Money back for wedding dress

gunsandbanjos

Tiddlywinks wrote: »

Why on earth would the card issuer be responsible for refunding a perfectly legitimate transaction?

Exactly, why the heck should the card issuer be responsible?

marywooyeah

I echo the others - there's no chargeback to your debit card, I think OP may be thinking of the s75 credit card refunds but then again that's usually in the event of a faulty product.

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Another post to confirm my beliefs that parents should not foot the bill for their offspring's weddings. If a couple want to get married, then they should foot the bill themselves. Then any loss incurred will be theirs. IMO, this is a tradition that does not belong in this century.

Although this post is quite harsh I do agree with the first part - if couples are old enough/responsible enough to be getting married they should pay for it themselves.

I think that part of getting married is showing you've independently made a considered decision to enter into a lifetime partnership so you should enter it on your own two feet, not funded by your parents and/or your parents in law. I think it also teaches lessons about money; have the wedding you can afford to pay for, not one subsidised by your parents.

I suppose I think this way as I've never had any financial help from either of my parents and paid for my wedding myself, I'm sure others would disagree.

OP I hope you get something back for the dress, have you looked on preloved.com? I sold lots of my wedding stuff on there x

skintchick

It's your son you should be looking at here, not anyone else. He called it off, so he has to sort out the financial mess that leaves.

Blindsided_2

As others have said I would be asking my son to foot the bill, or if he paid for the engagement ring, it should be returned to him and sold to pay you back

skintchick

Blindsided wrote: »

As others have said I would be asking my son to foot the bill, or if he paid for the engagement ring, it should be returned to him and sold to pay you back

The ring belongs to the woman. He gave it to her as a gift and has now jilted her - why should she give it back? He needs to pay his parents out of his own pocket, and I'd say he also owes his ex-fiancee for anything she had had to pay for, for the wedding, too.

Carl31

Lily-Rose wrote: »

Another post to confirm my beliefs that parents should not foot the bill for their offspring's weddings. If a couple want to get married, then they should foot the bill themselves. Then any loss incurred will be theirs. IMO, this is a tradition that does not belong in this century.

You will probably not ever get this money back. Also, £1000 is an extortionate price to spend on a dress anyway. It's all very well spending stupid amounts on stuff (like wedding dresses and the engagement ring,) and it's all fun and games until something goes wrong in the relationship. If people didn't spend insane amounts of money, then people wouldn't be so angry and bitter.

I know several couples who broke up several weeks/several months before the wedding day, and they lost SHEDloads on deposits and stuff already bought. (I'm talking 5 figures...)

Weddings are a colossal waste of money IMO. If it's going over 2.5-3 grand in total, for everything (including the honeymoon,) then it's too much.

In answer to the original question, you have no right to this money back. Just try and sell it on ebay. You'll be lucky if you get a third back though.

Streuth

so.....not a fan of marriage then?

payless

OP has not lost £1000.
They would have spent the £1000 if the wedding had gone ahead.

Blindsided_2

skintchick wrote: »

The ring belongs to the woman. He gave it to her as a gift and has now jilted her - why should she give it back? He needs to pay his parents out of his own pocket, and I'd say he also owes his ex-fiancee for anything she had had to pay for, for the wedding, too.

I always thought an engagement ring was given as a promise of marriage, if that marriage didn't go ahead I would be giving it back, regardless of the circumstances, (and I have done)

Assuming he paid for it

pleasedelete

If the wedding is called off by the other half you get to keep the ring. You only give it back if you cancel the wedding.

If I was her I would sell both the ring and the dress (if she has it) and go on a good holiday.

lika_86

Blindsided wrote: »

I always thought an engagement ring was given as a promise of marriage, if that marriage didn't go ahead I would be giving it back, regardless of the circumstances, (and I have done)

Assuming he paid for it

I always thought that an engagement ring was equivalent to a deposit put down so that once engaged then nice girls could engage in pre-marital stuff on the quiet with the ring being compensation for them being spoiled goods if the wedding didn't go ahead, in days gone by anyway.

I think now, unless the ring is a family heirloom (in which case it's normally a conditional gift, the condition being marriage) then it's normally seen as a gift. Unless of course it's the woman breaking off the engagement in which case returning the ring would be the least that would generally be expected.