but I still haven't got to the point.....my OH is having an op today and keeps telling the dog that he will die and other niceties.
I married him because he was exciting and interesting but he is more than a challenge and I wonder if I saw in him similarities that I had grown up with....don't get me wrong we have had a marvellous life but many friends have fallen along the way as he can be very wearing.
Sorry for the rambling but he is due in hospital at 11 and has just gone off to work "just for a minute", the lunatic