Un-Married Parents - Whose Surname Does Your Child Have and Why?

ska_lover

Strange thread..

moomoomama27

jumpingjackd wrote: »

Interesting to read this, we have two granchildren, one on theway and they are giving the fathers name on birth certificate, my husband is very opposed to this andfeels they should have the mothers name if they are not married. While not as vehement as him, I do agree. School for example and you could have fourish different surnames in one family

I agree, I would never have wanted to be referred to as mrs xxxxx via a school phone call, or assumption!

Dozey_crow

moomoomama27 wrote: »

I agree, I would never have wanted to be referred to as mrs xxxxx via a school phone call, or assumption!

Yes I was wondering about this. My friend has been with the same man for 12 years.. He didn't "want to marry her" and definately did not want children with her despite being aware that she desperately wanted both. Anyway one day she day him down and said that having children was a 'make or break' thing for her and he reluctantly agreed to try.. She got pregnant almost immediately and he was not exactly delighted..

When the child came he insisted it has his name so she had a much longed for child and a different surname to the rest of her family? I think she should have stood her ground on that one especially as, surprise, surprise his not dad of the year either!

Each to their own though I guess!

Spirit_2

I am married but kept my maiden name.

Our daughter has my husband's surname.

I later added his surname to mine and use it in social settings. I liked us sounding as one family unit at school etc

iammumtoone

when ds was born I was with his father (not married), he didn't want ds to have his surname, it was me who persuaded him for ds to have his name I didn't want to be viewed as a single mother

i now am a single mother with a different name to my son and get called by he school Mrs (exes name) :mad:

Sometimes I regret my decision and wish I let ds have my name and other times I am glad he has his fathers name as having his name means he is still apart of him even if he is no longer living with us ifswim.

PlymouthMaid

I just put up with the school occasionally calling me Mrs XXXXX as it really wasn't that important to me.

djdido2

Interested to know why the OP is asking the question?

sulkisu

Our three have my surname. They have OH's name as one of their middle names. OH is West African with a tongue twisting surname, whereas mine is unusual but easy to spell and pronounce. Also, although he is a great father, I seem to be the one that does all of the official stuff - registering them at doctors, nursery, taking them to hospital appointments etc., so having my name makes things much easier. His ex (who has two children with him) has six children with five biological fathers - all have different surnames.

springdreams

My DS has my last name.

When they are born the hospital will in any event call the baby by the last name of the mother, so my DS was baby springdreams.

In my opinion, if it is so important to the father for his children to bear his last name he should marry their mother before the children are born, not just make noises about doing so one day

pleasedelete

I know a child who just keeps getting names added- I assume not legally but used at school
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Child Mumsname- dadsname- mums new partner