Money back for wedding dress

shazzab1

Hi we purchased our future daughter in laws wedding dress for her but now my ratbag son has called off the wedding leaving us £1000 worse off for the cost of the dress. I paid for it on my debit card do I have any recall on the card for the cost please?

peachyprice

No, you don't.

And you won't be able to claim on wedding insurance (if they have it). Losses for disinclination are not covered.

Looks like your son owes you £1000. Have you asked his ex for it back so that you can sell it?

sulphate

No.

You probably won't get anywhere near £1000 if you sell it second hand either.

Raspberry_beret

As the others have said no recall on the card. It might be worth speaking to the shop it was purchased from to see if they'd buy it back (at a reduced rate)? And i agree, I'd ask your son to cover it! Not sure of the exact sitch and he may well be a ratbag but much better to call the wedding off now than go through with something he didn't feel was right so he may have done a very hard but right thing...

Lily-Rose_3

Another post to confirm my beliefs that parents should not foot the bill for their offspring's weddings. If a couple want to get married, then they should foot the bill themselves. Then any loss incurred will be theirs. IMO, this is a tradition that does not belong in this century.

You will probably not ever get this money back. Also, £1000 is an extortionate price to spend on a dress anyway. It's all very well spending stupid amounts on stuff (like wedding dresses and the engagement ring,) and it's all fun and games until something goes wrong in the relationship. If people didn't spend insane amounts of money, then people wouldn't be so angry and bitter.

I know several couples who broke up several weeks/several months before the wedding day, and they lost SHEDloads on deposits and stuff already bought. (I'm talking 5 figures...)

Weddings are a colossal waste of money IMO. If it's going over 2.5-3 grand in total, for everything (including the honeymoon,) then it's too much.

In answer to the original question, you have no right to this money back. Just try and sell it on ebay. You'll be lucky if you get a third back though.

NAR

As well as Raspberry's comments above, divorce would be far more costly in a year or two's time.

harrys_dad

What happened to the engagement ring? How much was it? Who paid for it? This is much more likely to achieve something closer to its original value than the dress. Hopefully your son paid for the ring, his ex gave it back, and you can sell it to recoup your losses.

victory

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Another post to confirm my beliefs that parents should not foot the bill for their offspring's weddings. If a couple want to get married, then they should foot the bill themselves. Then any loss incurred will be theirs. IMO, this is a tradition that does not belong in this century.

You will probably not ever get this money back. Also, £1000 is an extortionate price to spend on a dress anyway. It's all very well spending stupid amounts on stuff (like wedding dresses and the engagement ring,) and it's all fun and games until something goes wrong in the relationship. If people didn't spend insane amounts of money, then people wouldn't be so angry and bitter.

I know several couples who broke up several weeks/several months before the wedding day, and they lost SHEDloads on deposits and stuff already bought. (I'm talking 5 figures...)

Weddings are a colossal waste of money IMO. If it's going over 2.5-3 grand in total, for everything (including the honeymoon,) then it's too much.

In answer to the original question, you have no right to this money back. Just try and sell it on ebay. You'll be lucky if you get a third back though.

Crumbs a little bit unnecesary harsh reply:eek: someone's had a bad day;) however much they wanted to spend is up to them, they are asking if they can get it back not whether spending £1,000 on a deposit is a lot of not:D

sulphate

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Another post to confirm my beliefs that parents should not foot the bill for their offspring's weddings. If a couple want to get married, then they should foot the bill themselves. Then any loss incurred will be theirs. IMO, this is a tradition that does not belong in this century.

You will probably not ever get this money back. Also, £1000 is an extortionate price to spend on a dress anyway. It's all very well spending stupid amounts on stuff (like wedding dresses and the engagement ring,) and it's all fun and games until something goes wrong in the relationship. If people didn't spend insane amounts of money, then people wouldn't be so angry and bitter.

I know several couples who broke up several weeks/several months before the wedding day, and they lost SHEDloads on deposits and stuff already bought. (I'm talking 5 figures...)

Weddings are a colossal waste of money IMO. If it's going over 2.5-3 grand in total, for everything (including the honeymoon,) then it's too much.

In answer to the original question, you have no right to this money back. Just try and sell it on ebay. You'll be lucky if you get a third back though.

Honestly, isn't up to the parents if they WANT to contribute to the cost of a wedding? The OP has done that, but perhaps should have done so with the knowledge that she may not get her money back if the relationship fails.

If someone wants to spend more than £3k, or £10k, or £50k, on their wedding, that's up to them. If their parents want to contribute, again that's up to them.

harrys_dad wrote: »

What happened to the engagement ring? How much was it? Who paid for it? This is much more likely to achieve something closer to its original value than the dress. Hopefully your son paid for the ring, his ex gave it back, and you can sell it to recoup your losses.

Etiquette generally states that if the man broke off the wedding, the woman keeps the ring. Engagement rings are given as gifts, and don't technically need to be returned to the gifter.

ska_lover

Lily-Rose wrote: »

I know several couples who broke up several weeks/several months before the wedding day, and they lost SHEDloads on deposits and stuff already bought. (I'm talking 5 figures...)

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Judging from the bitterness oozing from this post, were you one of them?

Tiddlywinks

Why on earth would the card issuer be responsible for refunding a perfectly legitimate transaction?

Get your son to foot the bill.

BTW, the engagement ring is considered a gift and does not need to be returned... and given that the son called the whole thing off, that would surely be adding insult to injury for the ex if you were to suggest she sell the ring to cover some of the expenses.